Malvineous:
I'm addressing this to people who say they love contrast. I'm curious as to whether the contrast is actually what most people here are into, or if it's just a preference for a partner of a particular size. Maybe I'm way off base, but I get the impression that with many people who say they love contrast, it's just a way to reframe their physical attractions around a secondary effect that they like.

I suppose what I'm trying to get at is, if you're fat and prefer thin partners for instance, do you prefer thin partners because there's contrast? Or do you enjoy the contrast that happens because of your attraction to thin partners? Would your preference change if you were also thin, or would you still prefer thin people regardless of there being no contrast?

Malvineous:
Here's my theory. From what I've read, the way memory works in your brain is by creating a neural pathway for the event. The more your brain travels that neural pathway (the more you think about it), the stronger it gets, and the easier to access next time. This is why people can easily forget what they had for breakfast yesterday, but they still remember things they had to memorize in school when they were 10 years old, even if it's knowledge that they don't find useful in their daily lives. In the first example, they only thought about it while it was happening and never returned to that neural pathway, whereas in the second, they had to think about it a lot, so they permanently made that memory strong in their minds.

I think fetishes work in a similar way. They create a neural pathway of a trigger, like 'fat = arousal', and the more that gets triggered in their brains, the stronger that connection becomes. Your interest in it may come and go (just like you can go years without thinking about a specific memory), but that connection is permanent and there's no way to weaken it. I think if you don't want to have certain fetishes, your best bet is to not expose your brain to them in the first place.

Baronbeta:
I think this checks out. I’ve tried to reduce the effect femdom has on me, even erase it by any means possible I found online, and nothing worked. I could put it to the back burner for a bit, but sooner or later, I’d hear a phrase from a person or TV, or see something that immediately triggered a response and it came flooding back.

Currently, I’m able to tel myself I don’t want to be fat and can eat a normal portion. And yet other times, like yesterday, I’m happily indulging in a double burger and fries from Shake Shake (my wife kept feeding me the fries wtf!) and snacking on available cookies. And yet I can tell myself I don’t want the extra weight…

I’m worried it’s already been neurally tied to my love of femdom and is just here to stay at this point…

Harry-Misty:
I'm really in love with my girlfriend (wife). She's a foodie but got thoughts about loosing weight due to her toxic mother that tells her to slim down. I'm the first person in her life that loves her overweight body and soft, cute belly. I'm treating and sometimes feeding her with food that she loves. She's shocked that someone's really loves her weight. I want her to grow bigger but don't know how to do it better.. what if I'll tell her that I want her to gain more..?

Harry-Misty:
Does anyone know about better gains with heavy cream? How much do i need to drink it and what i can do to make it easier to drink?

LetsEatl:
I'm more of a feeder, but I've always been curious about what it feels like to be obese. I think I would be a better feeder to somebody if I also understood what it was like to be obese myself. I would have to gain about 30 lbs to reach this, which doesn't seem too crazy.

For those that started off not obese then took the plunge, did anything noticeably change?

CookNFeedin:
Not sure I'd be able to provide better directions in the talk than the link you got earlier. Best I can say, is be open and honest. Certain things you'll need to accept the feedback on. It's your body, but you're not the only one that likes to play with your penis(I assume) so her opinion matters. Introducing her to this site or one similar so she can see the big picture may also not be a terrible idea if she's receptive. If she's already on board with fem dom, there are other aspects of this fetish that can lean into that.

52Percent:
The main reason why so many be hating fat acceptance now is because activists didn’t live until their 40-50s. Yeah… not exactly a good look.

I mean sure I do like them thick and all, but yeah I guess some people need to find a way to tackle the health side of things so that it wouldn’t be such a problem if we’re talking about acceptance.

Xenonprincess:
Generally breeding is more of a biological urge that most of the population gets (not all but definitely a majority). Read almost any romance novel and the idea of "breeding" is present. Big bellies are very sexy in this community too. Most women are socialized to be (as well as sometimes naturally are more) submissive. Men especially when interacting with women in this sort of context feel entitled to sexual interactions so women who are dominant are less likely to put up with that sort of behavior. I don't think it's more common in the fetish, just more common on forums.

Greentrees8733:
Here to drop the entirely unsatisfying answer of "it depends".

As Munchies explained, people's experiences with fetishes vary. I'll add that IMO and IME, whether a fetish is "permanent" or not has very little to do with the fetish itself, and is more about the person's interest in the fetish.

If you only developed interest in this fetish as a result of hypno or similar files, hypnotherapy might be able to help you move on from it, if that's what you're looking for.

However, asking this question in FF (or in any feedism space) is prooobably gonna skew the answers you get. Survivorship bias, ya know?

Premier654321:
Figured something out yesterday that I’ve wanted to try for a while. I got a box of Jif Portable Squeeze Creamy Peanut Butter - 20oz / 4ct. Four squeeze tubes of peanut butter. This is 3040 calories, 256 grams of total fat and 336 percent of my total fat daily value. I put these four squeeze tubes up against my space heater set on the highest heat and fan speed. While waiting about 10 mins for them to warm up, I chugged three pints of beer, then, one by one, started picking up each tube of peanut butter, and was able to suck down all 4 tubes in about 6 minutes, chasing them down with my fourth beer. The feeling was so hot to be able to drink down that much fat while hammering the beer at the same time.