I would encourage you to reread your reply here. You're making some pretty contradictory statements. Especially about when he skips meals or doesn't continue gaining, because you're making it very clear that there's condition on your affection for him without understanding that just because you two both engage in this that it won't always be at the same rate, with the same desire, or with the expected results.
Either you love him as he is, or you don't. Being impatient with any changes to our bodies is not something anyone can control and it's something that feedists, FAs and fatphobes alike all have in common. I would encourage you to also look into how nutrition actually works. It's not just eating a lot that will cause gain. Just like weight loss or composition change, it's all about nutrition/macros. And even then you can do it all "perfectly" and still not get the results you want.
And if you don't learn that, and how to separate those two concepts, and understand that the kink may never result in a physical manifestation that *you* desire, this may actually lead you to resent him. Your impatience is a you problem.
2 years
OP, feel free to ignore the *entirety* of @Wat's post. It's ableist, maladaptive, and rife with clear insecure projections that have nothing to do with you as a person.
2 years
Miachu:
Love a women for what she is, Not what you want her to become
Spookyhoodlum:
this is just a fantasy...... I do love my GF...... my sexual fantasy is just that fanatsy. why does everyone get so fucking serious on here🙃
Why do you think it's acceptable to come out into public and openly bring others, without knowledge or consent into "just a fantasy" about someone you aren't even dating?
Because it's not "just a fantasy" and you know it. You genuinely believed this was okay to do. It's not.
2 years
My dude, you are gross. So gross.
2 years
Kaede45:
I don’t know what to say… I want to thank you for the advice, but I don’t want to sound patronizing. I know that I’m selfish, crude & horribly immature. I wish I wasn’t & I try so desperately to be a good person, but I know that I haven’t matured since high school. I’ve lost my way & I don’t know if I’ll ever find it again. Most days I just want to give up, lay down & die! But I’m afraid of death… I’m trapped in a cycle of wanting to give up & trying desperately to hold on to some form of hope that I won’t always be alone! If this isn’t Hell, then I have no idea what is!
I’m sorry… I know that nobody else needs to be worrying about me. Everyone has their own worries, fears, troubles, etc. & the last thing anyone needs is to be worrying about some depressed lunatic who’s not likely to hurt himself because he is afraid of pain!
Everyone has negative qualities about themselves. Nobody is perfect and it's okay and a good thing that you recognize these things. But finding someone to fill that void will never resolve those issues. It's about learning what your own individual baggages, taking inventory of what you have, repacking it, and not being ashamed of it. Because in that process you will then learn what your positive qualities are and what you offer and what you need in someone as a person.
Self flagellation doesn't help matters. I know it's coming from a place of loneliness and hurt and you're not the only person who feels that way. And it's not even your fault you feel that way. But this isn't the way to repair it either.
Don't think of therapy as you being broken or a "lunatic" or anything like that. It's a place that is emotionally safe to help you learn how to explore yourself and to give you better tools to cope within your world and the people around you. Everybody on the planet needs therapy. Everyone!
2 years
Kaede45:
*sigh* I know it’s a long shot, but I desperately want a woman to call my own. I’m a depressed sad sack with a very specific taste in women who doesn’t know how to be romantic…
Does anyone have any tips or advice on how to pick up chicks? Anything at all that could help me to have any success in the dating field?
How about not referring to adult women as "chicks" to start. Or as property that you "call your own." Good grief.
What you're looking for isn't love. It's an object.
Having non-negotiable standards is important, but these are not standards, these are just mostly physical descriptors and behaviors. They say nothing about who a person is inside.
Also full stop if religiosity is that important to you, you should probably start there instead.
2 years
AnonLovesBlubber:
Chill lady, its just a username. I never said I see you as just blubber.
My name is Lora. It's literally right in front of you. And you are the one who wandered into a thread meant for others to just complain because it didn't apply to you. And then proceeded to do exactly the things we're talking about.
There. Is that the attention you wanted? The irony of choosing to not even use my name while insisting you see us as people while ALSO trying to assert some power that you don't actually have isn't interesting, it's predictable.
TKDR nobody asked you
2 years
MickRidem:
My SO and I are playing a Game. I've been fantasizing about it for a long time, and I can't believe he's agreed to do it! ...
Losing my mind. Thought I'd share.
This all sounds enthralling! I actually wrote a lesbian story *very* much in this vein (Stuffing Season). The feedee is never even allowed to know how much she gains, her job is simply to eat as instructed.
2 years
Refeed:
Round and round we go, where we stop, nobody knows
That's the point actually. To keep discussion moving. To be open to learning new things and understanding where peoples' input comes from. I'm glad you observe the same!
2 years
The irony of how their username also embodies exactly what we're talking about: person not interested in connecting with us as people, just seeing us as blubber. On point.
2 years
