Zelda64:
Hello everyone. So I am right now have been thinking a lot about this fetish and what it means it my life. I have know for basically my whole life that I enjoyed a guy gaining weight (not myself). However this past year I have been really anxious and depressed because I feel like I need this fetish to be involved in a relationship i'm in or else I will feel unsatisfied.
The biggest thing that triggers the guilt is that I am encouraging someone to be unhealthy. I understand that this is something that I cannot change and will be with me the rest of my life but, I can't see myself ever being comfortable with it in real life even though I at the same time want to be okay with it. Am i a bad person because I want to get rid of my empathy and enjoy someone gaining weight? Is it even immoral to encourage to gain weight if its consensual?
And I am not trying to make any one feel bad about themselves? This is just my personal insecurities and issues. If anyone has experienced this any advice or input would be greatly appreciated because this has caused me so much anxiety recently and I have no one in real life to talk to about this because I feel so alone.
Many of life’s activities have the consequence of possible harm. And yet we do these things because the pleasures outweigh the consequences.
We drive too fast, we rock climb, we ride horses and motorcycles, we swim in deep waters, we listen to loud music, we go sledding, we eat artery-clogging delicious foods, we bike without helmets, we have sex with lots and lots of people, we take all manner of drugs, we smoke and drink to excess.
This is life and what makes it fun and enjoyable.
Your question really is do you want a safe and sterile healthy existence for you and the one you love, or do you want to plunge into the pleasures this life offers human beings? Even if it means becoming unhealthy and possibly dying a bit early?
Run the calculus on which is more valuable:
1. A long life with few of the pleasures you really crave and thus a life of not being genuine.
Or
2. A life lived to its fullest with laughter, tears and pleasures immeasurable for both you and your love.
I think the possibility of living choice 1 could be more anxiety-provoking than heading to the buffet with your honey and going all-in for living as you both desire.