Bigdoug:
The genetic component of being fat is not a belief, it’s a scientific fact! That doesn’t mean that relationship with food as a learned behavior is not an important component as well. People who are not genetically predisposed towards fat also get fat. In that case it’s exclusively behavioral. However, there are plenty of chubby people out there whose behavior is not weight inducing and yet they struggle to control their weight. Don’t know why this is such a “controversy”?!

Morbidly A Beast:
I don’t believe in such a thing as a raw fact, in any sense, but genetics in and of themselves have some expletive power but they do not tell the whole story of a person. Genetics are largely a racist social Darwinist mode of determinism.

I simply do not believe there’s a genetic basis to being fat. height, muscle mass, bone density these are environmental and developmental/social aspects, and genetics are only 50%

It’s not controversial, im not the one pressing you. You’re pressing me. You brought it back up I just disagree.

Bigdoug:
So, on one hand you’re claiming that genetics have nothing to do with weight, on the other hand you’re saying they are only 50%! Which one is it, because it simply can’t be both!
Also, genetics themselves are not racist, social Darwinism or determinism. That’s just how some people unfortunately use or interpret genetics. Eye color is genetically determined, saying green eyed people are better than blue eyed people is racist (just for the sake of this argument).
I really don’t care whether you personally “believe” in genetics, just tired of the currently widespread and fashionable (in some circles) anti science sentiments!

Bigdoug:
The genetic component of being fat is not a belief, it’s a scientific fact! That doesn’t mean that relationship with food as a learned behavior is not an important component as well. People who are not genetically predisposed towards fat also get fat. In that case it’s exclusively behavioral. However, there are plenty of chubby people out there whose behavior is not weight inducing and yet they struggle to control their weight. Don’t know why this is such a “controversy”?!

KlondikeBar:
I am curious what if one of your parents is skinny and the other is overweight? I used to be skinny but eventually became fat. I am considering on losing weight.

Edit: Actually, I think my dad wasn't originally overweight. Both of his parents were skinny. But eventually he became chubby.

Munchies:
Wanna point out that you ate so much that you herniated a rib.

You might not be an accurate example of "standard"

Supersizeher27:
I'm currently in a really amazing relationship. It taught me a lot about myself. However, one thing it taught me is that what I once thought was a slight feedism/fat kink actually seems to be a full-blown fetish that I can't shake. We've talked at length about it for a very long time and they tried gaining for a bit, but long story short, they really don't like it and do not want to gain more, which I completely understand and respect. This has left me in an interesting position. I love them so much and they are so perfect for me in every other way, but I've realized that I can barely engage with them sexually without having fantasies that result in me desperately wanting them to be fat (they are not) or gain weight. I am unsure what to do, this fetish not being satisfied is genuinely causing me a good amount of distress and I'm obviously not going push them to do something they don't want to do.

So, I'm left with a horrible choice. Do I stay with them? I can't imagine not being with them, but having to deal with this strange desperation for... fatness is very draining. I have talked about this so much with them (they have been amazingly patient and I am so grateful and feel so bad), and we are both at our wits end. I have never been with someone who is not skinny before, which makes it even harder because I don't really know what the alternative really is outside of fantasy. I want to know if anyone else here has had similar experiences, and for anyone (especially feeders) who have experience with actual feedism relationships, what would you do, and is being in such a relationship as good as my fantasies tell me? Thanks.

Also, one more thing, is it normal to feel the kind of distress I am feeling for not being able to engage with this fetish? I am worried that maybe it is not, and other people would not be this affected by it and so perhaps there is a deeper problem.

Letters And Numbers:
Potentially unpopular view incoming:

I don’t know (or want to know) what your porn habits are, but if you’re spending a lot of your time on sites that cater to any fetish or your algorithm on TikTok is constantly feeding you fetish content that hits your dopamine receptors in exactly the right place, youre probably getting a pretty slanted view of the world. I’m not an expert, but this community is pretty tiny. There just aren’t that many people who are into it. It’s niche. So if you really think the grass is greener, look at some of the stories of how hard it is for other users to find partners who share the kink. It sounds like you have a partner you love and are compatible with. That’s hard to find too. But you already found them. The secret ingredient might be unplugging from what’s frying your dopamine receptors. By all means, use this website responsibly, but if you think it’s a negative influence in your life — unplug, and that goes for a bunch of other sites, too. I know it’s hard when the app that shows you songs and funny cat videos will also show you individualized fetish content. We’re probably doomed as a species.

We’ve had a few of these threads lately and I wonder if it has to do with the change in seasons and everyone being indoors more.