Breeders and gainers, a mythical combo?

Preggogainer:
I�m currently 5 months pregnant and have used this as an excuse to start gaining (something I have wanted all my life). I am up 25 lbs and am loving the comments about how big I�m getting (which people seem to feel more comfortable saying since I�m pregnant). I plan to keep gaining after the pregnancy.

karenjenk:
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My sister... wow. she has 4 kids. and she never lost any of the weight with any of them.
She gained an EXTREME amount of weight in about 6 years.
She's not happy about this but doesnt try to lose it. But also her kids are a handful.
Her husband left her because of her weight and she went into depression and has gained even more.


Nok:
That's such fcking bullsht. Men like that should have their dicks amputated.

Startnew:
Or even worse be left alone taking care of the kids. Will they find any time for the gym then???


XD
5 years

When does encouragement go too far?

come clean, but do it carefully. there is a good chance here that she is a foodie, and, if you can be gentle enough, she might be able to come to accept her body. It sounds like she wants to. Might have a keeper here man. Women don't gain 60 pounds because one random person says its cool to have ice cream. She obviously trusts and likes you. Just be careful of the order in which you push the buttons, as there is also a good chance she is not going to be comfortable at first with the idea of potentially being a full-on feedee on the inside. Its almost always better to guide someone to who they are than to tell them outright.
5 years

Relationship advice

softandchubby: I'm trying not to sound crazy cause I don't care if he looks at other feedees and whatever when I'm gone and he wants to rub one off but i was in bed next to him trying to sleep and he is just looking at these girls. I confronted him about it and he got angry saying I'm making a big deal cause it's nothing but he doesn't get it hurts me when he'd rather look at other girls when I'm right next to him or in the room. Is this a normal guy/feeder thing?


No, that's weird. Sorry. I mean, no one's normal, including me obviously lol, but that is a different kind of strange. I'd guess it to be one of a few things, some of the likelier of which, imho, are:
1. He is trying to get you to do it with him, for any of several reasons, possibly not even thought out..
2. He is trying to manipulate you or your feelings, again for any of several reasons.
3. He doesn't know how to be in a relationship yet and is still testing what is appropriate or acceptable.
4. (Similar to 3) He is testing you or himself.
5. He is socially retarded.
5 years

Fantasy feeder need to desperately upgrade the site, appearance, pics, and info.

Nok:
btw, since you're here, you probably already know this, but the number one suggested change I see around the site mentioned over and over is the ability for users to block selected individuals and/or non-members (even if only for a fixed span of time) from seeing either their profiles, posts, or pictures. I think this might create a much safer feeling environment for some users without really affecting the experience of everyone else, and ironically also create a more friendly environment.

c00kie:
Hi Nok,

Definitely agree with you. I can say with certainty that this is a priority, and it is up there on the list of things to get fixed around here.

Completely appreciate that people want to feel safe online, and that is super important to us here too.. So is the matter of privacy! Blocking people gives you that control of who is allowef in your circle!

The current block feature does stop any blocked member's from being able to message you on the site, wether this is via message or in chat. However, being able to stop blocked members from visiting profiles and viewing content is not something that is currently in place.

In regards to your previous post.. I think although hiccupx is a little elusive.. an response from him would make the most sense. So keep your eyes peeled!


I follow him, and I know he works hard. I will continue, and I hope he finds help.
5 years

Fantasy feeder need to desperately upgrade the site, appearance, pics, and info.

c00kie:
I know you guys think that the site hasn't been updated in a while. So you may be suprised to find that it's actually worked on... Every day! It's a full time labour of love for hiccupx.

There's so much going on.. and as it's just one person coding and making the physical changes.. It's super hard to get round to all areas of the site to improve and update, so its done in small releases rather than as a whole massive change. Galleries have been updated, story tools updated, upgrades section updated, search sections updated, mod sections updated, notifications tool updated, earnings accounts updated. A new chat was created... yes it still needs some work...For now it's functional.. and usable! It also means.. when we want to make changes and update chat, we have full control of how it looks and works because it was made by FF!

So much work has gone into this site, and just because it's not always front end updates.. you guys think nothing happens here, and it is simply not true.

All of your feedback is appreciated, and anything that needs to be worked on from the suggestions given is added to the extensive list. However to make one simple change.. then testing, to make sure it all works and hasn't impacted anything else on the site before making it live, can take weeks even months!

In regards to the pink theme... it's called branding and identity. FF has always had this colour theme.. it's not likely to change. However you can customise your profile with the profile plus options, so your own page can be changed to reflect your personality or fave pics /images.

We are working on things.. Please do keep giving suggestions and feedback! However just remember. Rome wasn't built in a day.


btw, since you're here, you probably already know this, but the number one suggested change I see around the site mentioned over and over is the ability for users to block selected individuals and/or non-members (even if only for a fixed span of time) from seeing either their profiles, posts, or pictures. I think this might create a much safer feeling environment for some users without really affecting the experience of everyone else, and ironically also create a more friendly environment.
5 years

Fantasy feeder need to desperately upgrade the site, appearance, pics, and info.

c00kie:
I know you guys think that the site hasn't been updated in a while. So you may be suprised to find that it's actually worked on... Every day! It's a full time labour of love for hiccupx.

There's so much going on.. and as it's just one person coding and making the physical changes.. It's super hard to get round to all areas of the site to improve and update, so its done in small releases rather than as a whole massive change. Galleries have been updated, story tools updated, upgrades section updated, search sections updated, mod sections updated, notifications tool updated, earnings accounts updated. A new chat was created... yes it still needs some work...For now it's functional.. and usable! It also means.. when we want to make changes and update chat, we have full control of how it looks and works because it was made by FF!

So much work has gone into this site, and just because it's not always front end updates.. you guys think nothing happens here, and it is simply not true.

All of your feedback is appreciated, and anything that needs to be worked on from the suggestions given is added to the extensive list. However to make one simple change.. then testing, to make sure it all works and hasn't impacted anything else on the site before making it live, can take weeks even months!

In regards to the pink theme... it's called branding and identity. FF has always had this colour theme.. it's not likely to change. However you can customise your profile with the profile plus options, so your own page can be changed to reflect your personality or fave pics /images.

We are working on things.. Please do keep giving suggestions and feedback! However just remember. Rome wasn't built in a day.


All true, and as always, thanks for all the work you do, it is appreciated and noticed. But why does he have to do all the coding by himself still, 20 years on? I'm sure there must be other people you guys trust with both coding skills and dedication to the cause? Certainly, even if not doubling productivity, increasing manpower must increase your capacity for accomplishing your goals by some measure, right?
5 years

At what point does a feeder become uninterested...

Tiapet:
I posted this in the wrong forum previously...I think.

I asked this of a feeder who had on their profile that they were single because their ex stopped gaining..... My message to them is below

Hello I hope your day is lovely. I was wondering... How big did your ex grow before she stopped gaining and you lost interest?

I am asking because it fascinates me to understand whether feederism is based on actual emotional connection or purely selfishness...If you don't continue growing...I will leave. Does it then become emotionally abusive because your feedee actually cares for you and becomes willing to surpass their limits in order to not be dumped?

Just wondering...

So my 2nd question: Is a Feeder truly a FA or simply out for their own selfish thrill until the ride ends?


It's always a spectrum. Every large group of human beings contains monsters, predators, and people that have mental illness and/or dysfunction. Groups like ours that are so tabooed tend have a moderately higher number visible for several reasons imho:

1. A taboo will tend to push many people that are toward the saner end of the spectrum into the closet in some form.
2. Being tabooed for something inherent to yourself tends to make you both less stable and less willing to follow social norms.
3. The internet is mostly anonymous, and so people have less inhibitions
4. People that are less-inhibited in general also tend to express themselves in places and cultures like this in higher proportion and at higher "volume".

"Feeder" is just another sexual classification, and probably includes just about every type of person imaginable. Certainly the breadth of story and experience material I've read over the last 20 years suggest as much to me. Unfortunately, in a society where excess calories is infinitely more common and thus more commonly dangerous that insufficient calories, weight gain (and, for that matter, fat admiration) is commonly considered unhealthy, and thus anyone willing to forgo such... knowledge... is both exceptionally counterculture and of the opinion that the weight gain of their partner beyond whatever arbitrary point is more important than their health beyond whatever arbitrary point.

Now that the extremes are out of the way, I will say that I self-identify as a feeder, and though infinite weight gain does lead to inevitable death, the truth is neither infinite nor inevitable: It is gray, like almost everything else. Fat, feeding, and even weight gain can absolutely have appropriate and reasonable roles in a loving and otherwise-normal relationship, just like any kind of sexuality, just like bdsm or loving feet or being gay, imho. It is those terms, "reasonable" and "loving" that are the important part. Just like in bdsm, safe, sane, consenual, and have a safe word. And, of course, act like an adult, and learn how to channel your needs in ways and to degrees that are creative rather than potentially destructive.

Personally, I love fat and I love the idea of creating fat on a partner, but I have channeled passions into my own mind to shape myself in sane ways, like being wholly satisfied with seeing fat on a partner, especially fat I've created, without having to constantly create more. Or being able to channel needs into wonderful sites like this, where they can be let out in talking with like minded people, roleplaying, fantasy, or writing stories that are far beyond anything that will be possible in my lifetime. I find that sci-fi and fantasy and speculative fiction in general, even horror (XD), are natural partners with tabooed and potentially morally-ambiguous genres like this one. Reality can be a bitch, but it is something we all live in - best to get used to it and figure out how to get by and be happy without making things worse... and, perhaps, in doing so, even make things better.

Wow. That was a rant, haha
5 years

Fantasy feeder need to desperately upgrade the site, appearance, pics, and info.

karenjenk:
Some of us meet in the chat area here on FF and then go to another chat site.
Chatstep was the best because you could make your own room.
You can stay logged in the chatroom here on FF while in another room. That way you can see who comes and goes and invite them to go to a better chat service.
I would be willing to pay a fee if the Chat function was better.


ADMIN READ THIS PLEASE AND TAKE HER ADVICE!!!
lol
Ditto. I pay occasionally because I still hold out hope for improvement, and because it's one of the older and largest sites dedicated solely to this culture, but it comes after everything else and the other stuff I donate to because, frankly, at this point it is a donation. I don't pay for any of the services that come with subscribing - I donate to the cause and to support and in the hope that services here will eventually be worth paying for and use a model worth investing in.
5 years

Breeders and gainers, a mythical combo?

Preggogainer:
I�m currently 5 months pregnant and have used this as an excuse to start gaining (something I have wanted all my life). I am up 25 lbs and am loving the comments about how big I�m getting (which people seem to feel more comfortable saying since I�m pregnant). I plan to keep gaining after the pregnancy.

karenjenk:
-
My sister... wow. she has 4 kids. and she never lost any of the weight with any of them.
She gained an EXTREME amount of weight in about 6 years.
She's not happy about this but doesnt try to lose it. But also her kids are a handful.
Her husband left her because of her weight and she went into depression and has gained even more.


That's such fcking bullsht. Men like that should have their dicks amputated.
5 years

Feedist songs

sativah_sauce:
Once i was on one of the big lyrics websites and you can search the word fat, many of them were about loving fat women and on the rare occasion some were about fattening someone up


that's kinda cool. what songs did you find about fattening someone up?
5 years