Rustyshackleford:
Hey everyone I hope this is the right place to post this. About a year ago I started dating my girlfriend. Maybe 6 months ago we discovered we were both super into gaining. She's into being fed, I'm into feeding. Since then she's slowly gained some weight sorta unintentionally. She says she feels as confident as she's ever felt. She looks amazing and I can't stop myself from touching her body constantly when we're at home and we're both really enjoying ourselves.
We're kind of trying to plan for the future right now and talk about how much she wants to gain and all that. She told me she thinks at some point if we go too far with it she's gonna start to feel weird about her body. I don't want this, obviously. She's so incredibly beautiful and I think she'd look fantastic if she continued gaining at this rate, but ultimately what matters to me is that she's happy. I wonder if anyone here is in a similar boat? Do you have any tips for a couple that might really wanna gain and give in to all these desires but can't?
Thanks!
Just let her take the reins and decide where she wants to stop. You can still feed her during your stuffing sessions, but let her decide where she wants to take her body. Once she does reach her peak you could try air inflation. It'll give her the sensation of getting bigger but won't lead to her gaining weight. Really just play around with things and listen to her
8 months
English Feeder:
Exactly???
Live and let live.
We don't know the dynamics.
Also for the vast amount of the population of the world they would not have a positive view of this web site. Because of our common desires for obesity. Feeder or feedee??
No not at all. We don't know all the dynamics but the ones on display are already abusive. What I'm saying is that the signals he's sending could indicate more abuse, but that would require more information. When your feedee is really up there in weight that requires a lot of trust in their feeder to care and help for them. You give up a lot being that weight and there's a reason not that many people in this community actually fully commit to it. He's just throwing his partner into the deep end without her understanding what's going on.
And that has nothing to do with this, yes this community is more taboo, but that doesn't mean we get to promote domestic abuse
8 months
English Feeder:
My partner is in a wheelchair. But it was something she wanted years before it became necessary.
She enjoys me pushing her and taking her to restaurants and public places. We live in England and disabled access is available everywhere. Not that we use public transport but buses can lower there suspension. ( A few exceptions old buildings ) She has a made to measure bariatric wheelchair. We have found that the general public and staff are always helpful and accommodating. Holding doors. Finding suitable access. But regarding the general thread there are several ways of looking at it. If i was not accommodating in my partner's need for a wheelchair would she have chosen to loose mobility to where she needs a wheelchair? I have on occasion gone to the pub ( i like a ale ) i have had enough ready to leave a mate will say don't go yet let me get you another pint. It leads to what we call a session.I end up having a curry or Chinese maybe a kebab on the way home. End up getting home early hours. Wake up with a thick head. Was it my mates fault??? No....
Did i have a good night? Actually yes
If you apply that to the current thread everything is ok. We don't know the personal dynamics of the relationship. But i do agree there could be red flags. Everything in life is fine provided it's by mutual consent.
Munchies:
You didn't read the thread either.
The issue is not "fattening your partner so much they need a wheelchair." If both you and your partner have had open, honest conversations with enthusiastic consent on both ends, I don't care. You do you boo.
The issue is he did not do that with her. He made is extremely clear that he "convinced" her to do this. She did not want to do this. He's been subtilty manipulating her until she made her peace with her circumstances.
I'm not looking for subtext. I am reading exactly what he said. I am taking this man at his word without adding or subtracting anything that he's said.
Don't defend people just because you are trying put on a shoe that doesn't fit you. It ain't a cute look.
English Feeder:
Looks like you make a lot of assumptions . I can read by the way.
Lol
My guy it's written in plain text that he's defending systematically making her feel inadequate and dependent on him. That is just flat out abuse and manipulative as hell. I literally assemble wheelchairs for a living, it is a huge ask to have someone be dependent on them for a fetish. I'm not trying to kink shame anyone who is interested in that, I'm genuinely happy that your wife feels comfortable and safe enough with you that she trusts you take care of her. This is an entirely different story than yours. This is someone who is trying to make someone that reliant on them without building up the trust first or really getting their consent. None of that are assumptions that is plainly laid out. I believe there is enough information to start making assumptions such as him having a kink for power dynamics, and if things were to get abusive he could potentially put her in a position where she can't get away due to mobility issues. But that can't be proven one way or the other without further information
8 months
Squirrelscanbeblue:
Increased dairy consumption has been linked to a lower risk of T2DM. The protective role of dairy foods in the development of T2DM is thought to be largely attributable to dairy nutrients, one of them being dairy protein. There is considerable evidence that milk proteins increase the postprandial insulin response and lower the postprandial blood glucose response in both healthy subjects and patients with T2DM
Eh I'm betting on it raising insulin because it cam turn a baby calf into a 400lb animal
Bros just copying and pasting from WebMD at this point without understanding what he's citing. Like yes eating more food especially before bed helps you gain weight, but playing with the chemicals in your body for the sake of a fetish doesn't end well. That's how you get a health scare and end up having to lose weight long before you reach your final goal
8 months
You could also try weightlifting, there's a lot of options for seated leg exercises to help you build up more strength so you can stay mobile at higher weights. Also for cardio, I'm in a similar boat but to a lesser extent. Running just straight up isn't fun for me but I can find bike riding or using an elliptical bearable.
8 months
I did my first coke and mentos bloat today and had some interesting results. After I finished lunch earlier today I chugged about 1.5 litres of coke and swallowed a couple of mentos. At first the reaction caused some discomfort but after a couple seconds it felt less bubbly and more like the normal bloated feeling so as it inflated it felt more and more comfortable. The bloat lasted maybe 20 minutes or so and then went away. But a couple hours later my appetite woke up monstrous.
I guess the reason I've been putting off the inflation part of this community is because I almost viewed it as "not my cup of tea" because my goal is to gain weight while I just thought inflation to be a temporary sensation. But now I'm realizing it's an important tool to help me grow my appetite. Afterwards I did a stuffing just consisting of sugar cookies and I was able to eat several more of them than I could last time I tried it
I'm curious if anyone else has had similar results after bloating and if it led to any long terms gains for you?
8 months
Morbidly A Beast:
Homie is 19. If that’s true ggs you have a metabolism still I didn’t seriously start packing weight until I was 25-26 that’s when I shot from slightly chubby to out right fat a few years later that’s with crash dieting and yo-yoing just following my appetite
Not to discourage if you really are young
Munchies:
Can confirm. I was naturally underweight for a while. I'd gorge myself comatose on as many calories as I could fit inside me and still never gained a pound. Things didn't start sticking until I was 23.
I do find that encouraging, Ive been trying to eat well above my calorie deficit for a while and my weight has been fairly stagnant. So hopefully after I give it some time I'll be able to start gaining seriously. I don't really have a set goal, I just know I want to be bigger and I'll listen to my body when it tells me it's ready to quit
8 months
SumoSized:
Oh I agree people really have no idea what they're getting themselves into when gaining that amount of weight, hell I question if I even know what I'm doing half the time. I'm more or less interested in what the median weight of feedees is and what the cut off is. I wonder if there is a specific cut off weight where people tend stop or if it has more of a gradual drop off. I also want to know if there's a consensus on an "ideal weight" for most people. Like beyond x weight too many issues start to arise so this would be the perfect cut off
Munchies:
From what I've seen, if you are thin starting out, 200 - 250 seems to be when most either stop or reverse course. This is the fattest they can get without negatively impacting their everyday lives. This number is smaller if you are short (160 - 180).
If you were chubby or "small fat," most stop in the 350 - 500 lbs range. This is around the size people experience moderate to major health issues.
Damn that's concerning because I started off really skinny and I'm hoping to well exceed 250 lbs
8 months
SumoSized:
Oh I agree people really have no idea what they're getting themselves into when gaining that amount of weight, hell I question if I even know what I'm doing half the time. I'm more or less interested in what the median weight of feedees is and what the cut off is. I wonder if there is a specific cut off weight where people tend stop or if it has more of a gradual drop off. I also want to know if there's a consensus on an "ideal weight" for most people. Like beyond x weight too many issues start to arise so this would be the perfect cut off
Food Enjoyer:
This might be the one area where BMI is sort of useful; not as a health metric, obviously, but as a way of benchmarking relative size and body composition. The "ideal weight" varies a lot both in terms of subjective experience and how it's moderated by a person's height.
So for example, my "ideal" size in a partner is somewhere between 40 and 50 BMI. This looks like 230-250 on someone who is 5'4" but is closer to 275-300 for someone 5'10". (I imagine this is also the ideal range for myself, but because of my height I'd have to be 350 at a minimum... so I really don't know.)
Beyond 40 problems become more likely, but it's not a hard and fast rule (because BMI is a useless health metric). People also run into different problems at different sizes for different reasons. When I was 26 I had a diabetes scare when I was barely 280 (so mid-30s BMI iirc) while my partner at the time hit 350 (50+ BMI) without ever being flagged as pre-diabetic, even into her 30s with a pretty reckless diet. The human body is mysterious.
Ultimately the cutoff varies from person to person. But now that you mention it, I would definitely be interested in collating the data from other gainers for the sake of objectivity. Dreaming of an empirical science of feeding....
That's definitely true, I still have a fair amount of muscle so I look smaller for how much I weigh. So even just going off weight isn't a perfect measure but that's probably only a bigger deal in lower weight classes rather than higher ones
8 months
Oh I agree people really have no idea what they're getting themselves into when gaining that amount of weight, hell I question if I even know what I'm doing half the time. I'm more or less interested in what the median weight of feedees is and what the cut off is. I wonder if there is a specific cut off weight where people tend stop or if it has more of a gradual drop off. I also want to know if there's a consensus on an "ideal weight" for most people. Like beyond x weight too many issues start to arise so this would be the perfect cut off
8 months
