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Munchies   United States
Joined 3 years
swoledaze:
When you word it like that, I agree. It seems like interaction has become more and more difficult to where I even put my guard up. I wanna say it's possible, it's just seems like an uphill climb to find it.


Exactly. You have to put the person first and the fetish last. And on a site where everyone has similar interests, you have stand out from the crowd. That's where that personal connection comes into play.

Don't come into my inbox, give me your government name, and tell me to hop on kik. I don't know you enough to trust you. Instead, take the time to get to know me. Let me get to know you. It's a give and take kind of deal.
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WideJuan76   United States
Joined 13 years
There is a huge need for an overall understanding of social skills especially when it comes to online etiquette. When you have so many cultures that are able to converse with each other so freely; certain norms get lost in translation. Then, when you add the constant messages one will receive whether in the messages in the chat (not the general chat but the personal message)that can be offensive because there is a plethora of folks here who don't understand you can't start a personal chat saying: "Hello Fat Ass !" So, you can find plenty of people here who have the same interests it is just that you have to let things germinate naturally but that is predicated on a basic knowledge of social norms because we don't want rudeness to become the baseline of a good community of like minded people because Feabie will eventually germinate to the fat version of Onlyfans due to the amount of hubris and rudeness that permeates that entire site.
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Fpflorida1   United States
Joined 15 years
Yes. It is possible. A lot of selfish bad people out there. Also many decent people. There is young lady I have talked to off and on for 12 years. She found a partner and husband on here. They live the fetish and mutually gained but also realistically set some limits.
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LondonFA   United States
Joined 9 years
s3ndh3lp:
I should preface this: I’m referring to myself mostly, but maybe it’s the same for others too. Feederism for me is a paraphilia (that’s when you can’t achieve orgasm without that fetish). And not only do I have this incredibly niche sexuality on top of BPD/GAD/ADHD and others I honestly can’t remember, so I’m not exactly easy to love. Does anyone have any thoughts about finding love with a paraphilia and mental illnesses?


Definitely. Ive been in 3 long term relationships with this “fetish” being front and center in the bedroom including my current marriage for which we’re now planning our double digit anniversary.

Firstly, in the west there are more “obese/overweight” people than “underweight” people. This seems to imply that a propensity to eat more than required is endemic. Secondly, with honesty (and some courage) you may find that of you choose a partner already evidently overeating or keen on buying you large meals in the dating stages and being engaging with your body, then when presented with the reality of your preferences they will be willing to at least explore than usually ignored part of their personality and if the enjoyment they receive in that exploration is greater that the social pressures a more long term engagement will more often than not occur.

Weight gain and healthy eating is a commonly praised attribute in infancy and hence there is often a natural behaviour to tend to it if that behaviour or its results aren’t chastised later in life.

Give it a few tries and don't forget we have the advantage of finding relationships with filters already in place using these platforms.
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FeedMeCakex   Australia
Joined 2 years


X_Larsson:

#vanilla - not only for ice cream :-)


@X_Larsson I'm not what you'd call vanilla - I've been part of the BDSM scene for 30 years now - but you can't make rum raisin without vanilla! In my experience, even the kinkiest among us adore vanilla 🍦😊
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FeedMeCakex   Australia
Joined 2 years


X_Larsson:

I would love to hear more of your thoughts.


@X_Larsson it's such a subjective space, I think finding certainty or patterns is near on impossible.

I'm a sub leaning Switch. I think I fall in to the category of being naturally submissive, with my kinks and preferences developing and changing over time with different experiences. There are things I thoroughly enjoy now that just a few years ago I was repulsed by. And some things I will only receive or give in specific situations or with specific people.

I think sometimes people overlook the fetish of simply engaging in sexual play with a gainer of an advanced size, whether vanilla or kinky sex ensues. It's a kink in itself.

Conversely, for me, I've discovered that body contrast is more of a fetish than a simple preference, particularly the more I've gained. I can be simply chatting to someone and get enormously turned on by their muscular body - like a literal physiological reaction in certain parts of my anatomy - whereas another delightful human might not be built that way and I won't feel the same urge and desire despite our obvious compatibility otherwise.

It's like Pavlov's dog, but instead of a bell It's a set of rock hard abs lol (I'm being facetious obvs but the sentiment is true, for me at least)

At the end of the day, vanilla or rum raisin, we evolve as sexual beings and open, honest, non-judgemental communication is key for me. And safe words.
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Milkshakeandfries   United States
Joined 2 years


X_Larsson:

I would love to hear more of your thoughts.

FeedMeCakex:
@X_Larsson it's such a subjective space, I think finding certainty or patterns is near on impossible.

I'm a sub leaning Switch. I think I fall in to the category of being naturally submissive, with my kinks and preferences developing and changing over time with different experiences. There are things I thoroughly enjoy now that just a few years ago I was repulsed by. And some things I will only receive or give in specific situations or with specific people.

I think sometimes people overlook the fetish of simply engaging in sexual play with a gainer of an advanced size, whether vanilla or kinky sex ensues. It's a kink in itself.

Conversely, for me, I've discovered that body contrast is more of a fetish than a simple preference, particularly the more I've gained. I can be simply chatting to someone and get enormously turned on by their muscular body - like a literal physiological reaction in certain parts of my anatomy - whereas another delightful human might not be built that way and I won't feel the same urge and desire despite our obvious compatibility otherwise.

It's like Pavlov's dog, but instead of a bell It's a set of rock hard abs lol (I'm being facetious obvs but the sentiment is true, for me at least)

At the end of the day, vanilla or rum raisin, we evolve as sexual beings and open, honest, non-judgemental communication is key for me. And safe words.

X_Larsson:
And I think you have pointed out what I think is a defining difference, BDSM and similar fetishes are different from feedism.
I have heard several time about the "moving goalposts" for many people there, where as feeders (like me) often have a fairly well defined and static set of preferences and ideal standard.
For me, it is pretty much the same as it was 20 or 30 years ago. I have also not really become more positive towards other kinks. These things are also heard from other people in the feedism crowd.
My conclusion is that there could be a limited overlap between BDSM and Feedism, but it is more coincidal than deeply rooted.


That's for you, personally. Others find feedism difficult, if not impossible, to separate from BDSM
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StuffedExhalations   United States
Joined 5 years
I'd say it's absolutely possible. It may not be easy and you may not find someone perfectly compatible in everything, but it's certainly possible. Just a manner of being fortunate to cross paths with them.

I wish you the best of luck. While relationships are the end all be all of life, a really good one is something special so I hope you find your person.
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FeedMeCakex   Australia
Joined 2 years


milkshakeandfries:
That's for you, personally. Others find feedism difficult, if not impossible, to separate from BDSM


@milkshakeandfries I agree, it's very personal. Even though, as @X_Larsson points out, he has experienced people who don't overlap BDSM and feedism, I find it's about the people you interact with. My Feeder was open to things he hadn't previously considered because I enjoyed them. Fetishes not relating to feeding. At the end of the day, it's all about what we as individuals - and as part of a dynamic - desire, need and consent to.
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Ljrockarts   United States
Joined 3 years
It's always possible to find love. Hanging on to it is the hard part.
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