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Honestly I remember watching a episode of Rugrats when I was about 4 or 5. Chuckie wishes he was never born in the episode, Angelica gets really fat in that episode and that single episode awoken this for me. Ever since that day, I wanted to be fat. It wasn’t until I was older that I started to gain weight and I became overweight, but unfortunately I was forced to lose the weight I did gain… Fast forward to 2010, I discovered this site and have been gaining off and on ever since.

my first memory around 3 years old

I knew I wanted to be fat and liked fat people since I was 5 when I saw a fat family, parents and kids all obese, and told my mom I wanted to be fat like them. My mom told me it's not good to be fat and that I shouldn't want to be fat. I remember another time when i was young where a nutrisystem commercial came on with someone talking about how they were embarrassed of being overweight and it showed their belly jiggling and I just knew that I wanted that for myself and I knew I felt like I would be happier as a fat person

It's happened in stages:

1: Being a little kid, seeing cartoons of characters getting fat and thinking it looked fun and cute
2: As a geeky kid who read encyclopedias, finding Renaissance paintings of plump women and getting turned on for the first time
3: Going to college and dating a fat woman for the first time, though she hated her body
4: Finding and marrying a fat woman who's confident, loves her belly, and wouldn't mind getting immobile

Now it's escalated to the point where I feel like true romance is finding someone you love and making them as massive and obese as possible.

i remember being 3 and being drawn to fat women

Speaking from my point of view as a woman and how I would feel if it were me in this situation, it was probably almost somewhat of a relief to find out your attraction to bigger women. I know you said when you first met she was wanting to lose weight, but I think a lot of women say that because it’s been programmed into us because of society. We are made to think that if we’re bigger that we’re less attractive, so if we get the chance to date someone we actually really like, we grasp onto them and make it know that we will “better” ourselves to keep that person (i.e. working out and losing weight to be deemed more attractive). It comes from a place of insecurity, and that’s especially prevalent at the beginning of a relationship before you really know if your partner will love you no matter what you look like. So her knowing she doesn’t have to meet societal standards is probably a big relief to her.

But as for her actually wanting to actively gain and not just stop trying to lose weight adds another layer. I think of three possible scenarios for this situation.

The first scenario depends on if she currently has to eat really strictly and exercise to maintain her weight now. Because if so she might be saying she wants to gain because she knows that if she stops her current routine she will start gaining. So she is saying she wants to gain when she really knows that it’s inevitable if she lets loose. I could see this being the case especially since you said she is a foodie.

The second scenario is that she might want to gain to be more attractive to you like you stated. It’s like the reverse of what I was talking about earlier. But I don’t think it’s necessarily a bad thing. I know personally (and sorry this statement won’t be very feminist of me) but the person I most want to see me as attractive is my partner. I know that you’re supposed to do whatever to make you feel the most attractive to yourself, but I know personally I feel most attractive to myself when I know my partner is also in love with how I look. It’s like an extra affirmation. But like I said that just comes from how I feel and I know that not every woman thinks that way.

Then there is the third possible scenario that she might actually want to gain weight and has just been suppressing her desires because of societal pressures.

Also an important part of all of this is how serious is your relationship? Like do you see this lasting and are you in it for the long hall? Will you actually love her forever no matter what weight she is? Because if not, don’t let her gain the weight. If she gains and y’all breakup she will for sure hate you for that as it gets hard for larger women to date. And if you are in it for the long hall and don’t make it clear to her later on that you still love her and are still very much attracted her, that’s when she would start to blame you for how she looks because if she’s not getting that validation from you she’s going to turn back to what others think. And we know how the world generally feels about fat people. So just make sure you personally are prepared for all that if you both decide on her gaining.

But like I said this is all my personal opinion so take from it what you will. You maybe have already talked to her about all this since I’m replying so late. Would love an update on how things are going for y’all!

I am surprised you had your first inkling of fat attraction only at 22. Out of curiosity: you never felt anything when you saw a big person before that age? I know it was before internet, but I grew up without internet as well and in a world with very few big people, but that was still enough to be aware of my fat attraction for as long as I can remember.

Just wondering if you discussed this any further with her and how it went?

I first discover the feeling when I was about, 6 years old.
fantasyfeeder.com/stories/view

I was 10 I think. Kaley Cuoco had a movie I saw on TV where she put on a fat suit. Super hot to me at the time.
It's a Lifetime movie called Fat Like Me.
There was also another actually fat girl that could barely fit in her van.