My mom always tells me to lose weight :(

Catalinacataline:
The truth is, sometimes I feel distrustful of my body because of my mother, she always tells me that I am very fat and it depresses me that she says those things to me, so I get depressed and start to eat more. Sometimes I say that I am going to go to the gym but I never do. I do and well of the rest when I do not receive complaints from my mother I feel good with my body and I like it and I accept myself as The worst thing is that I'm like this because of my own mother. When I was little, I was very skinny, I didn't gain weight, I hardly ate. My mother started giving me vitamins, so now I wouldn't stop eating, I stopped the pills and I kept eating and didn't stop until now. ..


You are very fat. This is not a bad thing.

I'm sure your mother is saying this out of love. However, you need to decide what is right for you.

I'm not saying ignore your mother. Instead, decide how much, of any of what she is saying is worth listening too. Then, make sure you firmly establish your boundaries with her.
2 years

Relatively pointless trivia

Fivv:
Just thought I’d ask some dumb questions I always find interesting to discuss. What are peoples favourite heroes and villains of fiction. Also if you were in a piece of fiction what role do you think you’d play?


My favorite superhero is Brainiac 5.

My favorite supervillain is Harley Quinn (if you can ever consider her a villain).

If I had a part to play in a piece of fiction, I'd like to be that character that gets a few seconds of screen time, is doing their own thing, and is doing pretty well overall. They inspire the protagonist in some way and live in peace.
2 years

My birthday!

SSBBW Summer:
It's my birthday tomorrow... I would say I can't wait to pig out but I do that everyday. 😈

I'll just have to stuff like I've never stuffed before! ❤


2 years

Code word to identify people in the community?

JohnnyRocket:
I was talking to a woman on a regular dating site this one time. And her username was overtly feedist related. So we're talking. I don't bring anything up. And then she goes, "oh, btw. Just so you know I'm not into that. It's actually a band name."

And it was.


Well, share with the class. What was the band?
2 years

Body change

Falcor:
What is hotter, seeing your partner’s body changes over time or seeing how your body changes?


Ex-gainer turned feeder here. My partner's body changing every time.

Oddly enough, it's a turn on for me if he is gaining or losing weight.
2 years

Code word to identify people in the community?

JohnnyRocket:
There's a shirt that says, "Feed me and tell me I'm pretty".


It's glorious, lol. But also, a lot of normies vibe with the shirt too.
2 years

Code word to identify people in the community?

Grazeguzzlegorge:
I don’t have a specific code word as such but I do have phrases and behaviours that may signal being a feedist. These include:

1) Expressing a love of food in a vanilla-ish foodie manner.

2) Owning the fact I can be a glutton and have to hold myself back when around food I enjoy (one of the great joys of feedism is to forgo this restriction).

3) Not be concerned around weight gain. If it’s a choice between enjoying delicious food or having a slimmer figure then food wins every time.


Eh, that's not a very obvious way to tell. A lot of plus-sized normies are like this too.
2 years

Loving your body in public

Ilovebeingobese:
Recently I went to a spa type place with outdoor hot tubs and saunas. I wore tight swim shorts and let my belly hang out in all its glory. I rubbed my belly, jiggled it, did everything I could to emphasize its size. Hoping I would get at least one comment. And honestly. Nobody cared. No dirty looks no comments no whispers. Nothing. Take from that what you will. Maybe it will help you feel more confident.
I was kind of sad lol.


I would like to think that most people aren't jerks.
2 years

Questions about stretch marks

Fireduct:
There was a time last year where I was really focused on gaining. Did heavy cream and everything. I put on about 20lbs in a few months. I eventually dialed it down and stabilized at that weight. Whats weird is that I only started to get stretch marks months after my weight gain. Is that typical? I understand stretch marks can come from rapid weight gain, but even months after i stopped gaining?

Also been having a whole bunch all over from thighs, to love handles, to under belly, and even under my arm all ranging in different colors and sizes. But weirdly enough the only ones that hurt are the ones on my bicep. Do stretch marks hurt for other people as well?


Stretch marks aren't so much a sign of rapid growth as they are a sign of gaining faster than your skin can keep up. So your skin tears a bit. This causes stretch marks.

If they hurt, I would wager you don't have a very good skin care regime. It's important to keep your skin well moisturized. I'd also recommend seeing a dermatologist.
2 years

Code word to identify people in the community?

Fireduct:
Ive been on the site for while but idk if I missed the memo or something. Is there some kind of codeword to tell if someone is also part of this community in public? Or do people just blatantly ask “hey are you into feederism?” Or instead just wear a shirt that says feedee lol and wait to see who recognizes the word?


There's been talk about it for years now, but nothing seems to have been decided. I've seen ideas for tattoos, hand signs, code words, ect. There's even a flag.

But, at this time, the only way to know is to ask.
2 years