I was in my early 40s. I was in great shape, but after hearing that my feedee just couldn't do it any more and ending our feeder relationship on good (but bittersweet) terms, I decided that I wasnt going to ask anyone else until they shared a self-interest.
So... I started feeding myself.
Went slowly up from 165 to 180 around COVID, then plateaued for a bit. Didn't really gain much during COVID, but about 2 years ago, the calories started sticking. Jumped up to 185, then 190, then 198 and celebrated 200.
The next 28 have been easy - I'm a pretty good feeder - and I'm knocking on 230.
2 months