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Your post makes no sense.

"dating an obese guy
"I dont think hes trying to fatten me up"
"Why do fat men always try to fatten up their slim partners"

Let's try LOGIC!

You are dating an obese(fat) guy and he is not trying to fatten you up, Therefore it is a fact that fat men do not always try to fatten up their partners.

Okay maybe I didnt word well. He doesnt force food down my throat but hes always asking why I don't clean plate or bringing us fast food.... doesnt seem excited about me working out... likes me a "little chubby" and seems to think me gaining 10 pounds isnt much weight ....

I think he just enjoys food. It's his...language of love for lack of a better term/word. He's attempting to bond with you through food. He probably says he doesn't mind you gaining weight because he think it'll ease any insecurities he assumes you have.

Missporker thank you! That provided another perspective on it...especially because he doesnt know about me purposely putting on weight over the years.

ok, with the additional information .....do you WANT to fatten up with him? You say you have gained weight on purpose before ..... From you agreeing with Miss Porker it sounds like he is saying the equivalent of "come on baby, eat with me". Are you asking us because you want to? or because you don't?

No I dont want him to..for some reason it's weird to me when a close friend or so tries or wants me to gain. Like...if I gain on my own it's in secret and if they enjoy the after affects (be being curvier) then fine... but let me fatten myself up lol. Something about me doing it secretly keeps it fun for me

Heavy cream did a good work