this is a great conversation!

well into adulthood i was a gym guy, and it was a kind of lifestyle for me, as it is for many. some will call it being dedicated and disciplined, but really a lot of it just a routine. you just get used to it.

well into adulthood (i was 39 or 40?) i met someone who started to open my eyes to a different kind of lifestyle. i started to learn from her, the enjoyment of indulgence. food as pleasure rather than nourishment. while it wasn't a straight line, and there was some self doubt and angst along the path, what i learned eventually was that this other lifestyle brought me more joy than the gym grind i'd been following for decades.

that, to me, is the great advantage, being fat is kind of an ancillary perk (and sometimes an unpleasant consequence, but by and large it is positive).

getting fat also helped me discover my submissive side, i am not sure how that fits in.

when i read the title i thought it referred to an issue with achieving an erection... i can get it up just fine, it's just buried in my fupa even when it's hard.

for sure it limits the positions and amount of penetration that is possible, but to be honest having as big a gut as i have, that is limiting too.

but if you think penetration with a penis is the only way to pleasure your partner, whoa, you have soooo much to learn!

yeah, these are classics - i can rewatch any of these infinitely i think!

you are a really talented artist! those pieces are really incredible.

do you paint digitally or do you use traditional media?

never doubt the power of anal stimulation - there are more nerve endings down there than just about anywhere!

anyone who has avoided anal play because they thinks it is gross needs to have a good wash and then dive in (gently!) and open their mind (and sphincter!).

enjoy the discovery of this new realm of pleasure.

really cool animations! you have a real talent. i especially liked the first one. animation opens up a world of possibility for feedism fantasies, it has always kind of surprised me how little it has been taken advantage of - especially with how many fa "origin stories" start with seeing a cartoon as a kid where a character got fat!

when i get out of breath and have to sit down when walking, and when i can't reach to tie my shoes - that kind of stuff is not arousing to me as i am trying to get through my day. when i have trouble using a public rest room, or cleaning up after, definitely not hot.

when i am in a more relaxed setting, and i can't reach something because my big belly is in the way, yeah that can be a little hot, if i am honest.

on the weekend at the beach, i couldn't get up off the ground without help from amazingem. at first it was not hot, but when she started to tease me and tell me what a beached helpless whale i'd become, essentially asserting her dominance in a gentle way, then it became a more arousing moment.

so i think context matters a lot.

my belly pushing me further away from the computer keyboard has been one of those big changes that i noticed, too.

that, and when my cursor goes crazy because a roll of belly fat is pressing the space bar without me knowing! lol

this was totally how i went from being fit to being fat, to start with... my girlfriend at the time was already super-sized and not interested in gaining, so i wasn't even acting as a "feeder" per se. but she had a really big appetite, for food and for drink, and was a bit of a gourmand. we went out to eat a lot, and for drinks, and it was those habits that rubbed off on me.

and going to the gym in the morning isn't that attractive when you are exhausted from staying up late, and a little bit hungover, lol.

i think environment and lifestyle are huge. that's probably why you see so many fat families - everyone is just eating the same stuff, behaving similarly.

ditzy's advice is spot on.

sometimes it feels easier said than done, i know. when i started playing with gaining i struggled with it. things were great with my (ex) partner, i enjoyed it with her. but during the rest of my day, working and interacting with strangers i got pretty self conscious. so for a while i waffled back and forth - should i or shouldn't it?

at some point you just have to embrace what makes you happy. you have to weigh the pros & cons of not doing the thing you want to... for me it was going back to the gym, which previously i'd loved, but now just made me miserable. it became a pretty clear path for me. the lifestyle i'd been leading brought me far more happiness.

i don't know what your path will be, but I hope you will follow what brings you joy. and good luck on your journey - it's never too late!