Morbidly A Beast:
I’m not talking about hypothetical abuse I’m talking about actual reported abuse or like people being abusive for the world to see in a public space.
That’s why I likened it to women talking about being harassed. While it’s different the same actions should be taken.
Enas:
The example i gave with moderators asking for proof is the most realisitic example i can think of.
I have a suspicion most of the abuse happens in private. That's because a lot of the time the abuse is narcissistic and narcissists are self-aware about not showing their true colors in public.
With public harassment things are very simple because everyone, aside from incels codnems it. No justification, or hell, not even an accusation needs to happen. Except for legal reasons (like so, police can arrest the person who harassed, if that is suposed to happen). Beyond that we'd talk about systemic problems.
I don't know why you bring twitter as an example, people there go through much more abuse, missinformation, etc.
Even offense can be justified. For example if you accuse someone of abuse, and that is a negative quality (which of course it is), that -definitionally- is an insult to his character. The fact that its true doesnt negate that. Why is this importand, though?
Because you *have* to judge if an offense is justified or not. That may be easy if you have first experience of the event that lead to the offense, but its hard if you dont. Most people judge with what feels right, not what is logically right.
All these details are why i think the rules are too shallow btw. They don’t consider all this nuance and its left to the mods' personal judgement ability, which no matter who the moderator is, it will always have room for improvement.
There is more to add too. For example i would really appreciate it if this community cared more for the mental health of its members in order to help them become resilient, rather than take an approach which leads to *only* catering to peoples inabilities, and often those inabilities compromise the social health of a community (leading to people being bitter about each other, etc)
This sounds like a bunch of word salad to justify people being hurt by overt racism.
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Morbidly A Beast:
Well you’ll be very happy if and when you decide to get big and fat because despite being a fat straight man most of my admirers are fit gay men so w you.
I’m not complaining mind you it’s just I’m not into guys
TheUltimate323:
That sounds good. So you're saying that many fit gay men love obese men.
I hope I can grow into a very obese body and find a fit boyfriend who loves my enormous fatness.
yes, that is exactly what I’m saying
I wish you all the luck
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I find it funny that i knew what I did two years ago and I still hold to it, I think a lot of men just have really bad expectations and have a really bad un-evaluated sense of entitlement when entering a space like this.
It’s giving main character syndrome. It’s giving “I had no luck on the apps” vibes.
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X/twitter is terrible for alot of reasons but if you say terrible and offensive things your account is suspended for up to 7 days, why should people here be subject to more abuse when we are here to talk about being/admiring fat?
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I’m not talking about hypothetical abuse I’m talking about actual reported abuse or like people being abusive for the world to see in a public space.
That’s why I likened it to women talking about being harassed. While it’s different the same actions should be taken.
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you people need to change something about the block feature. People shouldn’t be able to see or interact with someone at all if they block them.
and stop deleting threads when someone gets utterly dejected for being a creep/weirdo.
This stuff isn’t acceptable and any social media company would do something about it we’re just locked here because we’re fat / love fat people, it doesn’t mean we should suffer abuse.
Please add a like feature to the forum posts.
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when the roles and folds appear while you’re standing that always existed while bending or sitting and you develop new rolls and folds on top of the old ones
Buttoning pants isn’t an option bc your belly blocks your reach unless you wear your pants like a goober
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Well you’ll be very happy if and when you decide to get big and fat because despite being a fat straight man most of my admirers are fit gay men so w you.
I’m not complaining mind you it’s just I’m not into guys
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I don’t think someone needs justify themselves when they feel they are being discriminated against just like a woman feeling harassed doesn’t need to justify their belief it’s what they feel. Does that make sense?
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So you accept that it’s unacceptable for women to be harassed, good. My contention is that it is different but not dissimilar to someone being discriminated against, thus it to being bigoted is an unacceptable behavior do you follow?
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