Just watch any episode of Hoarders.

Can't say I ever have; can't imagine it's all that appetizing. Unsalted butter? When you say "along with sugar" do you mean you ate something sweet like cake or pastries? Or sprinkle sugar on the stick of butter?

It'll also be a LOT of dairy fat at once so you'd have to time that just right. So that's probably a terrible thing to eat if you also had a big pasta dish with a lot of cheese, or pizza, or plan to have ice cream, or so I would think. At least for me there seems to be. Maybe it's something one can get used to, I don't know.

That said, I still remember this video and I'm kind of jealous of this lady. If you look closely it's a half stick of butter but I wish I could do that. Just imagine the shock value that would cause too.

At that point, it sounds like you're basically eating only one meal a day... from when you wake to when you sleep!

Cost issues aside, though certainly a problem for a number of us, what about time problems? The average American, and average Englishman.. probably just the average person, can't sit down for a proper meal that many times in a day. If you have a desk job that's not extremely heavy on phone use, you could probably snack. Telecommute, same thing.

I don't know.. this doesn't seem like a practical option for most folks, even without financial constraint. Not when that will interfere with a full-time job.

I like to keep some old clothes as a nice reminder if I ever feel like I haven't made much progress, though hardly an entire closet full of them, since that'd be a waste of space, particularly if small enough to know it's really unlikely I'll ever be that thin again.

That and I sort of have a dream of one day making buttons burst off a shirt that's way too small. It'd be a waste to buy something just for that, since it'd never be appropriate any other time.

For the rest of them.. that is, things that don't fit...

If they're in good or fair condition:

- If classic/timeless, or only somewhat tacky (I no longer buy anything very tacky, I'm very careful about this), I'll take them to Goodwill or another non-profit thrift store, or if worthwhile, I might try to sell first on E-bay or something. Alternatively, if I know there's someone in need.

- If horrendously tacky - either rags or the trash. I'm not subjecting someone else to that treatment. Not that I ever buy that anymore.

- If underwear, rags only. Even if it's legal to sell or give away, that seems gross and wrong somehow. I wouldn't be surprised if that's illegal in some jurisdictions, because of contact with other bodily fluids and the risk of transmitting disease. Hospitals face very strict regulations regarding the disposal of biomedical waste.

If in bad condition, rags only, or the trash if I can't even use them as rags anymore.

If you engage in something dirty or messy like gardening, it may be worth it not to cut up the "rags" clothes. Since you don't care, you don't mind if they get dirty and messy.


To avoid this problem, it's important to be strategic with any kind of clothes purchases.

- Consider buying a size up. In fact, the heavier you are, it seems the more flexibility you might have with this. For undershirts, you might be able to go 2 sizes.
- No holiday themed clothes, ever. Or at most, a tie. If you want to be holiday themed, pins are a great choice for this. Or just use the holiday colors. For example, a tie that's red with green stripes doesn't waste too much space, and you can combine and layer a red and green pocket square to create the contrast to use with a suit.
- Hat size is unlikely to change much, so something like a Santa cap should be fine.
- No Halloween costumes unless you can make them out of regular clothes with minimal to no modification.
- No longer are you limited to sweats or gym clothes for stretchy. Even jeans, regular trousers, shorts, etc. often come in versions with some stretch.
- Try to only buy clothes that are more universal; the more universal for more combinations, or appropriate in more occasions, the better.
- Be careful to buy only small quantities. The worst is an unopened, unused shirt that no longer fits, particularly because there's almost no chance you can sell it for what you paid for it, even if it's not tacky and ugly.

Following up to the earlier post I would have made.

About 178 lbs, if basically bone dry. That was an increase of only about 10 lbs over the year. Not gonna lie.. I'm disappointed it wasn't more. Although, most of that gain was around the holidays when I discovered a strategy that seems to work for me for now. Now the trick is to see if I can stick with it.

The kinds of schedules I sometimes face make this a challenge, unfortunately.

To be fair, any pictures uploaded here that aren't ultimately deleted by the uploader, or hidden by staff are viewable to anyone, even without an account.

I can't help but think it might make it harder for me to find a job and easier to get fired.

I've heard about a crossdresser who lost his job of 30 years because of it. I've heard of a former pornstar/starlets who lost their jobs because of it. So yes, I'm afraid. Unfortunately, I lack sufficient information to properly assess risk.

It's why I've never publicly shown my face here even after 16 years. That and I've never been in the habit of taking many pictures of myself to begin with. It's also one of many reasons why I don't use generalized social web sites like Facebook or Instagram. Overall, it's a lot of liability and not a lot of upside or advantage. And yes, looking that up is borderline illegal but that often happens anyway, especially with smaller companies.

Some ideas, since it's something I struggle with too sometimes.

Regardless of the cream, or actually, before the cream, what kind of calorie count do you have on most days?

You don't have the entire quart in a single go, do you? One go, or throughout the day? Some/most have a phenomenon of only being able to handle so much dairy fat at one time, with the rest going.. well you know. Won't elaborate unless you want me to. It can be hard to gauge at times, though personally I've found cream a terrible idea if I had something with a lot of cheese, or if I had ice cream for example.

Also it may, and likely helps to mix the cream with something else or have something else at the same time. Lately, I've been having very simple cream shakes. 1 cup of cream, to 1 bottle (1 cup) of Equate Plus (Wal-Mart brand knockoff of Ensure Plus). They have chocolate, strawberry, and vanilla. Tastes kind of like heavily flavored milk yet seemingly has virtually no dairy content, making it a near perfect choice to mix with cream which is lots of dairy.

Maybe even just give it a rest for a day to a few days? Though don't be so hungry you can't function in day to day life. It's possible you adapted with a higher metabolism to burn it off, as your body now expects the onslaught of calories. So, a dramatic reduction might help slow it down a bit and prioritize storing it (getting fatter).

A good metaphor is the TP shortage of COVID. In that time, most folks bought up whatever TP they could find, ASAP, whether they needed it or not, simply out of fear of not having TP when you needed it. This went on for months. Eventually, most folks ended up with a huge stockpile of toilet paper, almost too much to deal with. Eventually, folks stopped buying for awhile, to use up their stockpile. Though, from what I recall, there was yet another shock and fear of a lack of TP, in spite of folks still having something of a stockpile from the last shock, so there was yet more hoarding.

I think you get the idea.


Another might be you simply aren't getting enough calories in general. Obviously, the heavier you get, the more calories you need just to stay the same. If you telecommute, maybe start eating sausage biscuits in the morning. Each biscuit is about 180-200 calories, but cut it in half so you can make it into a sandwich. Frozen microwaveable sausage patties? 210 calories each. Should be easy enough to eat 2 or 3 of those in a single sitting. If you don't telecommute, then I hope the office provides doughnuts or other pastries.

Increasing calories just to maintain..this is one little thing that kind of snuck up on me. It's like.. you know it will happen, you might even fantasize about it and love the idea. But in spite of that, you don't expect it at the same time, or it's so slow you don't see it coming.


Can't think of anything else off hand. Hopefully you get past this, because damn if it's not frustrating.

I wouldn't worry about that too much, especially if you mention being straight on your profile.

Maybe a good number of these users are gay or bi, experiencing slight disappointment.

Maybe some of them are curious about weight and height. The only way to see someone's height is to view the profile. Straight men might be curious about that.

Maybe users wonder about other content you have like posts or stories.

As a volunteer moderator it's likely for me to view a lot of profiles, whether male, female, or trans, regardless of any romantic potential.


If it crosses into harassment, particularly harassment that can't be solved with a simple block, that will be a problem in which case, I urge you to file a report. These reports all end up in one central place that's viewable by all moderators, who are effectively duty-bound to be impartial.

This topic doesn't read like a personals ad, so moving this to General.

To answer the question, yes of course. Pretty sure most others do too.