Actually. I meant it the other way. I’d stay up way too late reading the book... But it does start slow. The most engaging book I’ve ever read BTW,

Any of the older books by him. Just don’t spend a lot of money on a trip to Europe and the bring cryptonomicron.

Didn’t care for the baroque cycle.

Here in the US, I’ve never met anyone that doesn’t have a lot of interaction with fat people. I’m an engineer, prehaps it’s different if I were in the fashion industry, but most people I know deal with fat peoples at work, as friends, and as family.

But I agree with another poster that I’ve never seen a fat girl that wants to be fat ( clearly many posters her say that, but I’ve never met on in person). It may be due to health, individual goals, perceived attractiveness or fat shaming. Now I’ve known plenty of females that never did anything to combat weight gain, but that doesn’t make it the desired outcome.

I’d approach it real slowly, and assure her you find her weight, and other large women, sexy but you need some inertia to your relationship before you suggest she do something most women consider harmful.

I was eating in a restaurant just before Christmas, when a hot, extremely overweight woman sat down at a table across from me, right in front of me, maybe 6’ away. Her tight top really showed off her fat, boobs, arms, etc. I was looking perhaps more than I should, while I was eating. Anyway, she walked past may table and asked if I had a problem with her size. I said no, I thought it was sexy. She glared at me, I’m not sure if she though I was making fun of her or a perv, but it was clearly the wrong answer.

I suspect asking a woman early in a relationship to gain weight is likely to label you as a perv, or prehaps show some desire for control.

Far better to wait for her to make some self deprecating remark about her weight, and for you to tell her you find her attractive and still would if she gained 50 lbs.

I’m 6-3”, so it’s seems very unusual when a girl is close to my height ( say wearing heels). Not particularly a turnoff, but it’s very different. Girls seem very self conscious if you bend over to kiss them, but it’s natural, the only difference is how much. Never met a girl short enough to be a problem. Don’t think I’ve kissed a girl shorter than 4-11 and barefooted

While height doesn’t drive attraction, a fat 5’ girl still seems petite in bed.

Really, really hot. Nothing like drinking to loose your inhibitions, and it takes quite a bit of beer to get a big girl drunk, and that's a lot of bloating. Not to mention a girl going so far as wearing a collar or leash is hot as hell.

Fat drunk bloated girl, showing it off in public, with a leash. The only thing hotter is another big girl holding the leash and scissors. And a camera.

In my fantasy you wee a girl :-)

No, I find fat women beautiful, so nothing to be disgusted by. If I though they were gross, but still sexually attracted to them that might be different. Also, I'm not much of a feeder, I don't encourage women to gain. But if they do, I am definitely turned on. So I don't feel I encouraged them to gain, and don't feel guilty about any consequences.

I think it would be a turnon- but it would seem stupid if you don't at least have the start of a soft belly.

Plenty of people obsess about weight enough to call any thing more than a flat stomach and visible ribs fat.

That's pretty self destructive- doing something

harmful just because someone told you not to.

I'm not much of a follower but I'm not going to mindlessly rebel, especially against my self interest. Kind of like a friend who quit wearing his seat belt because they passed a law that you had to. Same guy used to jump on me about wearing a seat belt on a tractor if I was anywhere near a ditch. And he made his son buckle up religiously ( he still wears his seat belt if there are children in the car.)

For Hector- dude if you only knew how many meeting I eat in... As long as there are no directors or VPs there, if it's lunch time, I'm eating.

I've got a coworker who constantly mentions she's twice the woman she used to be.

Agree with this 100%. No change in feel. Deffinite change in external appearance. Might be a slight change in " performance" due to slightly reduced depth of penetration in certain positions.