KP Luxe:
My partner who i love dearly was very vulnerable and told me about his feeder fantasy. I am a bigger girl and comfortable with my body but I don’t share the fetish with him. I don’t want to make him feel insecure, and I gain pleasure from him being in pleasure, but i don’t actually want to be stuffed or gain weight intentionally. I love the way he worships me now, and I’m all about living fantasies but i don’t know if that is enough for him to feel fulfilled. There is no good tips on how to bridge the relationship between someone who is into feederism and someone who isn’t. There are too many articles of it being abusive and he is anything but manipulative or abusive. He is super sweet and caring and would bury his desires if I told him I wanted him to, but i don’t want him to be any less of himself. Not sure if this is the right platform, but everywhere else just seems so accusatory of feeders. Would appreciate any tips for conversation on how to find a happy middle ground.
i think the previous responses have lots of great things to consider. the fact that you care about each other and respect each other is huge - by far the most important thing. anyone who puts "feeder fantasy" ahead of that is, in my mind, not a person worth partnering with.
you are also young, according to your profile anyway. and so i will leave this additional info to consider: you are going to change, and so is your partner. i have been involved in the fetish of feedism in several different capacities over my whole adult like - like, more than 20 years. things are much different, and i am much different than i was 20 year ago. or even 10 years ago. my views have changed, my desires have changed. i still appreciate the same things, but my relationship to my partner and to the fetish is different now. and i imagine it will continue to change as time goes on.
which is all to say, don't take any of this too hard or two much to heart. understanding and compassion and love rule, all this other stuff is much easier to find a compromise about. and with luck you will both find other things (kinks, etc.) that you will bond over - i certainly have, even now well into my 40s.
best of luck to you both!
