Alas, I have no advice, but to say, I am a long-time sailor in the very same boat. I'm lucky insofar as I otherwise have a full and varied life, but this one vital aspect of my identity has existed outside of my relationship, and almost entirely online.
That which is rare is considered precious. We are unicorns.
1 month
Pearl:
I am not disagreeing about the fact that physical attraction is part of intimacy. WhT i am getting at is the lack of consistency and transparency in how people are engaging on these sites.
A large number of users don’t actually provide any clear or recent photos of themselves upfront, yet still expect others to establish attraction early on or move conversations off-platform quickly. In contrast, many people do share content or photos openly, which naturally creates an imbalance in what each person is working with at the start.
That being said it is hard to establish mutual attraction as there can’t really be mutual if only one side is visible before expectations are formed. And when that visibility only happens later, on offsite chats/text mesages, it can understandably lead to mismatched expectations.
So it’s not about being “shallow” or claiming that people cant make life long connections on here. It's about keeping expectations realistic and realizing that the shift comes from people being taken advantage of because of the inherent unbalance mentioned prior. Additionally, there’s often an expectation that access to kink-related content, attention, or conversation should be freely available, while any form of monetization is criticized as “inauthentic” or “not genuine.” That creates a contradiction where one side’s effort and boundaries are dismissed, while still expecting full access to what they provide.
I agree with all of this. Very well stated.
1 month
Pearl:
Looking for a "Genuine Connection" of a Fetish site is wild💀💀💀 especially when said "Genuine Connection " is literally just you asking for free content/Fat Chat because f
"Feedees need to show that they are in it for the right reasons"
Physical attraction is part of intimacy. People have found life partners on websites such as this. Your reaction is symptomatic of exactly the shift I am describing.
1 month
Hiccupx:
Hopefully you have noticed that we've been trying to build the community on here, with the St. Valentines day give away and Messy March, but it can be pretty difficult getting people to respond.
We're constantly working to try and make the site better, and sure the interface could be more modern, but I don't think this is the real issue. I've been on the internet from it's conception so i've seen the nature of it change over the years. I would say that in general people are less responsive than they were, not just here but on most sites. They seem less inclined to make connections, and many BBW dating sites and smaller sites have died as a consequence. People are more used to content and connections being delivered to them, rather than reaching out to get it. We try our best to provide and engaging platform/facility but it's down to you pelple to decide how you want to use it.
It’s remarkable that you have achieved such longevity. Congratulations. As someone who has been present in one form or another since more or less the beginning, FF has become an institution.
I think the problem being described here reaches far beyond this website. Over the past two decades, digital technology has fundamentally reshaped how we relate to one another online. Facebook is the archetypal example. It began as a reliable way to stay connected with friends, near and far. Now it often feels oddly hollow, with little in the way of genuine conversation beyond one or two stalwart voices in most people’s feeds.
I’m no social scientist, just an observer, but it does feel as though the surge of Web 2.0 hit its high water mark more than a decade ago and has been receding ever since. Much of that shift seems tied to the pull of profit, as the priorities of a handful of platforms have come to shape the tone and structure of online interaction itself.
1 month
I can’t help but feel there is a strong sense of entitlement in this thread. Let’s not forget, FF is a site started by a guy (Hiccupx, above). As someone with a little knowledge of the economics of running a website, I’m going to stick my neck out and suggest that FF is far from a profitable venture, and the paid features are more to do with it paying its way, rather than it being a drain on the wallet of the founder.
1 month
Fatten Me Up Please:y'all saw what happened to Dahmer, right? This shite is sick
Get a life, not eat one.
Joins kink website. ✅
Kink shames others. ✅
1 year
Arne The Viking:
Absolutely too good to be true. Snake oil. Save your money.
There are medications that do increase appetite, some of which are available without prescription.
* This post does not constitute medical advice. 🧐
JustAnotherFeeder:
What about mass gainers? Are they an efficient way to get lots of calories into a feedee?
As Munchies says, shakes tend to be high protein, as they're intended for supplementing when trying to add muscle mass. There are carbohydrate-based shakes available, but there are much more enjoyable ways to consume carbs.
Heavy cream shakes seem to be generally regarded as the most effective "supplementary" source of calories.
2 years
I am not recommending that you research cyproheptadine. 👀
2 years
Absolutely too good to be true. Snake oil. Save your money.
There are medications that do increase appetite, some of which are available without prescription.
* This post does not constitute medical advice. 🧐
2 years
