Lifestyle tips

Hello, I'm a 21 years old trans woman who still lives with my parents. And I have a few questions that I hope some kind people will answer to help me out.

As I said, I still live at home and don't have a car or anything so traveling is a little difficult. Not to mention actually finding stuff to eat that will make me gain weight since, ya that's not happening here.

And even if I did meet a feeder irl, I'm wondering how I'd be able to casually go over to their place or hang out with them without my parents asking a lot of questions. I never really got to go out much, I know I can use the excuse we're friends but I'm worried they wouldn't let me go out. Anxieties aaaaaa

My parents also aren't very accepting of trans people so I haven't been able to do HRT or wear pretty clothes either. Which is a bit hurtful but not the end of the world rn. I just really wanna find a way to get bigger without like, this whole stuff I talked about being a problem.

Idk I haven't chatted here much since I created the account two years ago cuz I chickened out cuz of worries over my parents again.

Sorry if this is a ramble...

Oof. That's a really hard place to be in. You're essentially looking for acceptance as a trans woman but also a gainer. I wonder which you're folks would be less affirming of. Sorry if that comes off as negative, I know several women who don't have affirming families and I might be a little biased.


Are you looking to start gaining alone, or are you specifically looking for a feeder? Honestly, if you're able to have a job (from home or somewhere you can get to on transit), funding the gain will probably be half the battle. One unintended benefit of taking a bus or something to and from work gives you time to grab something to eat, then eat again when you get home, and have a snack or two before bed.


Hope this helps!

I would very much prefer having a feeder since money is still a bit of an issue and there's so much to spend on, that spending enough on food would be a struggle. But again, hard to find ways for my parents not to notice the extra food being sent to me too. Really one of those situations that just makes me go :/