Hi am I reading your question as how you have the size you want, regardless of pressure from external stuff like friends, family and peers. When you find it hard to negotiate those pressures. Is that correct.

Absolutely, it’s a real changing prospective on things. Every is getting smaller I just normal for me.

From your point of view you only look down, and really only at you front. You do not see your full width or depth. Unless in a photo or mirror. And even then it’s most by yourself.

It’s the group pic, or the shop window reflection that gives sence of my size for some reason, then I think holy crap I am huge. With a smile.

This in my experience this is no dating site. I am realistic about it. Like any forum you have a mix of motivation to be here, people here to look, discuss, satisfy curiosity, get turned on, and some out for encounters. And like any site, those out for personal advantage, or worse to do harm. But that life, no need to leave unless it not doing anything for you.

On the relationship front, this is a kink site, it’s going to be pretty shallow I think mostly. Relations are not kinks, I am not sure how you change that dynamic, more experienced people than me.


The only FFA that contacted me, just turned out to some content pimp.

I also have for a male a large posteria hips and legs. I love my shape. It means I can be over 500 with a totally round looks. The weight in my butt balances out my stomach. And I am told such fat is less likely to cause health issues.

Idea popped into my head, a food show presenter, reviews restaurants in person.

As he gains weight from all the eating, on his website he notes flipping that the last restaurant added 4 lbs as the rating.

This starts a competition from restaurants that try to outdo the last and the he starts to hit the big time, both with his career but also his waist line…

Yes, it seems that I have more fat in my but, thighs, and legs than most men, but it’s not too the same degree as some females clearly as I am a male.

And yes I find female with pear like qualities more fascinating, that other body types.

I wear pant over the level of my button region. Then my shift tucked in, or loose over the top.

I get custom pants and shirts, I can get 15xl track pants and tees.

I have been flying more for work with my new job. In that time I have gone from 28 stone to 37. So having to adjust. I board before other if I am a fair way down the plane. Being as wide as the isle it saves bumping everyone. Two seats is a must. Anywho I asked the cabin crew why if I need a seat belt extension why I cannot sit in the emergency seats. The answer given was the extension belt when left behind can be a risk it self for others getting out, aka a tangle hazard I guess.

Cunning answer, it not that your too fat. So I asked so its okay for me to use that exit, I mean that door look not that wide, it could be a poo bear moment. They said yes is fine, but I have my doubts on that.

So I need to get one incorporated into my pants so they will go with me, then you get extra leg room.

But doubt you can bring your own, so not likely to work.

I have meet a few people, club members, one I think was 600, one was at least 700. All have lost weight so we are about the same these days.

I meet on a date a lady some 15 years ago, she was about 30 and was truly huge, easy 650 but only 5 foot 8. We did not click, then saw her two years late at the shops, I was like floored, she was easy 700 plus, and was so round.

In New Zealand I saw an indigenous lady, about 25 and easy 6 foot plus, but also huge, easy 800 her filled the room literally.

Being very fat does not always fit your job, but you need to pay the bills.

But like anything you don’t have to able or even good at something to celebrate and be involved, it’s what you make of it that counts.

I love seeing what other think, how they gain, or how they enjoy the rounder among us. The scheming, the what ifs, the food plans, ect… plenty to discuss and indulge your thoughts on.