What can i expect from a feeder as gainer?

CelticBlimp:
This is a frustrated rant, but I do believe this is a good question.

As I gainer I've never had any experience with a feeder, not in person nor online, so my expectations come from what I see others tell about their own experiences. In a way we're sacrificing our bodies, health, mobility, clothes, furniture, job possibilities and social relations. All for a body size we find desirable, yet also making life harder. Is it unfair to expect a feeder's job has to reflect that sacrifice we make? They face monetary loss, that's true, but if I break up with my partner after he fattened me, he walks away with less money, but with his mobility and health intact, while I have to deal with the downfall of not having access to many jobs, fitting clothes or an outside life.
I say all this because in every conversation I had with a feeder the focus has been on what I have to do, what I have to eat, what I have to buy. Some time ago a feeder said that he would care and fatten me, that we would get a disability pension to expend on my gains. And it clicked, that way he didn't loose anything, but I did. He would gain sexual pleasure from fattening me and taking advantage of what I had, but he wouldn't give anything. I'm giving my body to you, but you won't even reflect that? What is the fairest exchange I can expect from a feeder in this regard? On my current weight and without intentionally gaining I don't expect anything from anyone but the basic respect and dignity as the humans we are, yet if making me fatter is the conversation, can I expect from my feeder that his material input reflects what I'm both giving him and giving up?


As a feeder myself, you ain't tell not a damned lie.

Most of the feeders in this community ain't shit. It's all about finding a sentient ball of fat to fool around with until they get bored.

A good feeder prioritizes their feedees' needs over their own wants. The specific dynamic can vary (for example, most heterosexual male feedees do not want female feeders buying them food), but the feeder needs to be a solid support system.

For example, when my current feedee and I got together, he made it clear that he wanted to get as fat as possible while still being mobile. So, my job was to be his cheerleader and guardrail. I fed, encouraged, and celebrated him while ensuring he never went too far.

Again, every dynamic is going to be different. But if you can't make things safe and pleasant for your feedee, what are you even doing?
10 months

Would you change what you eat f the foods you like gave you acne ?

MickRidem:
Milk and cream for me, generally. I'm trying the heavy cream for a while to see what happens, and already I'm noticing it. And I'm too old for this! 🤣

But I'm willing to temporarily sacrifice my extreme handsomeness for a little progress. 😆


If milk and cream break you out, that might not be acne. Those might be hives.
10 months

I want to eat messy tacos

Tinygirlfoodie:
want to buy them for me?


Lol, no. You are a grown-ass woman. You can buy or make your own tacos. If not, then either get a job or learn to cook.

I'd be embarrassed to admit to being so useless. If I can do it, so can you. Tacos aren't even expensive.
10 months

I want to eat messy tacos

Tinygirlfoodie:
I want some messy tacos soooo bad


Go buy/make the tacos and achieve your dreams.
10 months

I'm just looking or anyone to talk on here

Fattoo:
Fair and well.
You come across repulsive about a topic I'd expect desirable for someone wanting to fatten up.
Also applying yourself as you mentioned, shows you are a non conforming member and wanna be righteous know it all. Your advices reveal your acting as a moderator / interceptor to topics you are against. Rather than indulge in fair rationality. To make someone's new post and a new member sound preposterous instead of fine tuning what is interesting about food and getting fat. Respecting those who take the time to share their experiences and thoughts. Instead of giving them a wise ass warning. I would not want a girl like you, that doesn't enjoy my pleasures.
This site is here to revel in the fetish of food and the people who eat it.
You made yourself sound like a person who just eats to live, instead of a person who lives to eat. Your 168lbs isn't even fat yet to enjoy it. Where is your loving the fattening that comes with trying new ways to fatten up?
Maybe you could send me some recipes you find either delicious or for just getting in those extra calories at the end of the day without needing much time to prepare.. That would be nice of you, and a better way to respond.

Weetabix:
Well said. Your points are well reasoned and evidenced where as Muchies cannot link us to the posts they said existed here. Instead Muchies insinuates that anyone who does not blindly agree with their advice is an idiot.




Bless your heart, but you tried.

Let's not forget the last time we got into it, the mods sided with me because I was right.

That's all it comes down to. I know what I am talking about. Not because I'm so amazing or smart, but because I take the time to listen and learn.

And I did link the posts. If you got to the first page on the thread, there it is. How are you going to lie on me when the evidence it right there?

Bless your heart, but you tried. It's cute that I'm on your mind so much. Sure, I post a lot, but you go out of your way to try to antagonize me specifically - something that has gotten you banned before. That must have pissed you off. The only person that thinks about me more than you is my partner.



You're adorable.
10 months

Boyfriend says he is getting fat

Delta9:
How is he measuring his bodyfat? There are a lot of ways to measure and most of them aren't very accurate.
Basically, if you look fat, you're fat. If you have visible muscle definition, you're not. Maybe suggest he try a different type of measurement.
Also, a lot of people obsess over percentage numbers. Just like they do over weight. Only thing is weight is objectively much easier to measure.


There are a lot of various tests. That said, if you want to go from 20% body fat to 15%, it's not an issue of being fat. It's more about improving your body definition.

Here are some examples of what men might look like with various body fat percentages.



As you can see, 20% body fat isn't fat, but 15% body fat isn't necessarily thin either.
10 months

Boyfriend says he is getting fat

Natatat:
Okay so my boyfriend said he has a higher body fat percentage than he would like. He said he wants to be at 15% body fat or below. Right now I guess he is at 20%. I’m so confused by this because first off he looks way more muscular and built. Second he’s not fat at all or even more whatever. Third is that he has clearly put on more muscle. It was fucking annoying to hear. He said that his concern over the percentage has to do with longevity and setting himself up for success in his later 30s and 40s and so on. He said the muscle now will make it so his body will have a tendency towards that. I understand that just I am really digging how he looks. I’m worried he will get all scrawny or something. Idk I’m also just dealing with a lot of stress right now in general because a lot of my work got very inconsistent so I’m on edge already. But yeah I mean I told him all of this. But yeah idk I’m so confused. I never think about that stuff cause I have a tendency to straight up forget to eat even if I’m hungry. To the point where I’ll have a meltdown and not realize it’s from forgetting to eat. I’ve been in shape and strong and healthy all my life. Most of it probably underweight not on purpose though. A lot of food just did not agree with me. Apparently I can’t handle things with corn syrup in them or dairy and just a lot of processed stuff messes with me. So I tend to only want to eat useful food. And I won’t eat the food if it doesn’t count as useful. Just I often would rather not eat than eat stuff that will make me sick. I honestly was not aware that he would get crappy food on the days that I’m not with him. I also am not as affected by food in terms of body composition. I either have more layers of muscle or I just have less on me. As in I lose the fat first and I guess would gain the fat last. It’s strange. It sounds like a good thing but it can be bad if I get sick or am unable to get the food I need. That’s why I’m so confused by his whole percentage thing. Idk sry this is so random.


If he wants to get muscular, but drop his body fat, he isn't getting scrawny. He's getting lean. I am begging all of you to get out of the fat-thin binary. All of y'all should have learned this in school.

See an immunologist about what foods you can and cannot eat. Meal prep ahead of time so there is less work for you, and have a snack stash. Healthy snacks are the best, but anything will do.
10 months

Painful stuffings

BigGirlAri:
Anybody else get extremely turned on by shaking their belly after a big stuffing or just me


Not me, but my feedee. We are sadomasochists, and I love stuffing him until it hurts and making him move afterwards. Usually belly wobbling or kneeling is the most he's up to. I stuff him too much to do anything else.
10 months

Finally out of the closet and hoping to get too fat to go back in

Hhhggg:
Awesome, glad u go for it !

I’m gaining consistency ist key!
No one gets fat by stuffing once in a while smiley

Start to add habits, daily shakes are deffinelty one part of the equation.

I do
500ml full fat milk
100ml cream
70-100g of maltodextrin
70-100g of a protein powder

Adding up to 1200 cal.

Daily

Than having soda no light stuff


And something like always get a chocolate bare when u have the opertunity.

Using escalators, if u don’t have to walk don’t.

Increasing serving size with you daly dishes.
Ad oil when u can.

Coffee with cream.

I can assure u u pass the point of no return suner than later


If you are a beginner, you need to start slow. I am so for serious. If you go balls to the walls - especially if you are older - your body will crumble before you can get properly fat.

And don't abandon exercise - especially if you aren't a big person. You need to train your body to handle you are larger sizes. If you don't, your body will crumble, and you'll go right back into that closet never to return.
10 months

Finally out of the closet and hoping to get too fat to go back in

Helveticus:
Hello all!

I've been a closeted gainer/feedee since my teens and I finally, at 41, decided to take the leap into fatness.

I'm skinny and have issues gaining and even more keeping extra weight. Tired of this, I decided to order a weight gainer online yesterday, it'll hopefully arrive on Tuesday. It's supposed to add 1200 cal per dose.

I'm so fucking excited to finally have taken the step and can't wait to notice the first results.

When I say excited, I mean like a kid the days before Christmas. I'm giddy and completely turned on by my new lifestyle choice!

I planned Christmas vacations in a month, I hope the weight gainer will help me sculpt a beach bal..., er, I meant bod. I know it won't be spectacular, given that at first I'll follow the recommendation of 2 doses per day, but finally taking this path has already changed me mentally.

I'll document my gain and probably share it here. Due to my job, I won't show my face, but I'll certainly share my body!

I wanted to share this, because getting out of the closet feels so liberating, and it's more fun if people can get a kick of my gain.

More to come when I'll start on Tuesday and if anyone is interested.


So long as you follow the instructions, WG powder is fine. Just don't do things like mixing it with maltodextrin. That will mess you up - especially if you are slim starting out.
10 months