This is very true. As a guy, I find it kind of a fine line with encouraging a woman to gain weight. I often *want* to do that, but I also realize it's her own body and her own decision to make about what size she'd like to be. I do think it's easy for us guys to forget that at times, getting too caught up in fantasies of how great she'd look if she only did this, or that ....
But that said? Any time I can poke holes in society's standard belief that "thinner is sexier", I'll do so. Personally, I find a lot of things sexy about not only thicker women and women with bigger curves, but just being really heavy. I think it's just amazing when a woman weighs a lot more than it looks like she does (especially if she already looks like a big girl).
The women I've dated who were up in the upper 300's to low 400's had enough mass to make everyday things a turn-on. Like my ex-g/f would jog/run across the room to grab the phone when it rang, and the floor boards would flex under her feet. You could feel the floor bounce as she bounced across the room. To me, that's just really cool....
CUPC4K3:
I agree with ChubbyHubby. Most girls I encourage who call themselves fat are not fat and will play it up as negative thing. They say it to stop themselves from getting a milkshake they want or a meal they've been craving.
I usually tell them are not fat and they need to treat themselves more often because life is too short to deny basic pleasures. But I have tried to give sneaky compliments. "You got birthing hips" or "all the weight is going to your chest" or "you've been losing weight, one treat won't kill you". If they say they haven't lost weight, insist you don't see it.
Guys, in my experience, only need a small nudge. "Weight would fill you out" "You need to burn something to get muscle" "(Preferred gender) don't like frail men, they want something solid" That kind of thing. It's so much fun!!!
Note: I am a girl saying these things, I do not recommend guys telling girls they have birthing hips out the gate.
thecompguy:
I weigh more, wear a larger dress size, and have a bigger waist measurement than people would usually guess from looking at me; I LOVE shocking people by telling them that I have a 47-inch waist!
