2, 3, 4.

I enjoy the teaching her that despite what she thinks, being fat makes her more beautiful. I like that little bit of resistance AND her giving in.

It's why I fully support her when she wants to lose weight.

I think the yo-yo-ing in weight also helps instill a more defeatist attitude where they become more given over, resigned to being heavy.

Feeling pretty lucky as a feeder.

After my wife lost a LOT of weight, just as I had discovered I like her fat and love growing her, I thought everything was lost.

But over time she started to snack again, osscilating between "give me chips" and "I need to get back to my lower weight"

I finally started telling her I love her with more weight -- and I show it and proof it. Reward it even.

She gets no sexual thing out of this at all, just the enjoyment of giving in to her munchies. And she's slowly but steadily gaining.

I've pampered her to where we're at the point that I do all groceries and prepare all her food. She knows I'm an FA but doesn't really (want to) know I'm a feeder. Still, have almost full control over what she consumes or what there is to consume.

I'm happy And yes -- within the limitations of a woman wanting to eat whatever but gain nothing, she's happy too.

I love my wife, who is is, before anything else about her. Which is also why at times I feel conflicted about encouraging her to gain weight, and feel happy and "relieved" of responsibility when she is doing the gaining through her own lack of discipline.

To me my fetish is a game, up to a certain point. I love the gaining aspect even before the actual weight. If she would stop today and go on a diet, I would still love her, never even think about leaving her. But the moment she would cave and ask for some chips, I would get her a bag, with some ice cream to follow, and a nice big dessert to top it off.

Yes, there is a tension between being selfish and love, between fetish and accepting the other as they are. That she isn't fully on board all the time (24/7/365) that she is getting fat(ter) is part of the fun, for me.

My wife always has had an eating lifestyle that leads to being overweight. I encourage her in that lifestyle; having seen her "thin", I definitely prefer her bigger version.

For the most part she is happy. She is happy living a simple life, no stress eating, fun. She loves the care, attention, and adoration she gets from me.

The only thing that keeps coming back is "nobody likes big fat women; on the street men would call me this and that"

I *know* I'm not the only one liking a woman bigger instead of smaller. But does anyone have a link to an article, study, whatever, that has some kind of data? A survey that says "x% of men like an overweight woman", something like that?

Been looking but can't really find something.

This. Both.

Mine likes to reward herself with food. Console herself with food. She would love be thin while not changing anything to her eating pattern. For a while, yes. For always; no.

She's so happy how happy I am with her body. She clearly enjoys the general, romantic, and sexual attention.

But despite that, much of her self-image and self-experience remains dictated by society.

I love it when my target wears stuff that isn't too lose. I love seeing her fat rolls show up. No hiding it for others that way too

I like doggie style. I first look at her belly hang.

Then from behind, I let my hands go down so I'm basically holding the sides of her belly, and I use that to guide. You feel the whole thing; amazingly exciting

Hard to put into words but it's a kind of "she has no self-discipline"/"she let's go" kind of thing.

It's a long time now girls grown into women who want to be thin(ner). That she let go and now walks around in layers of fat is visible proof of how she cannot do this.

I also like it that it's a kind of body modification. Some are into giant bolt-on implants; I love it when she's so fat there's no ignoring it

I don't see the original post so it's hard to respond to details.

I'ts very hard for a woman who doesn't want to live a whole life decicated to salad without dressing to lose weight and keep it off. Patience, young grasshopper.

The beauty of letting her go is that it gives you a new margin of gain. Just imagine this.... Over this spring and summer she works HARD at losing weight. Eats smart. Moves (even though we know that doesn't help). She loses 10 lbs initially (water weight), then a couple of pounds (usually 5-8) more. The rewards come in; she now "deserves" X, Y, or Z. She gains a pound. Loses half. Next weekend there's a part. She has some cake because she ran yesterday. Through encouragement and enabling, you make her gain 5 lbs. Isnt that sexy? Knowing that the more often she diets, the more messed up her body's setpoint becomes?

Being a feeder is a long term job. It's like playing the stocks; long term, you always gain.

The more she loses, the more feeding fun you have; the larger your margin. And -- the more time you have to convince her big is your beautiful.