@Z: well, if you want hiccupx to fire me from my *unpaid* moderator duties, shoot him a PM.
Click on the icon of two heads, which brings up a list of people on chat. Click my name and ask for a private chat.
Use the same as you use for the site itself, and you'll be in the antechamber, as it were, of chat.
DBS - on the top menu, click 'chat', then 'enter chat'. Then it'll ask you for your ID and password.
The pub analogy is used a lot. How would you think the bar staff would feel if you loudly said to another patron, 'If you think this place is shit, try xyz'?
Can we please not discuss alternative sites in shout? It's really disrespectful.
@kittenmeow: Please don't post/solicit alternative social media contacts in shout.
In which case, don't moan if your shouts get deleted (when I'm online) and others don't (when I'm not).