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Viktoshka:
I asked specifically for feedee. Are you feedee?

I didn't say that feedees and feeders necessarily break up. My question was addressed specifically to feedees, because I'm interested in their opinion and experience. But since you answered, tell me how you see the supportive role of the feeder in a long-term relationship?

Munchies:
I'm an FA and feeder. My partner is my feedee. Got him up to 500 lbs as of 2023. That was his limit, and he lost weight for health and comfort reasons. Currently sitting at 430 last I checked.

Only a piece of shit leaves their partner because they are no longer gaining. And on top of that, gaining and maintaining doesn't mean you have to give up being a feedist. You just have to change your approach.

My partner and I do a lot of roleplay and fantasy about how big I'd make him and how. I also stuff him from time to time. You won't gain weight from the occasional.

I also do a lot of FA stuff, but that's outside of your feeder question.

Regardless, most feedist relationships are not transactional. People don't leave the relationship just because the journey ended. And when I say relationship, I do not mean only romantic. I've seen platonic and sexual feedists relationships too.

Viktoshka:
Thank you for such a detailed answer! It would be interesting to hear how you adapted after it reached its limit. You say that the approach simply changes - can you give an example of how exactly? What does such interaction give when there is no active recruitment?

Munchies:
We switched from making the body of our desires to enjoying it. It's hard to appreciate such things properly when your main focus is growth. And it's nice to go from a manic intensity to something more sedate and cozy.

Viktoshka:
I asked specifically for feedee. Are you feedee?

I didn't say that feedees and feeders necessarily break up. My question was addressed specifically to feedees, because I'm interested in their opinion and experience. But since you answered, tell me how you see the supportive role of the feeder in a long-term relationship?

Munchies:
I'm an FA and feeder. My partner is my feedee. Got him up to 500 lbs as of 2023. That was his limit, and he lost weight for health and comfort reasons. Currently sitting at 430 last I checked.

Only a piece of shit leaves their partner because they are no longer gaining. And on top of that, gaining and maintaining doesn't mean you have to give up being a feedist. You just have to change your approach.

My partner and I do a lot of roleplay and fantasy about how big I'd make him and how. I also stuff him from time to time. You won't gain weight from the occasional.

I also do a lot of FA stuff, but that's outside of your feeder question.

Regardless, most feedist relationships are not transactional. People don't leave the relationship just because the journey ended. And when I say relationship, I do not mean only romantic. I've seen platonic and sexual feedists relationships too.

Viktoshka:
Thank you for such a detailed answer! It would be interesting to hear how you adapted after it reached its limit. You say that the approach simply changes - can you give an example of how exactly? What does such interaction give when there is no active recruitment?

Munchies:
We switched from making the body of our desires to enjoying it. It's hard to appreciate such things properly when your main focus is growth. And it's nice to go from a manic intensity to something more sedate and cozy.

Viktoshka:
It's interesting how the perception of the process itself changes. When growth was the main focus, it gave more excitement and drive, and now it gives more comfort and pleasure? What was the most enjoyable thing for you in this new stage?

Viktoshka:
I asked specifically for feedee. Are you feedee?

I didn't say that feedees and feeders necessarily break up. My question was addressed specifically to feedees, because I'm interested in their opinion and experience. But since you answered, tell me how you see the supportive role of the feeder in a long-term relationship?

Munchies:
I'm an FA and feeder. My partner is my feedee. Got him up to 500 lbs as of 2023. That was his limit, and he lost weight for health and comfort reasons. Currently sitting at 430 last I checked.

Only a piece of shit leaves their partner because they are no longer gaining. And on top of that, gaining and maintaining doesn't mean you have to give up being a feedist. You just have to change your approach.

My partner and I do a lot of roleplay and fantasy about how big I'd make him and how. I also stuff him from time to time. You won't gain weight from the occasional.

I also do a lot of FA stuff, but that's outside of your feeder question.

Regardless, most feedist relationships are not transactional. People don't leave the relationship just because the journey ended. And when I say relationship, I do not mean only romantic. I've seen platonic and sexual feedists relationships too.

Viktoshka:
Thank you for such a detailed answer! It would be interesting to hear how you adapted after it reached its limit. You say that the approach simply changes - can you give an example of how exactly? What does such interaction give when there is no active recruitment?

Munchies:
We switched from making the body of our desires to enjoying it. It's hard to appreciate such things properly when your main focus is growth. And it's nice to go from a manic intensity to something more sedate and cozy.

Viktoshka:
It's interesting how the perception of the process itself changes. When growth was the main focus, it gave more excitement and drive, and now it gives more comfort and pleasure? What was the most enjoyable thing for you in this new stage?

Munchies:
Honestly? Holding each other. He his big, warm, soft, and fuzzy - like a giant teddy bear. And he smells really nice too. If I'm frustrated, upset, or overstimulated (I'm autistic), feeling the weight of his body wrapped around me instantly soothes me.

I love to lay on top of him after a romp on bed, and I love it when we pull each other close during cuddle time.


There are many other things I enjoy, but this is my favorite.

Viktoshka:
I asked specifically for feedee. Are you feedee?

I didn't say that feedees and feeders necessarily break up. My question was addressed specifically to feedees, because I'm interested in their opinion and experience. But since you answered, tell me how you see the supportive role of the feeder in a long-term relationship?

Munchies:
I'm an FA and feeder. My partner is my feedee. Got him up to 500 lbs as of 2023. That was his limit, and he lost weight for health and comfort reasons. Currently sitting at 430 last I checked.

Only a piece of shit leaves their partner because they are no longer gaining. And on top of that, gaining and maintaining doesn't mean you have to give up being a feedist. You just have to change your approach.

My partner and I do a lot of roleplay and fantasy about how big I'd make him and how. I also stuff him from time to time. You won't gain weight from the occasional.

I also do a lot of FA stuff, but that's outside of your feeder question.

Regardless, most feedist relationships are not transactional. People don't leave the relationship just because the journey ended. And when I say relationship, I do not mean only romantic. I've seen platonic and sexual feedists relationships too.

Viktoshka:
Thank you for such a detailed answer! It would be interesting to hear how you adapted after it reached its limit. You say that the approach simply changes - can you give an example of how exactly? What does such interaction give when there is no active recruitment?

Munchies:
We switched from making the body of our desires to enjoying it. It's hard to appreciate such things properly when your main focus is growth. And it's nice to go from a manic intensity to something more sedate and cozy.

Viktoshka:
It's interesting how the perception of the process itself changes. When growth was the main focus, it gave more excitement and drive, and now it gives more comfort and pleasure? What was the most enjoyable thing for you in this new stage?

Munchies:
Honestly? Holding each other. He his big, warm, soft, and fuzzy - like a giant teddy bear. And he smells really nice too. If I'm frustrated, upset, or overstimulated (I'm autistic), feeling the weight of his body wrapped around me instantly soothes me.

I love to lay on top of him after a romp on bed, and I love it when we pull each other close during cuddle time.


There are many other things I enjoy, but this is my favorite.

Glitter Jelly:
OMG! I'm on the spectrum too! Maybe that's why I relate to your posts the most.

I love your answer, it makes so much sense... Ad you know I'm not into gaining myself but I 100% agree with you about how simply being held can be so enjoyable / soothing.

I noticed yesterday that my boyfriend seems to have gained a bit of weight for the way his body felt against mine while we hugged.

Probably this is a combination of me having gained some weight too, but the upper part of his body felt closer and the bottom part farther, as if he's grown a little potbelly.

He expresses more often that he feels fat, and I used to answer that he isn't because I know how self he feels conscious about it.

I'm not sure how to go from there to saying it's OK and he doesn't have to worry about it. I've seen pictures from when he was fat and find him just as, if not even more attractive with more weight on.

I've already told him that, but I don't know if he believed me. Years of being bullied means we both have a lot of internalized fat phobia to work through.

I was obese until a few years ago and he's seen my pictures of me when I was obese. Unlike my previous boyfriend who once admitted he wouldn't have been attracted to me back then, he says I was just as pretty and he doesn't care about my weight.

In bed, when he's laying on his side, it's hard to resist the temptation to feel his new curves and press my fingers into his fat... When I wake up during the night and he's sound asleep, I gently touch his belly, careful not to wake him up. It's so soft...

I noticed his body temperature is higher too, when we cuddle up. I find it very comforting and sleeping in a spoon with him feels almost as good as sex itself.