Deep tissue all the way! I have chronic tension and pain in my shoulders and upper back. In that area I like my massage therapist to go as hard as they can. In the rest of my body I prefer a more moderate pressure, but still deep tissue. Mmm, it hurts so good when a strong massage therapist digs their thumb or elbow into a big muscle knot!

I clearly remember the first time I noticed myself waddling. It was a couple years ago, so maybe in the late 200s as far as pounds go. A much thinner friend and I were going to the mall. As we approached those shiny reflective glass doors, I was shocked. Not only was I an enormous blimp compared to my slim friend, I was waddling! Just slightly, but it was clear to my eyes that I was starting to develop the gait of true obesity.

Two years on, my waddle has progressed a bit further. I can still move at a decent clip if I need to, but I can't keep it up nearly as long as I could before I started gaining.

Among my friends, absolutely! None of them even come close. Among family... one of my aunts and one of my uncles are also quite fat, I don't know exactly how much they weigh though.

People seem to think that all feeders are dom and all feedees are sub. While this is often the case, some people are the opposite, and some aren't into d/s play at all.

It was a very gradual process for me. I just really love to eat, and after two years of strict dieting, the feeling of a full belly was (and still is!) nirvana. So is the freedom to eat what I choose to eat, in the amounts I choose, when I choose.

There's also the fact that I found being thin to be uncomfortable. My body had more hard edges, sitting in class or on road trips was much less comfortable since I had lost my natural seat cushion, I felt vulnerable and cold being smaller.

And then there was the way people treated me. Strangers were so much nicer, men hit on me, and all I could think of was "You are a shallow bunch of assholes, aren't you?". I resented the fact that the only way these people would treat me with courtesy was if I was conventionally pretty.

So I didn't exactly try to gain but I didn't try not to gain, either. Since I love food and have a hard time exercising in the heat, I slowly went from thick to chubby to fat. Last year I decided to see if I enjoyed feedism and deliberately gaining. I was already fat after all. Turns out I like being a feedee!

It's awful trying to find fat lady bras that fit and don't cost a fortune! Check Lane Bryant and Torrid around January, their bras usually go on sale then. Also check at the end of a season if your wife is okay with seasonal colors and prints, those go on sale when the store needs to make room for the new season's stuff.

Hey, a fellow dominant feedee! It's rare to see someone like me.

Not just jiggling, although jiggling is delightful. Things like the feeling of my soft, heavy belly resting on my thighs and touching my desk as I type. My double chin creasing and bulging as I move my head. Resting my arms and hands on my upper belly roll. These are all sensations that really bring home how incredibly fat I am! Things you don't experience as a thin person, they are unique to being fat.

Which fat sensations are your favorite?

I second what everyone else has said about fruits, veggies, and whole grains! That's how I've been eating to both feel good and try to keep the scourge of diabetes away. Another thing you can try is fruit smoothies. Get a bunch of frozen fruit (Trader Joe's usually has some) and chuck it in a blender with some vanilla or fruit flavored ice cream. Super simple, fast, tasty, and full of nutrients!

Oh, try to get plenty of protein and calcium too. The baby will take those out of your body to fuel growth, so you need to keep putting them back in. Particularly the calcium.

This is one reason I'm not really looking for a feeder right now. I enjoy good food, and yes, it can be more expensive than just eating a dozen fast food burgers. I wouldn't want someone to spend a ton of money on feeding me unless they were filthy rich. So I'm feeding myself on my own dime and gaining slowly. I'm a foodie and I make no apologies for it.