I remember one mall that had all chairs with arms in the food court. They had a major fire, and cleaned up all the chairs rather than replacing them. My wife and I got some friends together and started a letter writing campaign. They finally added some armless chairs. I know of one large man who would go to the doctor's office and sit on the floor if they had only small chairs. That usually got them to add some larger seats.

I don't think that everyone understands HAES. Basically, it is getting the doctor to treat your problems without blowing you off, and telling you to go on a diet and come back when you are thin. I know one woman who told her doctor that she wanted to be as healthy as she could at the size she was at. Feedees are quite different from most large size people, but make up a very tiny percentage. For most large size people, diets do more harm than they do good. The typical lose ten pounds and regain fifteen over and over again until someone is super size. The body tends to adjust its metabolism downward to accommodate reduction in food intake. There are no diseases that only large people get, so there is no reason a doctor should guarantee weight loss will automatically cure a problem.

Show him the obesity tables. Take him to a plus size clothing store.

Some people think that all they need to do is to convince their partners that they find fat attractive, and that will make everything OK. However, some people just don't like being fat, no matter who and how many find them attractive. Of course, not everyone who wants to be thin can be thin.

I'm totally confused. Who is she? Is she a feedee?

From my observations, threads sometimes get moved if they are posted in the wrong place. I am sure if you post something totally out of line, it will be deleted. If a thread is going down hill (turning into fighting and insults), the thread is locked, but not deleted. There are also some things that the regulars will not tolerate, and will state their opinions to the point that the original poster deletes his post. These are things like secret feeding, etc.

I'm the opposite. I love it when women plan to gain more weight, and buy clothes with extra room to gain.

Don't leave us hanging. Did you get back with her? Did you tell her you like her new size?

Those tests out there are either click bait, or they are trying to get your personal information. If you want to know what kind of feeder or feedee someone is, just ask them.

If she does not want to gain, you should not be feeding her.