Something I've learned over 25+ years of relationship: be patient. The balance of various motivations will change over time, this way and that. But if he gains easily enough and enjoyed it for the most part, good odds that what is lost will later be found. No promises, of course; he could be the exception. But your odds are good, provided you don't make it into a big thing.

Good luck!

I know right? It is enough to make me enjoy driving on roads under construction or on rough gravel roads, 😃

Cookies, if they have them where you are: Pop-Tarts. As already said soda, or alternatively fruit juice. AND regular meals/snacks too!

Read labels like crazy and do most of your own cooking. (OK, I'm not actively gaining, but just enjoying food and being healthy with food issues, but at least for me gaining is an easy inching up of consumption)

For certain if you like fat, being fat for real is even better than theory, so makes gaining more seem all the more plausible

But yes, if you get enough fatter to graduate into a new category of how others and you yourself view you, it makes 'fatter habits' easier, I think. I.e. if you are at work and have to go between floors and people expect you to use the elevator, you are less likely to use the stairs, and so on.

By nature I'm a mutual gainer. The vast majority of the 25+ years that my wife and I have been together one or both of us has been maintaining or even losing slowly. Here is what works for me.

- Have a lot of non sexuality related goals and activities going on, some of which encourage weight maintenance or loss and/or general fitness.
- have a focus on a healthy and balanced life, so you both feel good in your skin other than size related stuff.

- have outlets, like here, for those desires, so they are not bottled up.

- make sure to have intimacy without fat/feeding stuff, to enjoy touch, simple physical stimulation, etc

- but he willing to slip into some fantasies in your head when you need to for actual sex times.

- be patient; practice and age both make it easier!

Most women gain a little in pregnancy, but most don't keep a lot of it. Some gain more if they are home for long with baby/toddler. Some gain more with second or later pregnancies. Often the fatter going in, the less the gain, from what I understand.

In short: congratulations, you two are going to have a baby! Get ready for your life to get totally changed around. And try to enjoy the changes, BUT don't count on any particular change.

And good luck

I just swept some things off my desk at work when I rolled my chair back -- headphone cord had gotten itself wedged between my belly and lap, so came with me. First time I've had that happen!

I have no idea how you got that out of what I wrote.

I was showing that different people may say the same word,but mean something different. As a gross generalization guys mean people they do stuff with, women mean people they have a deep trust and connection with ( and Facebook means anyone you have a passing, remote, connection of any sort with)

To many guys, "friends" more or less means your group, your pack, the guys you do things with. If you move, or change what you are doing, clearly you need to find a new pack. If you ever go back to where you were maybe you'll reconnect with the old pack, but who knows for sure?

Which tends to be quite a bit different from what many women mean when they say "friend", I think.