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i remember being 3 and being drawn to fat women

Speaking from my point of view as a woman and how I would feel if it were me in this situation, it was probably almost somewhat of a relief to find out your attraction to bigger women. I know you said when you first met she was wanting to lose weight, but I think a lot of women say that because it’s been programmed into us because of society. We are made to think that if we’re bigger that we’re less attractive, so if we get the chance to date someone we actually really like, we grasp onto them and make it know that we will “better” ourselves to keep that person (i.e. working out and losing weight to be deemed more attractive). It comes from a place of insecurity, and that’s especially prevalent at the beginning of a relationship before you really know if your partner will love you no matter what you look like. So her knowing she doesn’t have to meet societal standards is probably a big relief to her.

But as for her actually wanting to actively gain and not just stop trying to lose weight adds another layer. I think of three possible scenarios for this situation.

The first scenario depends on if she currently has to eat really strictly and exercise to maintain her weight now. Because if so she might be saying she wants to gain because she knows that if she stops her current routine she will start gaining. So she is saying she wants to gain when she really knows that it’s inevitable if she lets loose. I could see this being the case especially since you said she is a foodie.

The second scenario is that she might want to gain to be more attractive to you like you stated. It’s like the reverse of what I was talking about earlier. But I don’t think it’s necessarily a bad thing. I know personally (and sorry this statement won’t be very feminist of me) but the person I most want to see me as attractive is my partner. I know that you’re supposed to do whatever to make you feel the most attractive to yourself, but I know personally I feel most attractive to myself when I know my partner is also in love with how I look. It’s like an extra affirmation. But like I said that just comes from how I feel and I know that not every woman thinks that way.

Then there is the third possible scenario that she might actually want to gain weight and has just been suppressing her desires because of societal pressures.

Also an important part of all of this is how serious is your relationship? Like do you see this lasting and are you in it for the long hall? Will you actually love her forever no matter what weight she is? Because if not, don’t let her gain the weight. If she gains and y’all breakup she will for sure hate you for that as it gets hard for larger women to date. And if you are in it for the long hall and don’t make it clear to her later on that you still love her and are still very much attracted her, that’s when she would start to blame you for how she looks because if she’s not getting that validation from you she’s going to turn back to what others think. And we know how the world generally feels about fat people. So just make sure you personally are prepared for all that if you both decide on her gaining.

But like I said this is all my personal opinion so take from it what you will. You maybe have already talked to her about all this since I’m replying so late. Would love an update on how things are going for y’all!

I am surprised you had your first inkling of fat attraction only at 22. Out of curiosity: you never felt anything when you saw a big person before that age? I know it was before internet, but I grew up without internet as well and in a world with very few big people, but that was still enough to be aware of my fat attraction for as long as I can remember.

Just wondering if you discussed this any further with her and how it went?

I first discover the feeling when I was about, 6 years old.
fantasyfeeder.com/stories/view

I was 10 I think. Kaley Cuoco had a movie I saw on TV where she put on a fat suit. Super hot to me at the time.
It's a Lifetime movie called Fat Like Me.
There was also another actually fat girl that could barely fit in her van.

I started around the age of 10/11. There was this girl I really liked. I had a crush on her for a long time. I noticed one day when we went swimming she was bigger then I thought she was. I loved it! From that day forward I've loved bigger women. I've discovered feederism around 6/7 years ago.

I remember realizing I liked fat and wanted to be fat at age 5 I was in a grocery store and an obese couple passed by and when I saw them I loved how they looked in their fat bodies and I knew after that that I wanted to look the same

I was a teenager and there was a girl who I would see daily who went to a different school. She was big and my mates would say hey there is fatty and I am ashamed that I joined in but deep down I knew she was perfect.

I never did meet her but it planted a seed and apart from one relationship I have only been with larger ladies

As a child, I had a fairly normal, slim build.Then in my early teens, I was treated very badly by my parents and beaten, was punished for the nonsense my siblings did, etc., and I hardly had any friends anymore because I never had time and always had to work around the house.
That made me very lonely and I secretly started snacking and eating more and more out of grief and worries until I was around 290 lbs quite early on. brought to the scales. I managed to maintain this weight because I was often bullied for it at school. I personally didn't think the bacon I got was that bad, but I was ashamed of it in public. I didn't have a boyfriend until the middle of my twenties...only brief acquaintances.
Then my now husband finally came into my life, at that time I had already lost a bit of weight overall to around 260 lbs.
He told me that I didn't have to hide and that I was perfectly fine the way I was, which made me happy and calmed.
Two years later he told me that he loved my weight and my size and that I didn't have to hold back or restrict myself when eating and that I could just eat my fill. I was on board with that
+/- 280lbs.
From then on I didn't worry so much about public opinion and I had a good time, my weight began to increase noticeably... although he always encouraged me and offered me security... too in all other situations in life. We later got married and I was at about 310 lbs. and after a while he often started to press about the subject of food... I didn't let up until he admitted that he would really like me more and whether I would maybe let him feed me too.
I was a little confused at first, but found the idea quite interesting and somehow erotic. ...we finally tried it out...first I "apparently" ate myself really full and then he gently massaged my stomach, then he fed me a little more until nothing at allwent in.I found this feeling overwhelming and it made me really hot and horny.
Over time, through such filling sessions, I developed a real addiction to being stuffed to the top limit. I only feel full when it's difficult to breathe, I can barely move and my stomach is almost in danger of bursting. 🥵🥵
Since then, in addition to our happy marriage, we have also had a feeder/feedee relationship