Fat experiences

Feedee/gainers: How has your life changed after you've grown?

I get short of breath bending down to tie or put on shoes or boots.

Start to clearly see the differences between who truly loves and adore your fat vs just tolerating it.

I gained about 30 pounds right at the beginning of quarantine from 255- 285. I was not intending to gain at all, but stress and cancelling my gym membership had me at my highest weight in years in early May of last year. I was conflicted about it, since it is heavier than I like to live my everyday life, but I did find it sexy., and while I felt sexy, being at home all day with my kids around meant I never got to put that to use with my wife or by myself. I used the good summer weather to get active outside and lose about half, and have maintained there since. I am still about 15 pounds heavier than I would normally like to be but am OK with it, and had to really adjust my eating and set up a home gym to get through the holidays last year.

I don't know who else is in this boat, but what has changed is that I have a confidence now that if I were to really lean into trying to gain weight, I would be really good at it. That also makes me want to do it less as if I did gain a bunch of weight there is no one in my life to show it off to. My wife wouldn't care; she knows I don't ever want to be skinny, but she also wouldn't appreciate it like I would want.

I gained about 30 pounds right at the beginning of quarantine from 255- 285. I was not intending to gain at all, but stress and cancelling my gym membership had me at my highest weight in years in early May of last year. I was conflicted about it, since it is heavier than I like to live my everyday life, but I did find it sexy., and while I felt sexy, being at home all day with my kids around meant I never got to put that to use with my wife or by myself. I used the good summer weather to get active outside and lose about half, and have maintained there since. I am still about 15 pounds heavier than I would normally like to be but am OK with it, and had to really adjust my eating and set up a home gym to get through the holidays last year.

I don't know who else is in this boat, but what has changed is that I have a confidence now that if I were to really lean into trying to gain weight, I would be really good at it. That also makes me want to do it less as if I did gain a bunch of weight there is no one in my life to show it off to. My wife wouldn't care; she knows I don't ever want to be skinny, but she also wouldn't appreciate it like I would want.

Laziness/Slothfullness.

But my wife would never perceive it that way. And would take offense to it.

Instead, it's always been "a long day".

I "just feel" like watching movies tonight.
"just don't have the energy to cook tonight, why don't we order ____"
"I just need a minute to sit down" (sits down for 2 hours on her phone)
"I just need a little time to unplug" (watches movies for 4 straight hrs snacking the whole time)
"Do you mind getting me my _____" (anything to avoid getting up)

It's really a night and day difference compared to when she was skinny. And when she does actually clean the house or something active, then the amount of "earned" laziness and stuffing afterwards is amplified even more.

It's been a bit more difficult to flip in bed and get out of bed since I've recently been gaining again. I also have issues bending over to pick things off the floor. My legs also have been getting tired more often, if I have to walk around a lot at work I can definitely feel them getting tired. I like my job but I wish I had a desk job. xD If I did, I'd probably be bigger than I currently am tbh.

I’m waddling more.

This. To all of the above. I'd add that my back gets sore easier, bed is super comfy with memory foam topper but does not offer proper support. I am slightly more strategic in how I crawl in and out to conserve energy. Rolling over when already sunken into plushy cloud has caused a tweak or two. Plus being on feet 10/12 hours a day bothers back more than legs.
Worth every extra pound but damn I am starting to feel the effects. Also noticing some changes to gait and strain on feet and ankles, not quite a waddle but can't quite keep up the same pace or stance anymore.

1. I miss being able to walk and work out.
2. tired all the time
3. having to plan my day for my lack of stamina
4. hanging out with friends is different
5 the need to eat more but the want to eat less.
6 constant cravings.
7 not sure i waddle per se but my walking is different. due in part to my ankle injury
8 clothes shopping. makes me really depressed sometimes. i miss cute things.
nothing looks cute now
there are more things but.. yeh.. enough for now