I'd like to offer my two cents here if it's welcome!
I've always been fat but have never been "unhealthy" and I believe it is in large part to balancing my diet. I love a good fast food binge, I can take down three bowls of pasta in one sitting, and Chinese food may very well be the way to my heart, but I also will f*ck up a chicken ceasar salad, or an entire bag of grapes. Strawberries and Nutella? Yes freaking please! I'll sometimes just have an entire bag of steamed broccoli with some ranch seasoning and butter for a snack.
I think one of the best things you can do is listen to your body when it comes to maintaining your health. When you eat things that your body tells you it doesn't like (through things like heartburn and acid reflux, dehydration, digestive issues, skin issues like rashes or acne, etc) it can help to balance your diet with more nutrient rich and water heavy foods.
Foods with high water contents will make you feel satisfied longer and, what I'm more concerned with for myself, they make you just feel physically better.
Getting more water through actually drinking it or having foods that have a higher water content has made me feel so much better over the last few years. Like literally cleared up my skin, significantly reduced headaches, helped me feel more alert and awake, and really has overall improved my quality of life. All of that being said, I'm also at the heaviest I've ever been with no health issues whatsoever.
So, I'd recommend looking for those foods that you enjoy! Even if it means putting cheese on your veggies, Nutella or some sugar on your fruit, or more dressing on your salad, balancing your diet out can do wonders for your health and, what I think is more important here, it can make you just feel so much better overall. Plus, most Americans don't actually eat enough fruits and vegetables, or consume enough water which is what causes so many of the health issues we see, especially the ones that medical professionals believe are tied to obesity.
The thing is, the underlying cause of most of the health issues that come with being overweight is the actual diet, not the weight itself (apart from joint/muscle issues caused by the actual weight itself). By balancing out the things that negatively impact your body with things that positively impact it you can make huge quality of life improvements for yourself that (keep in mind I am not a medical professional) will likely positively impact your health as well.
The big thing here is that it's not about what foods are "good" or "bad" for you, it's about how you physically feel and how they're affecting your overall health. If anything, this balance can lead to a more sustainable and long term gain because it helps eliminate those health issues that put gains on pause or even cause them to need to be reversed. And wouldn't you rather suck it up and eat more fruits and veggies and drink more water than have to completely change your lifestyle due to a major health risk?
Good luck out there everyoneđź’•
1 month
Can I pleeeease ditto this for southern Wisconsin? Please and thank youđź’•
1 month
PurpleJade:
Something I’ve noticed in my chronic investigation of any profile I see on forum threads is that not enough of you like food.
Come on takeout, pizza, burgers and french fries? No offense to you if you are neurodivergent and can’t tolerate much more, but come on, where’s the variety? If your feeder cares for you they should be making you some delicious pasta with a fattening sauce on the daily, if not prep food for later.
Maybe I’m too small and too broke for constant fast food and takeout to get it, but I would want a feeder working themselves each meal to plump me up, not just be my glorified door dasher.
Munchies:
Comes from different flavors of feedist expressions. There are gainers, feedees, and foodies.
Gainers want to get fat. This is where you see most of the min/max crowd. They've crunched the numbers and figured out the best methods for getting fat. Taste is secondary to how fat the food will make you.
Feedees want to get fed. Variety is nice, but the focus is on the act of feeding - not the food. A lot of feedees will appreciate variety and fancy food, but most are content with their favorites so long at the feeding experience is nice.
Foodies want food. They love food and eating first and foremost. Any weight gained is incidental. However, since enjoying delicious food is normal in mainstream society, a lot of them do not feel the need to join fat fetish communities. Those who do join fat fetish spaces tend to do it because it's the closest thing that fits. But a lot of foodies I've talked to express frustration because most people are fat-focused and not food-focused.
I love this description. I haven't been able to accurately express this and I feel that there's a lot of pressure to force feedees and foodies into the gainer category, sometimes without consent.
2 months
Curiousv:
What I'm more worried about is profiles which are not shameless cyberbeggars but genuine curious people, especially young women who have only recently learned about not everyone hating if they're overweight, and are looking for chatting and participating in a community, for a platform to explore and express themselves... slowly starting to open up, participating in genuine conversations... and then disappearing in a few weeks, most likely due to harassment (or unrequested sexual offers which end in harassment if refused).
(but even this has been ongoing for quite some time, so nothing new here, and the site will likely continue for a long long time without worries of having to close due to not enough participants)
As one of those young women, I think the best thing is being honest about what you want. On both ends. I found FF because a guy I was talking to off a dating app said he was into feeding and asked if I knew what it was. Then Google led me here. If he hadn't been honest about what he was looking for, I never would have found this community.
I've had some interesting online and in person connections but the best ones are ones where men are honest about what they're looking for. It's important to respect others' wishes and understand that rejecting what you're looking for (ex: you want an ltr and she's just trying to sell pics to pay rent), isn't rejecting everything about you, it's simply rejecting what you want, which is literally just part of dating and in this case, may even be easier to take. And lying to avoid rejection also is not a good road to go down. I understand some individuals may be rude or unkind when rejecting which doesn't help the problem but, neither does pushing a woman to do something she's not comfortable with. Taking no for an answer needs to be more common, especially when interacting with young women that are new to the community and if the community wants to grow.
So, my two cents: be honest, learn to take rejection, be kind, be mature, and be respectful.
1 year
I'm also fat and I also like athletic guys soooo... I think it's just a matter of time until you find someone!
1 year
