It's an abusive relationship, pure and simple. Though he was a feeder, this doesn't reflect as negatively on the fetish and its participants who go about it in a considerate, consensual way.

I'm a bit alarmed that blame would be pushed on the woman, though, for staying in the relationship- do you know how hard it is to just get away from someone you've got feelings for? You can excuse a lot of crap (that you normally wouldn't) just because you're friends or more with someone.

If you're going to blame anyone here, I'd say put most- if not all- of the blame on the one who disrespected their partner's concerns and desires regarding their own body in favor of sexual desire.

So once you weigh 500 pounds the only thing that matters is hedonistic pleasure- and nothing else?

Because I know of people who are well over that mark- some of whom are feedees- who would disagree with this concept (which is probably best described as "ridiculously masturbatory" ).

Which is something that's disproven by the fact that there's quite a few thin foodees.

The exact definitions are a little fluid, but the basic idea is this:

Feedee: Someone who enjoys eating and the thought of gaining. This may or may not be sexual, although it is often tied to one's sexuality.

Foodee: Someone who enjoys good food, or a lot of food, with or without gaining. This enjoyment may or may not be sexual.

"Dominant feeders" isn't something that every feedee is into by a long shot, and likewise not every one of them is into being "made" to gain weight. That's an aspect of Dom/sub relationship added in to feederism which, while not uncommon, is separate from feederism itself.

I would like to see someone win based on something other than altering their body.

"In some cultures" is a poor barometer, because in some cultures amputation and genital mutilation are approved forms of punishment.

That said, it definitely isn't a turn off to hear a girl burping after or during a big meal.

It's like in the three years you've been here you haven't learned anything about desire vs. reality, or sexual fantasy vs. actual goal.

In other news, sexual interests are proper gauges of someone's cooking ability or proficiency in other hobbies, some of which may be tangentially related to said sexual interest.

And I really just want to say how incredibly arrogant you are here. You give two words of advice and then demand to know whether or not it worked and brag about how things would be so much better if only he'd listened to you better.

Your relationship advice given in this thread is ignorant at best and disregards pretty much everything aside from that she may have been teasing the guy about it (though he wasn't even sure of that).

Given the other advice in this thread, odds are he'll benefit far more from the flat-out discussion of it rather than your vague suggestion to "tease back". And he'll certainly benefit more from a relationship where arguments are not ended with emotional blackmail.