I'm 22 and I've never been overweight, yet I've always felt a "fat identity" inside me. As if my destiny was to be obese, and I was repressing it.
I've always felt a certain connection to fat people, like I should be part of them. And I've always been a person who loves food, but a lot. I would eat in large quantities, but I've always had this repression against doing so.
Now I've decided to gain weight and embrace my fat identity. To accept it and embrace it.
I don't know if I've explained clearly what you meant, but I'd like to know your opinion.
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Let me introduce myself first. I'm a 22-year-old gay male. In fact, I consider myself quite gay, as I'm very attracted to men.
The thing is, I've decided to gain weight and be obese because I want to be. However, I'm very attracted to athletic guys. It's like I want to experience that contrast between being very obese and being with fit guys. Does anyone else feel this way or something similar?
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C00kie:
Unfortunately, being fat is something visible to everyone you encounter, and you can’t control how they feel about it. Even if people aren’t romantically or sexually interested in you, many still have something to say about fat bodies and not all of it is positive.
The reality is - as a fat person you’re likely to get looks and comments, whether from strangers, friends, or even family. Some may express concern about health, while others use it as an easy way to make a joke at your expense. Sadly, fat people remain easy targets, and in many circles, commenting on larger bodies is still seen as acceptable.
The real question is... how much do you actually care about what random people say or do? Do you really want to let others dictate your existence or your happiness?
TheUltimate323:
Well, I don't really care much about the opinions of random people. I'm mainly referring to the opinions of people close to me, like family and friends.
You know, I've always been at a normal weight, but I have a desire to have a very obese body. Making that change makes me uncomfortable when my family makes comments like, "You need to lose weight," "That's not good," etc.
If a person who has always been overweight gains more weight, it is not surprising, however, if a person who has always been in a normal body weight gains a lot of weight, then yes.
Morbidly A Beast:
I’m not sure how it is in Spain and the situation isn’t the same for everyone but generally assuming your family and friends aren’t evil people praying on your downfall they won’t say a thing and you’re overthinking it.
If you’re worried about it cross the bridge when you get there but for now you have a while until the concern comments come
Here in Spain, it's not like the USA. About 15% of people are obese (BMI 30+). You walk down the street and don't usually see fat people.
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C00kie:
Unfortunately, being fat is something visible to everyone you encounter, and you can’t control how they feel about it. Even if people aren’t romantically or sexually interested in you, many still have something to say about fat bodies and not all of it is positive.
The reality is - as a fat person you’re likely to get looks and comments, whether from strangers, friends, or even family. Some may express concern about health, while others use it as an easy way to make a joke at your expense. Sadly, fat people remain easy targets, and in many circles, commenting on larger bodies is still seen as acceptable.
The real question is... how much do you actually care about what random people say or do? Do you really want to let others dictate your existence or your happiness?
Well, I don't really care much about the opinions of random people. I'm mainly referring to the opinions of people close to me, like family and friends.
You know, I've always been at a normal weight, but I have a desire to have a very obese body. Making that change makes me uncomfortable when my family makes comments like, "You need to lose weight," "That's not good," etc.
If a person who has always been overweight gains more weight, it is not surprising, however, if a person who has always been in a normal body weight gains a lot of weight, then yes.
1 day
Casual Gainer:
I grew up overweight/on the fatter side.
As a kid/teen it was horrible, but as an adult I found no one really cares.
The only comments I would say you really need to be prepared for is friends/family/cow workers, as those are people you'll regularly encounter.
If you're lucky, they're indifferent.
If you're unlucky they might be genuinely concerned but because they THINK they're being helpful.
If you're really unlucky though, they might be malicious.
In my case, I've managed to blow over what little response I got by saying something along the lines of 'I stopped caring and just want to enjoy things while I can' and even joke about how fat I'll get.
But then I'm from the UK.
Really, the only way to tell will be to gain and see the response. In your case, worst case, maybe be prepared to lose weight if it causes too many problems.
Personally, I've never been overweight, and the fact that I've now decided to gain weight until I'm obese would be even more shocking than someone who has been overweight in the past.
Although it may surprise them a little at first, over time they'll accept that I'm now obese and that this is and will always be my body.
1 day
JN_TumLover56:
Long story short, you can live a decently normal life. You will have limits of course, and especially things that you might have to live without doing. But otherwise you’ll be fine as long as you get creative. 👍
Yes, obviously I know there are things I'll have to experience, like having to use more than one seat, having to buy clothes in obese stores, etc. But these things really turn me on. But what are you referring to when you say things that I will not can't do?
2 days
I've seen that there are many people into feederism, some of whom like it and are turned on by fatphobia.
In my case, I'm in the process of becoming obese, but this topic repels me a bit. I'm from Spain; there aren't as many obese people here as there are in the US, so it's not as normalized. In my case, I want to be obese, have a huge body, experiment, and be seen as such, but I want to be treated with respect and I don't want to receive criticism for it.
That's the only thing that scares me about gaining weight. Like I said, I want to have a really fat body and be treated and seen as such, but I don't want to be insulted or rejected for it. I know some of you might like this, but I don't. What do you think?
2 days
Thats sounds very hot.
3 days
Well, I'm just starting my weight gain journey. I'm still at a normal weight. But my destiny is to be a very obese person. I work in an office, so I could become excessively obese without any problems. Perhaps the only effect will be that they'll have to give me a bigger chair. (Which really turns me on.)
3 days
TheUltimate323:
Is that a problem? Literally my biggest fantasy is to be fat enough to not fit in chairs. That turns me on a lot. Having to use two chairs to fit my fat ass. Hopefully I'll achieve that one day.
MottiF:
Instead of hoping just do it! Eat occasionally. Eat everywhere anytime. Snack and push more and more food. Don’t think about gaining weight just eat. Hang out with fat people become their friend and learn from them. That’s what will make you bigger eventually
Yeah, I'm into it. Literally walking into a waiting room and having my butt take up two seats is something I want to experience. I get a huge turn on from that.
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