Faithinstrangers19:
I often wonder how many people around the world are actually into feedism.
When I look at my message history here and on feabie and Kik and shit plus on previous accounts I’ve had conversations with maybe 500 people.
I’d say roughly 90% have deleted their accounts, whilst 6% are just inactive and 2% come online irregularly and the remaining 2% seem to still be active in the community.
That’s not an exaggeration at all by the way
It makes me a bit sad to think how many hundreds of thousands, or maybe millions of people are suppressing this kink, people who could be connecting with others and potentially enjoying it in a measured way.
There’s a whole range of reasons for leaving which I don’t need to go into but it just hit me because I was chatting to someone who seemed to have a very grounded take on this fetish and they told me “don’t worry I know how to balance this fetish with my life and I’m not going anywhere” abs sure enough they just deleted their account.
It makes me question why I should bother connecting with anyone who isn’t local (even then they usually leave before I can connect with them)
Do you feel like anything could be done to encourage users to stick around? Maybe being harsher on users who have been reported for harrassment? Maybe more of us have to reach out to people and chat more genuinely about how they’re going? Maybe you should have to earn the privilege to message people? Or maybe this is just how it is.
I've had no less than 100 people agree to meet up and flake out.
I've been here forever, I'll tell you what the problems are, not just here but other places too.
1) they let people set up a profile without filling it out. If you force people to complete a profile 50% of the scammers would stop.
2) there is no real punishment to those that get in trouble. You get a timeout.
3) maybe not here but as soon as you let one person start begging for money or advertising their "content", it opens the door for everyone to say, hey I want that too.
4) not this site, but another app, has no real advertising for it. It consolidated its app into one big one stop thing. It doesn't highlight this culture enough and it sends mixed messages thinking you might have to be into other fetishes too.
5) I know we are in a pandemic. But we need to get back into potentially doing meet ups, picnics, socials, or even sponsored eating contests. You'll never get rid of the beggars, but if you start building real relationships others will see. Itll stop the culture of login, masterbate and leave. Friendships and real relationships could form. I'd volunteer to moderate or have other verified people keep it safe. Post pandemic I like this idea.
6) start a community pool of cash of those wishing to meet but are too far apart. I'd donate a couple bucks every now and then if it helps people meet and grow so be it. I'd much rather give my money towards that than a video of someone eating in their moms basement.
7) improve communication tools. The chat here is atrocious. If I check a text I basically have to re-enter everything. For verified members who agree, why not have a video chat? The other competitor has no chat, and its messaging system on its app is clunky and awkward.
8) keep advertisements for models and content off the main tabs and feeds, and give them their own. You dont think the same guy who buys content isnt gonna offer money for it and click one tab over. Allow the models and content creators to "buy in" and let them post some freebies to gain new customers. Keeping them in plain site blurs the mission of this place. Plus, every girl/woman hears about someone getting free stuff or how much they make, and suddenly they want one too. On another site, I saw 10 straight posts for content. No wonder people dont hang around. They think it's a porn site or feel like they have to do that. Suddenly people who are here put of curiosity leave due to the bold shit they see.
Keep them separate, but give them a platform.
9) round the clock moderators. Find one competent person or persons to act as a moderator for these sites. Many sites have a lag. It creates problems, as lack of response time allows people to in real time post issues and potential harassment. This makes people leave.
10) more informative content, maybe even guerrilla marketing. The more visibility the more people join. More potential premium members. Put an ad on other dating sites. Introduce this as a lifestyle people can opt into and try. Sell the dream.
11) the search feature here is hands down the worst. Its inaccurate and operates like a fucking Microsoft Access chart from an early edition of Windows. People can't find what they are looking for if they cant search For it.
12) lastly, start a rewards program. If you refer a member you'll be entered in to win free food, gifts, or a free premium
