That's what I'm going to do, I realised it's going to bring me the most enjoyment.

I'll probably keep going to the gym like I have been but I'll drop the cardio, keep the weights( another positive:]) and eat more of what I love

Thanks for the advice 🙏


I saw your post and I wish you luck on your journey

Before this begins I'd like to say I understand it's common for people to dislike giving advice for someone they don't know at all and that is 100% rational and I do have an understanding that this at the end of the day is my decision but I really am in the middle on this.


Some background info: I'm a guy that can easily get fat but also can lose weight if I choose to. In the past year with the aid of my ex i went from 95kg(209lbs) to 120kg(260lbs), I got tons of stretch marks and I was happy about that and the weight gain but after the uni(college) break and break up(relationship) where i gained 10kg(22lbs) of the total a lot of my friends and family were telling me to slim down and due to my indifference( not due to judgement) for gaining or losing I started going to the gym and have lost a lot of fat and am at the point where if I continue to lose weight I'm going to need to buy new clothes.

I've always thought about fully committing on my own, and now that I'm single again I thought it could be the right time but have never had the nudge to just commit too it on my own, I'm mentally strong enough to not let friends and family sway my decisions if i were to truly commit but need someone to tell me to either slim down, commit( my goal would be a belly hang... +≈25kg(60lbs)) or stay where i am (109kg(240lbs)). I know where I'm posting this and the bias and irony is not lost on me and there is definitely a higher chance that people will tell me to gain weight then lose it but whatever.

Ps. Sorry for the long winded 'essay' and please let me know your thoughts no matter whether your telling me to gtfo the site or telling me to commit

Thanks in advance