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There is a huge need for an overall understanding of social skills especially when it comes to online etiquette. When you have so many cultures that are able to converse with each other so freely; certain norms get lost in translation. Then, when you add the constant messages one will receive whether in the messages in the chat (not the general chat but the personal message)that can be offensive because there is a plethora of folks here who don't understand you can't start a personal chat saying: "Hello Fat Ass !" So, you can find plenty of people here who have the same interests it is just that you have to let things germinate naturally but that is predicated on a basic knowledge of social norms because we don't want rudeness to become the baseline of a good community of like minded people because Feabie will eventually germinate to the fat version of Onlyfans due to the amount of hubris and rudeness that permeates that entire site.

Yes. It is possible. A lot of selfish bad people out there. Also many decent people. There is young lady I have talked to off and on for 12 years. She found a partner and husband on here. They live the fetish and mutually gained but also realistically set some limits.

Definitely. Ive been in 3 long term relationships with this “fetish” being front and center in the bedroom including my current marriage for which we’re now planning our double digit anniversary.

Firstly, in the west there are more “obese/overweight” people than “underweight” people. This seems to imply that a propensity to eat more than required is endemic. Secondly, with honesty (and some courage) you may find that of you choose a partner already evidently overeating or keen on buying you large meals in the dating stages and being engaging with your body, then when presented with the reality of your preferences they will be willing to at least explore than usually ignored part of their personality and if the enjoyment they receive in that exploration is greater that the social pressures a more long term engagement will more often than not occur.

Weight gain and healthy eating is a commonly praised attribute in infancy and hence there is often a natural behaviour to tend to it if that behaviour or its results aren’t chastised later in life.

Give it a few tries and don't forget we have the advantage of finding relationships with filters already in place using these platforms.

@X_Larsson I'm not what you'd call vanilla - I've been part of the BDSM scene for 30 years now - but you can't make rum raisin without vanilla! In my experience, even the kinkiest among us adore vanilla 🍦😊

@X_Larsson it's such a subjective space, I think finding certainty or patterns is near on impossible.

I'm a sub leaning Switch. I think I fall in to the category of being naturally submissive, with my kinks and preferences developing and changing over time with different experiences. There are things I thoroughly enjoy now that just a few years ago I was repulsed by. And some things I will only receive or give in specific situations or with specific people.

I think sometimes people overlook the fetish of simply engaging in sexual play with a gainer of an advanced size, whether vanilla or kinky sex ensues. It's a kink in itself.

Conversely, for me, I've discovered that body contrast is more of a fetish than a simple preference, particularly the more I've gained. I can be simply chatting to someone and get enormously turned on by their muscular body - like a literal physiological reaction in certain parts of my anatomy - whereas another delightful human might not be built that way and I won't feel the same urge and desire despite our obvious compatibility otherwise.

It's like Pavlov's dog, but instead of a bell It's a set of rock hard abs lol (I'm being facetious obvs but the sentiment is true, for me at least)

At the end of the day, vanilla or rum raisin, we evolve as sexual beings and open, honest, non-judgemental communication is key for me. And safe words.

I'd say it's absolutely possible. It may not be easy and you may not find someone perfectly compatible in everything, but it's certainly possible. Just a manner of being fortunate to cross paths with them.

I wish you the best of luck. While relationships are the end all be all of life, a really good one is something special so I hope you find your person.

@milkshakeandfries I agree, it's very personal. Even though, as @X_Larsson points out, he has experienced people who don't overlap BDSM and feedism, I find it's about the people you interact with. My Feeder was open to things he hadn't previously considered because I enjoyed them. Fetishes not relating to feeding. At the end of the day, it's all about what we as individuals - and as part of a dynamic - desire, need and consent to.

It's always possible to find love. Hanging on to it is the hard part.

I mean its rare even without all the diagnoses you listed. Since this fetish is sorta hidden and many who are into it are not on these websites either.

Everything depends, about what part does ur mental health issues, paraphilias take up in your life or what are your standards like.

Everything is possible, but it s really really difficult. First thing it depends from where you live, then...how much closeted you are.
Nothing impossible, but very a few percent of success