I have, actually. Slowly, only to close friends and my partner and my daughter. And no one has reacted badly.

They've been confused, and asked questions, and they've told me they don't understand. Only one has expressed some health concerns, but she didn't push it.

Of course, I had done a lot of preparation with people, so they knew I was active in fat liberation, and that I had read a lot, and written a bit. So they already knew I am fat-positive, if you will.

So yeah, my feeling is that it takes a lot of courage, and it takes a lot of thought about how you want to phrase things, but it's *totally* worth doing. I can't tell you how liberated I feel by it.

So I wrote an enquiry to Bitch magazine about a piece on feeding. (If you don't know who they are, you should, so go google them.) Anyway, they said they were interested, and I should write the piece.

So I did. A few people gave me some feedback on it, worked some more, and submitted it.

They rejected it. Why? Because it was 'just a response to their piece from last year.' Idiot trogs. Like that piece wasn't expressing the fat feminist party line. Sigh.

So, I'd appreciate some advice and some help.

1) Is there somewhere else obvious to send it?

2) Can anyone tell me a few places where we've been bashed by feminist size activists?

3) Can you think of another way to address this issue publicly?

All input very gratefully accepted...

Hee hee. I quite like that, too. Any votes for 'larder' vs. 'fridge'? I forget who came up with that--was it ThatReesesGirl?

I have not masturbated at work. I have, late at night, had a little, um, activity in my office, but not alone, so that's another matter.

I have masturbated while stuck in traffic, much to the amusement of some truck driver I didn't notice until too late. I have -- long, loooong ago -- had sex in an airplane bathroom, and given someone a blow job on a motorway. So it isn't the publicness that weirds me out. It would take time, as Sexydisaster said, and the toilets are uncomfortable and unappealing. And even when I was younger, I never couldn't wait for someplace more appealing.

Actually, Ruby, I think people frequently post things that are disrespectful to fat people. There's definitely a lot less of that than there used to be, and I wouldn't *quite* characterise it as harshly as Ffancy did.

But you know there are lots of people who believe that people are fat only because we eat like pigs--that's one that comes up a lot, for example. Or it would be easy to lose if we wanted to. Or we don't care about our health. I definitely feel like there are undercurrents of fat--not sure of the word--phobia? hatred? oppression?--here and there on the site. Nothing I would remove as a moderator, but definitely things that need discussion.

And me.

And for the record, EVERY SINGLE lgbt person I know objects to the phrase 'That's so gay!' And so do I.

You know, there's thread after thread of people like Kia and me announcing our desire for fat guys. But somehow, there's always someone saying that no fat women want fat guys, or even that no women at all want fat guys.

I've come across very few FAs in my life, and managed relationships with precisely none. An affair here or there, sure, but no relationships.

Relax. And remember, whining isn't pretty, even if I indulged a mere sentence ago.

I kinda like the sound of 'Crappy Cappies'

OK, so I do a lot of various activities on the left, where we find people inevitably talking about Fat Cats, and it pisses me off.

First of all, fat people are disproportionately working class for all kinds of reasons--the high cost of many healthier foods, the lack of time to go to the gym, etc etc.

Secondly, I hate 'fat' being used negatively all the time, like that. It's bad enough people despise the real stuff, but to then go around flinging it metaphorically at bad things--Grrrrrr.

I don't imagine others have this same reaction, but are there other things that push your buttons because they're wrong about fat people somehow? and also, does anyone have an idea for a phrase to replace 'fat cat'?

Very clever, hon. But still, let's try not to snark, shall we?