Idk how high calorie they are but I go through oreos like crazy. Because the packs are so large and u eat mindlessly, I've had days where ive eaten more than 2 bags on top of my other meals!

Not a lift but... I've been dancing lately and theres a section of our dance where im meant do kind of like a trust fall into another dancer, then they bring me back up, and I offered to switch but she said she had it and maneuvered my body in the movement! She definitely struggled a little, but she has like the traditional ballerina body, so shes probably less than half my weight! Honestly it has been kinda wild practicing and doing that fall then lift with her!

Admittedly I've never been skinny/fit per say, so I cant relate on that level, but i have had several instances where I put on lots of weight quickly, as well as moved from a smaller town with many fat/overweight folks to a city with few to no overweight folks (especially in my age range).

For your thighs, get mid rise or higher pants and wear ones that are a slimmer fit (aka not baggy, just a larger size but a slim cut), as then the fabric will act as a barrier between your thighs and prevent chafing. Honestly, it sounds like your pants just aren't fitting right my friend, or you just need to adjust to wearing them higher.

I dont engage in health conversations about others, so when I shut it down when its about myself, its more typical and leaves less room for questions.

As for community, I invested my free time into community activities that I liked that are sedentary, (I.e. craft circles, D&D, board game groups, book clubs, art classes,) and found folks that wanted to do things that didnt require physical activities that I cant do in my 320lb+ body! I didnt/haven't really met many plus sized folks, but the people I have met have not ever made me feel uncomfortable or excluded due to my size which is nice, and its nice that it isn't the focus, where my gain unfortunately is the focus sometimes if I meet up with friends who knew me when I was 100lbs+ lighter and im not necessarily comfortable discussing it.

I am a 7 wide, and my feet have gotten thicker (think bottom of foot to top of foot) so I cant wear most shoes with a non-adjustable top, even closed toe but open foot cut in/squeeze my foot and hurt (boots, shoes, ballet flats, clogs, boat shoes. For me, I can only do adjustable shoes, lace up runners, lace up boots, sandals with adjustable straps.

I live in my birkinstocks, maybe its a west coast thing, but the regular width is actually wide width, and the thin straps with adjustable buckles are perfect, plus because they mold to your foot, they are super supportive/ergonomic.

Hi! HR person here funnily enough! I'll do my best here:

How to combat size discrimination in hiring: Few things here, ironically easiest is thing to do is whenever possible, interview virtually, as for ssbb folks its easier to hide in camera angles vs IRL. How you dress is important, I'll touch on it below. Big vs. Small company can vary: some small companies suffer from 'like-me' bias in hiring moreso than large corporations, however on the flip side small companies with larger folks on staff may be more welcoming vs. Large corps, it really depends on your local area/business in question. Also, eat before your interview!! Obviously, dont overstuff yourself, but having your big belly audibly rumble during an interview wont help against size discrimination. BIGGEST TIP: Come prepared. Aside from being physically daunting, the hardest stereotype to overcome as a fat person in a hiring competition is perceived laziness. By studying up, knowing company history, weaving corporate values into your answers of their questions, having specific questions based off the job description and being punctual, will not only make a great impression, but will help overcome any stereotypes regarding laziness.

What types of jobs to look for in the advent of AI: Less about specific jobs, more about industries here, focus on industries, regardless of position where they deal with sensitive data, as regardless of role, they will likely have large sweeping policies preventing AI use for data protection. Some that come to mind are: government, health care, social services, anything with kids, law/law enforcement, organizations serving marginalized groups. The tech industry will be the first (already is the first) to replace people with AI, so I would personally avoid. Next would be to look at jobs AI cant replace, which is often physical labor (not ideal in our community), jobs that need to be done in person, or jobs that deal with managing people.

How to dress if your a larger person for an interview: Wear clothes that fit!!! I know this is way easier said than done for fat folks, but avoid clothes that show skin where it typically shouldn't be shown (gaping buttons, shirts that show your belly if you raise your arms), that are so tight they strain or look like you could burst out of them, as well as clothes that are too big (look either bigger than you are, or like you are ready to lounge/relax as opposed to work). Be comfortable, but not ready to stuff yourself and not leave the house lol. Make sure your clothes are clean, in reasonable condition (dont need to be new, but dont look like they are near the end of their days), no food stains. Keep your face/hair clean/groomed. Your interviewer won't care if your shirt is tucked in or not, belt on or under your belly, as long as the look is clean and intentional looking. No graphic tshirts, jeans are fine as long as they have no holes, if wearing shorts ensure they are formal (not cargo).

I am not a feeder, but a really easy way to start things along is by making ingredient swaps to food/drinks he is already consuming (i.e. half and half swapped for heavy cream, olive oil swapped for butter, diet anything swapped to their regular counterparts, whole wheat breads swapped to white, etc). Also just adding on to foods he already eats, (I.e. if he is having a salad, sprinkle bacon bits on top, having chips, give him a creamy dip for them, having ice cream, add fudge or sprinkles or candy or nuts, mac and cheese, add extra cheese to his portion).

Nuts are hugely overlooked, as folks think they are healthy, which they are, but they are very calorie dense with lots of fat. Time of day matters too, eating late in the day means there's less time/opportunity for calories to be burned off before bed. Proximity/temptation, keep favorite snacks out on counters/tables, pack in his work bag.

Finally, subtly encourage being sedentary- dont plan dates/outings with physical activity, do plan dates with food around, whether its a dinner date, or a board game night with chips/candy/milkshakes- especially dates where food does not appear to be the focus, but is tempting and highly present.

Above all else, make him feel sexy/desired, because relationship weight happens for a reason, its when folks feel safe/confident enough to let themselves go!

The neck growth was something I really noticed, regular length necklaces are usually too short/choke me if I can clasp them now, so im usually buying 18" or even 20" chains then removable pendants

Im only 324lbs and I cant do that, thats amazing! If I squat down I have to at least put my hands on my knees to get up and if im completely on the ground I definitely need my hands!

I've definitely felt this, both in the past and this year... When I was in my low 200lb range I had a lot of newer red stretch marks on my belly, plus I was 18, and was out with other recent high school grads who were sticks, and this year as I went out after gaining a ton of weight this past year...

young me used lots of cocktails/alcohol as the way to feel more confident, current me packs to keep my mind busy: a good book, speaker for music, large beach blanket, swim goggles, and cash for ice cream/other snacks. Plus checking out other folks bellies you do adjust overtime, its more just trying to stay in the moment and not hyper focus on how you are being perceived that really helps in the end

Are you intentionally gaining weight: On and off... off right now

Do you gain weight every year: Yes

Weight: 324lbs

Size: 3X, Size 24, sometimes a 26

Avg calories per day: Usually ~4000 right now, but was consistently eating ~6000 for over a year until last month

Avg # of meals per day: 4 plus snacks

Typical meals eaten on average day: Breakfast - large coffee with lots of cream and sugar, 2 breakfast wraps, a muffin, a doughnut, 3 hashbrowns; Lunch: Varies, either a crap ton of dumplings or a shrimp burrito, with a side of chips and queso, and 2 churros; Dinner pt. 1: usually fast food before the fiancé gets home, a couple crispy chicken ranch snack wraps, either a double cheeseburger or a hamburger + 6 nuggets, and a hot fudge sundae; Dinner pt 2: at home- seasoned chicken thighs, mashed potatoes, some kind of salad or out- usually thai, pad thai, spring rolls, mango cheesecake; Snacks: oreos, granola bars, spoonfuls of peanut butter, lots of iced tea, fruit

Exercise amount: since mid June, 4 1hr dance classes per week

Laziness level: Depends on if im motivated (food or something i like)

Relationship with food: Complicated, love indulging, obsessed with flavours, always wanting to try more foods, like feeling my belly fill and expand and hurt from fullness, struggling with impacts to social participation/health