I'm in Newport News (but will probably be moving to the southside in a few months) and I'd love to go to a meetup. I used to attend meetups semi-regularly when I lived in the Washington DC area. I've tried to get some interest in a local meetup on here before but no one seems to want to go offline.

Hey, I play games on my MacBook Pro or on the PS4. I also stream on Twitch. Last year, I streamed a 100% run in Horizon: Zero Dawn on Ultra Hard. I also played Death Stranding. Just finished 2064: Read Only Memories on stream (and Kingdom Two Crowns off stream) and I just started playing Disco Elysium for the first time (and I'm streaming it). I'm looking forward to Horizon: Forbidden West coming out.

My favorite games are all over the place. Anything from Katamari to Borderlands to Portal to SimCity. I'm open to a wide number of genres, and I like AAA & indy games alike (as well as games modern & retro (and VERY retro! Like 30-40 years old!)), but I like games that have a great story/writing, or incredible graphics/music, or are genre-defying.

1) Yup, 100 lbs ago.
2) Yup
3) If you mean literally can't get in... no. If you mean can't sit comfortably in the seat, yes (car shopping was miserable, actually, because all the seatbelts dig in)
4) Same as 3
5) Nope, who needs scales?
6) Nope
7) I don't know what that is
8) Oh gosh, yes. I've been using my belly rolls as an extra set of hands for at least the past 150lbs
9) You have inspired me to try. I just added a cake to my grocery order. Good job, folks.
10) Yup, although I prefer to be the one getting squashed.

The 2011 Toyota Camry the passenger side was fine but the driver side, the seatbelt dug into me; the 2013 Camry the driver's side was fine, but I had problems with the passenger side.

The 2012 Honda Accord was terrible... the sides of the top part of the seats do that "wing" thing (that cradles and hugs smaller people) and my back is too big and it just dug into my back. (Also the bottoms of the seats were way too small).

I drove a friend's 2011 Honda Fit for years (and loved it) but it's starting to get too small... the seatbelt really digs in now and there's not a lot of legroom, width wise. (We test drove one of those too.)

The 2012 Chevy Cruze is the car my mom has (and we're borrowing right now)... its seats do similar things (esp. the bottoms doing the curving up thing) but not nearly as bad. But the console juts out into the legroom and I can't spread my legs enough to accomodate my thighs and I think I injured my leg, so... not so much.)

We also test drove a 201X Smart Fortwo Passion (I used to drive them years ago as well) but it was a very rough ride and it just wasn't spacious enough for us to have as our only car as a 1 car family. (It would make a fine 2nd car for us, for him to commute to work in.)

Finally, we tried a 201X Chevy Impala, supposedly "a couch on wheels" when it comes to comfort, and frankly? The seatbelt dug into me just the same as a Camry. I didn't find it to be that much more comfortable than the Camry, honestly.

I'm looking for advice on buying a car for our fat asses.

So, for all you super fatties out there... what kind of car do you drive? (Or what would you like to be driving?) Our good car died a few weeks ago and we have a few days before we have to return our loaner. Neither of us have ever bought a car before (we just had hand-me-downs) and I know next to nothing about cars. I'm 5'1", 350ish, and there's a LOT in my butt and hips and thighs and I have massive upper arms. He's 6' about 300 and it's almost all in his ball belly. We need something with wide seats that actually hold me, that don't dig into me, (and doesn't have the seat belt super digging into me), a wider seating area up top (so I'm not all scrunched up in my arms while driving it.), and enough room to hold my feet and legs out properly in the passenger area. (We're a one car family, so it has to be comfortable both in the drivers seat for me AND the passenger seat.)

Our budget tops out at $10k. We need something preferably 75k or less (although we'll go more for Hondas and Toyotas) because we can't keep pumping money into our cars (we already have one almost dead car we've put too much into). We're looking at sedans & hatchbacks (can't afford a CRV, minivan, or pickup), and would prefer a compact or mid-sized if it means it's actually comfortable. Fuel economy is important to us for budget & environmental reasons. 2008 and newer, plz.

Any options? (And please only answer if you have experience at roughly our size or bigger (or your partner/friend/ex has experience). Smaller fats are lovely but don't have the experience of the issues of our size.) I'll put what we've already tried below. (In short, Toyota Camry is the best so far but still the seatbelt digs in. Also tried Honda Fit, Honda Accord, Chevy Cruze, Chevy Impala, Smart Fortwo.)

I'm in the same boat as her (short, big butt) and have the exact same problems. I've even asked others for advice on this myself in the past. Here's what seems to work for me right now.

1) flushable wipes help TREMENDOUSLY. I prefer Target's brand (Up and Up) because I find they don't fall apart when you're wiping. Much better than Walmart brand, Cottonelle, or the (IMO) terrible smelling Charmin.

2) The way you position yourself to wipe is important. I scootch myself forward on the seat so most of me is hanging off, and my feet go around to the right side. (because I'm a righty) I turn and brace myself with my left hand on the wall to the right, or a railing if there is one (like in a public toilet). It just so happens in my rental, an old person lived here before us so there's a handle between the toilet and the shower in the wall, and I hang onto that. With this position and reaching, I can wipe. (Also, frankly, it helps to not have to go first thing in the morning. To be a little more awake at first and more limber before doing this. Although obviously one can't usually pick when it's time.)

3) I don't own a bidet or a bidet attachment. In part because, frankly, I'm terrified if I get one, I'm going to stop reaching around so much, and then not be able to do it, and someday I'll be out and about and need to wipe after #2 and not be able to reach. (esp. in that I have medical issues that sometimes when I need to #2 is... unpredicable) I *want* to keep stretching and reaching, esp. as I've lost a lot of other mobility.

4) What I *do* own, though, is a hand held shower nozzle, which I occasionally use for washing down there. I sit on my tub, feet out of it, my butt hanging over into the tub, and rinse myself off that way. I usually wipe once with a flushable wipe before doing this to get the vast majority of it off. (Also, this super helps with menstrual period cleanup.)

Really, I can't recommend a hand held shower nozzle enough for fat hygiene. And it's just something that screws on your shower, so it's no problem for a rental.

I hope this helps!

Absolutely this. I've been involved in the BDSM Scene most of my adult life, and pretty much all of my partners have been from there. None of them have been feedists, but they've all been fat and open to playing with my fetish, even if they're not open to gaining. We do roleplay, going to buffets (at least before COVID), general talk about how sexy fat is, gentle teasing, etc. (I have to admit, I don't think it would work for me with a partner who was fat and didn't want to be fat. As much as i'm a fatty and a feedist, I'm also a fat admirer and I need my partner to be comfortable with my, well, admiring their fat.)

I've found the more "different" (and accepting of that difference) a person is, the easier it is to get them to understand/accept something like fat admiration or feedism, even if it's not their thing. If someone is, say, a proud geek, well, they're already going against the grain of society, what's one more thing? (This is how I met kinky partners before I got into the BDSM Scene. The kink-geek crossover is HUGE.)

Note: I'm the kind of feedist (mutual gainer) who doesn't actually need my partner to be actively gaining (or me to be actively gaining) for me to get off. I don't know if this would work if I required the actual gains to be happy.

I'm on SSDI (Social Security Disability Insurance, NOT SSI - Supplemental Security Income) due to mental disabilities. I'm happy to answer questions about being on disability, but I can say that extreme obesity alone is definitely NOT enough to get on disability, that they're very clear about that in the documentation. (Sorry, all you folks with King Sized Homer fantasies.)

Also, the amount you get depends on your work history. I had enough work history to receive SSDI. If you don't, and you still qualify as disabled and poor enough, what you get is SSI. People on SSDI get Medicare, people on SSI get Medicaid. (There's some edge cases where you can get both.)

There IS an amount you can work every month (hours and/or money) and still receive SSI or SSDI (in fact, there's even programs to encourage disabled people to try working by giving them better health insurance or by automatically giving them their disability back if they fail) but it's a very complicated formula, and it's even trickier if your work is owning your own business/working for yourself.

So did that discord ever start up? (I remember joining one discord but IDK if that was it and it got weird or something so I left?) Because I, too, am down with getting something like this going. I need more of this in my life.

Let me tell you... going to a running store and having them fit my feet to the right shoes and recommend special insoles has made a HUGE HUGE difference in my mobility & ability to stand. (esp. the insoles) A decent running store won't shame you, will really know their stuff (they'll probably have you walk around barefoot, they may have a special machine that makes like a model of your feet), and while it might cost you $100-$150, this is an investment. (And if you wear out the shoes faster than you can plunk down another grand, you can always re-order the same shoes/insoles online at a fraction of the cost.) A friend of mine who's a runner has been taking me for years... at first I went from being able to stand for an hour or less to being able to stand 3h or more. (I'm bigger now and more out of shape and less mobile, but w/o these shoes & insoles, I don't think I could get around at all.) (Also, running socks are just the BEST. SUPER sweat wicking, they feel SO soft, and they hug your feet in all the right ways.)

Also, I know a lot of people don't wear shoes inside, but you need those insoles for support, so make sure you wear them inside too.

So, yes, I totally recommend going to a running store & having them fit you & find the right pair of shoes+insoles for you! (FWIW, in the Washington DC area, I recommend Fleet Feet Sports, esp. the Kentlands Gaithersburg location. Apparently Fleet Feet is a chain, but that's the location that has always given me excellent customer service.)