Gorewhorepuppy:
haii ive done this before but ill try it again! im a feedee looking for a feeder! i dont mind sharing pics, videos, or voice messages. i will also show my stomach before and afterwards! i will follow instructions also :3

Natatat:
So this is in relation to what inspired my story “how Jack got fat”:
Sorry im not great with punctuation. I had a neighbor named Jack he’s not my neighbor anymore. But while he was I went through a breakup. I had told him that if he wanted to get girls in this area he needed to hit the gym more and get rid of all this (then I had patted his middle). He was much softer than he was when I first met him. And he had argued that the dad bod was in. I had said that he should deal with it now cause he was only 23 plus it would take so little effort to get back in shape. He said he was simply sick of working out after being an athlete for so long. And yeah so I honestly was very turned on catching glimpses of his softness. I started paying more attention to his habits once I patted his middle. I told him that some girls actually like big guys. I kinda went into a weird mode of explaining that I liked guys typically for their smell and their voice over body. And at one point after getting weirdly close with him we ended up cuddling a lot. And I noticed he had started eating more. He clothes seemed a bit tighter. I knew he had already eaten when I came over or when he came over. But still I hadn’t and if I ordered food I would ask if he wanted something because it made it cheaper when deals were going on. He always said yes. He would Venmo for the food. If I made food or tried out recipes he always ate some or ate the stuff I didn’t like. He kept commenting on how he had gained weight. He would randomly tug up his shirt and rub his stomach. I would pretend to not be interested. But I honestly couldn’t look away. And we eventually ended up making out when we got high together. And I of course couldn’t help but grab his middle. I think he started eating more to try to get my attention. It worked. I even noticed that his ass was overflowing his boxers a bit more. He still kept his broad shoulders and strong back and nice chest albeit a bit softer. But it was just he was more substantial and softer. There was more to hold onto and more that rolled over his waistband. We ended up sleeping together on a regular basis. He would get weird about his belly but still wouldn’t stop eating like shit. It was hot to feel him grow but yeah I still felt guilty. I’m pretty sure he just got carried away or maybe it was just getting comfortable. It drove me crazy when he would over do it. He would go change into sweatpants or those shorts guys always have. I loved feeling his fat beneath my fingers. He got mad at one point because he said he stopped trying to workout cause he already knew he was going to get laid so why should he try. He said he got complacent. I had told him that he shouldn’t have done that because it wasn’t a serious relationship. So it didn’t end well. But it was fun to see his clothes getting tighter. I still feel guilty. But just I don’t know now it kinda drives me crazy when someone talks about their clothes getting tighter. I just think of their belly rolling over their waistbands. Or I think about that time at the beach where I came up behind him and grabbed at his waist and how soft and doughy he was. I would have loved to see him gain more and enjoy it fully but sadly that didn’t happen. But I’m not the one who made him gain weight. He did that on his own. I feel bad though cause I didn’t realize how much he liked me. But still though that dude put weight on fast. It was fun to play with.

Munchies:
No reason to feel guilty. You never made demands or tried to manipulate him. If anything, you encouraged him to work out.

He got fat because he chose to get fat. You just enjoyed the fruits of his labor.

AskDrFeeder:
Been reading about the "soft girl" trend. I know it's not "soft" in the sense that fat bodies are soft, but I wonder if there's any overlap between soft girls and feedees. Anyone?

JN_TumLover56:
I think I have heard that it’s a long the lines of being a softie compared to someone who has a strong face and sturdy. If that’s one way to say it?

Munchies:
Eh, no. My comment gives a brief overview of the soft girl lifestyle. It has nothing to do with facial features or body shape. You can have a strong face and sturdy body while having a soft life. On the flip side, you can have softer features and a willowy body without being part of the soft life.

Canuck:
wow, this thread has a long history! my previous response is apparently 4 years ago - so time for some new perspective, i think.

i gained a bunch of weight since my last post and over that time i've experienced some new limitations, and i am also with a new partner, which has changed my perspective, too. i gained up to a top weight of about 475, although i've lost some weight since then (about 450 now).

there are a lot of limitations that have been hot. little things, like being to wide to get close enough to the kitchen counters to reach the upper shelves. i get teased about that regularly, which is kind of hot.

my partner is pretty fit, and the contrast between us is really nice, and her ability to easily dominate me, just by being more flexible and limber than me, is very hot. the limitations it has created in our sex play has actually been very hot, too.

the limitations in standing, walking, not fitting in chairs, and just getting through the day are the nuisance problems which i can live with by i don't enjoy them at all. i've had to lose some weight for health concerns recently, and i am definitely not enjoying the food limitations (mostly missing beer!).

Munchies:
When it comes to health issues and physical limitations, I think there's a bit of a disconnect between fantasy and reality. Sure, it's sexy to be too fat to move normally. But that's also really inconvenient.

Ahhdipose:
Well so far i started out the day with a huge stuffing 7 sausage biscuits so around 3500 cals and grazed on star cruncehes throughout the day like 5 so about 1400 and then had two plates of spaghetti about 2000 cals and am planning to polish it of with a brownie sundae 1100 cals thank you all with the advice and reccomendations

Munchies:
Stuffings are fun, but as SumoSized said, they can backfire. It's common to lose your appetite the day after a big stuffing. It's best to keep stuffings as a treat, not the main method.

Lonewolf91:
Sometimes I just wish I was dating a more dominant feeder who would force me to drink heavy cream shakes every weekend.

She’d keep my mouth glued to the funnel and as I chug the fattening calories, she’d massage and rub my fat belly to make room for more.

Munchies:
These are two different things.

I'm talking about liking the actual person. You are talking about liking the body said person inhabits. These two things are very unrelated.

AskDrFeeder:
When I'm interested in a relationship with a woman I want both. The fact that you have a thing for her size does not mean you can't appreciate her on other levels.

Of course it is possible for a man to fetishize a woman for her size and not love her or even like her, and she should reject such a man (unless she just wants a roll in the hay!). But having a preference for curvy women certainly doesn't eliminate the possibility of liking or loving her.

Munchies:
Like I said. These are two completely different things.

I'm in community with a lot of plus-sized women who are not feedists. I've heard horror story after horror story of these women getting into relationships with fat fetishists (either knowingly or unknowingly), only for things to go sideways.

Examples include attempts to manipulate them into the lifestyle, losing their minds if they decide to lose weight, or being more interested in their bodies than anything else.

It wears on a person to be objectified like this. So, instead of continuously taking a chance on fat fetishists, they'll swear them off entirely just to be safe. And considering what I have seen from fat fetishists in the community losing their God damned minds when dating a non-feedist, I get where they are coming from.

This is not to say it can't work out. Sometimes it does.

That said, women who want to be in relationships want to be valued for out personhood first and our body second. It is dangerous for us to be with someone who prizes our bodies too much.

Getobese:
Title: MAKING ME FAT! 

 Jun 20, 2023 at 4:35 PM 

“Ok. when I met my wife 2 years ago I was a very fit 150 I'm 5’8, six pac starting to show, since we’ve been married I have gained 35 lbs my wife openly admits she is trying to make me fat! Now she barters for things like, if I eat 3 cookies I get a 2 minute Blowjob or 5 cookies & 2 scoops of ice cream I get a 10 min back rub and a long BJ. I don't get it I want to look good for her. She said she wants me to be fat so that she looks better by comparison. I’m finding it harder and harder to resist her now and afraid I will get huge because of her using sex to entice me to gain weight.

 “ MY QUESTION IS…Is she a feeder or just seriously vain? Perhaps she can’t admit to being attracted to fat.?