Many feedees are conflicted when they first start, but feel less so after they've gained enough that they're "over the hump". After they gain 30 pounds or so they enjoy gaining more and fear it less and any doubts go away.

Has this happened to you? If so, what was your starting weight and at what weight were you over the hump?

If you have not gotten over the hump, do you expect to? Or hope to?

I think this is the best way.

I think this is pretty common. Once people get "over the hump" they learn: people's reactions aren't as severe as they feared; overeating is more fun than ever; they like the extra weight (or at least the upsides outweight the downsides); and losing the weight is not a serious option.

It's just hard to figure out how much you need to gain to get over the hump or whether there is a hump until you get there. I think 30 pounds is pretty common. Maybe that's a good question for a new thread...

Ah yes, the Point of No Return. I don't think that's based on absolute weight so much as 1) your own metabolism 2) your eating habits 3) how much you like gaining 4) how much you like being bigger.

I chatted with one woman who wanted to go from 130 to 180 pounds. She was having trouble gaining, so she finally started stuffing herself to the point she couldn't take a deep breath. Every day! At that point she started gaining and got up to 180 in a few months. She quit stuffing herself like that then but her appetite had gotten so good she kept gaining without trying to. When I chatted with her she weighed 300 pounds and was still gaining. She couldn't stop.

So she probably reached the Point of No Return before she was even fat!

Another woman planned to gain 25 pounds and stop there. So she did gain 25 pounds, and maybe could have stopped there, but found that she LOVED it. She didn't want to stop, and decided to simply let herself go, figuring that limits didn't work for her.

Of course, some people gain and do lose it, or at least find a final weight they're comfortable with.

In short, once you decide to gain on purpose and start doing it, it's very hard to predict where you're going to end up. Just accept that there's a chance you'll get bigger than you want (of course that can happen even if you never gain on purpose!). If you're worried but still want to do it, just take it slow. You can stuff yourself on junk food now and then--I mean, that's probably part of the fun, right? But eat healthy the rest of the time.

No kidding! I came of age in the 60s and 70s...I never even heard of feedism (aka feederism) until the 80s. I knew I had feedist tendencies and assumed there were others like me but really didn't know for many years. I did see a "Hilda" calendar in a car-repair shop back in the 60s (was tempted to steal it but settled for trying to brain-download as much of it as possible) so I at least knew there were others who appreciated curvy women.

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1. Take some pics in clothes that fit in several different poses which show different angles of your body, ideally including face photos and photos that show your entire body. Pose with a pile of food you're starting to binge on that you expect to be able to finish.

2. Gain a noticeable amount of weight--at least 10% of your initial weight.

3. Take pics of all the poses you did in step #1 in the same clothes, which will now be tighter. Also take some of yourself in clothes that fit now that you expect to grow out of. Pose with the same pile of food you pose with before, plus some extra food if your capacity has increased.

4. Gain a noticeable amount of weight--at least 10% of what you weighed in the previous photo session.

5. Take pics of all the poses you did in the previous photo session in the same clothes, which will now be tighter. Also take some of yourself in clothes that fit now that you expect to grow out of. Pose with the same pile of food you posed with before, plus some extra food if your capacity has increased.

6. Repeat steps 4 and 5 as many times as you wish.

Go on a crash diet and lose 10-15 pounds, then start gaining again. The regain is always faster and more intense than the initial gain, and you'll gain past your previous peak.

There are feedees who gain, decide they don't like it and lose. I haven't run into many of them, but I wouldn't expect to--they're unlikely to show up on sites like this one.

At least a 10% gain, probably a bit more.