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I didn’t get fat to spite at least not consciously subconsciously maybe a bit or at least it shaped my relationship with food later in life. But I was a wrestler and my dad was like a coach a lot of the time in grade school I’m some of high school, I had to make weight and a lot of times I had to cut weight, meaning no solids and in a lot of cases not even water; but I liked and enjoyed it, but as i got older and more out performed I lost interest.

I didn’t get the comments I thought I would at all, my weight wasn’t a topic until I was quite heavy at which point I just given up on trying to drop weight and I explained that my weight wasn’t a topic of discussion and that was pretty much the end of it not a peep about it since.

Forced into a lot of things by my parents. Soccer, ugh. even when i was tiny and liked ot run i didnt like to run and kick a ball while everyone else was trying to take it away from me.

I like that my weight gain embarrasses my mom now.

That’s actually a pretty common thing. If you notice when most pro athletes retire, they end up fat for that very reason. In fact, there’s a a lot of feedees and gainers in this community that are ex athletes and jocks

Now, as for the forced into sports at a young age. My mom forced me into track & field because she hated the fact that I did martial arts. Tbh, that’s one of the reasons why I don’t like running to this day. And also, when I was running track, I wasn’t lifting weights anymore so my legs continued to get disproportionately bigger while my arms didn’t. One day, one of the girls on the team asked “why you got arms like a girl?” And I never forgot that, that’s one of the reason why prioritize arms in my bodybuilding routines to this day. In fact, I’ll have mesocycles where I strictly train arms.

So yeah, I definitely know what you by being forced into a sport that you never cared about and getting a body that you never wanted. And how it effects you mentally and emotionally

Parents forcing their children to do something, or not do something is a sure way to get the opposite as soon as they leave home. I knew an adult who spent every Saturday morning watching cartoons because she was not allowed to watch them as a child.

such a parents are a disgrace!

Man you just triggered some old memories that forgot about with this comment

I do remember my parents forcing me to go for a run or ride my bike bc I spent all day watching TV or playing computer games. All members in my family are obese and they wanted me to be the opposite and break the cycle. Only healthy foods were allowed in the house, not even an ice cream or a Happy Meal. They never sent me to birthday parties bc they would serve cake and candy and my mom didnt want me to eat too much of it. I remember crying to my mom for an ice cream cone, and the answer was always no.

Then I went to high school and I got the opportunity of tasting all the fast food I missed when I got out with friends. They wouldn't believe me when I told them that I've never tasted Wendy's or Burger King at my 16yo.

I stayed thin most of my life until pandemic came and I gained around 40lbs, and although I'm not obese, I'm not too far from it. I still live with them while I sort things out, but as soon as I get to live alone I'll probably gain a lot more lol and I love fast food, they still insist on the diets but I always escape to eat the biggest ice cream cup as soon as I get the opportunity. Mom wasn't able to make me a gym lover or a healthy freak.

Ah yes. A tale as old as time.

I'm all for raising your kids to be healthy. Unfortunately, if you make being healthy feel like deprivation, all that makes them want is the opposite.

I understand you 100%. I had a similar story - my parents literally controlled every meal and did not allow me to even smell sweets or fast food. But, like you, everything changed when I had the opportunity to make my own decisions. I also remember the first time I tried a Big Mac - it was like I discovered a whole universe of flavors.

Now I also live with them, and it's a constant struggle: on the one hand, there are tips on a healthy lifestyle, on the other - my love for fast food and freedom. Sometimes I even feel like the craving for the forbidden has become some kind of compensation for a childhood without sweets.

By the way, in order not to eat away stress and not break down every time to eat, I found a hobby that helps me switch off. I started playing skin battles on official Pick’em page on Skin.Club - there you can predict the outcome of matches and win cool skins. There is enough adrenaline, and food fades into the background. Not saying it's a replacement for chocolate, but it's so addictive that sometimes you forget about the fridge

So yes, I understand how hard it is to break out of this diet under parental control. The main thing is to find a balance and what will be truly yours.