I guess I'm assuming some sense of responsibility on the part of the feedee. If they want to get too fat to take care of themself and that's impractical obviously it's a bad idea to help them get as fat as they want.

I was thinking real but fantasy is cool too.

The primary rule would have to be you help your feedee get as fat as they want, even if it's more than was initially planned.

What else?

I think the first bit was accidental, then she started liking it.

Wow, I'm amazed that I continue to learn new things about this fetish after all this time.

A woman just told me she went from the 130s to her goal weight of 170. She was conflicted about whether to gain more, diet, or maintain. Finally she decided to gain more just so dieting wouldn't be an option! She immediately felt much better about it. Has anyone ever heard of such a thing?

See "Deciding to Get Fat" on my site: askdrfeeder.dyndns.org/dtgf.html

A couple of English feedees were visiting the US some years ago. I helped them arrange a meet-up in San Francisco. Lots of fun!

I've actually been burned on both sites and don't see much difference except:

Feabie has a public feed, so you see whatever people care to post on there, including complaints and accusations. And of course this causes counter-complaints and counter-accusations. You're much more conscious of issues that may have nothing to do with you.

Feabie has near-line chat, which neatly combines chat and messaging...ff has on-line chat plus messaging and it's not very easy to transition from one to another. So communication between individuals is much easier on Feabie. This facilitates good interactions, but also facilitates bad interactions. So Feabie will tend to be better or worse than ff depending on what you're about and who you're interacting with.

Start with #4. If that goes well, #5. If that goes well #6. If that goes well you discuss acceptable modes of encouragement and safe words or whatever. I doubt signed waivers will be needed!

Ideally wait until you're on you're own. If you're constantly worried about parental friction you can't really enjoy gaining, and why do it if you can't enjoy it?

If you do need to talk to family about it, I helped one woman with that: askdrfeeder.dyndns.org/letters.html