It’s great to be up front and honest.....but possibly coming out so direct may or may not be the right approach.

You can start encouraging her in a lovely way to eat more with your dinners out and order desserts for her.
Make sure she is properly given any of her favorite deserts and snacks....while communicating that you like her figure and whole appearance with any of the gains she has had going on. Discuss in mild terms your liking of the fuller figure especially when it relates to her. If she brings up more questions about your liking of Fat....the be sincere and honest but don’t go over board. Hopefully this is a more natural milder progression with getting it across to her with out telling her everything right off the bat.

I love reading your posts....I haven’t been following up much and was wondering if your mind has changed and you are going to have your hubby blow past your original thoughts with his weight gain? Are you having him gain or helping him gain more than you initially intended?

Stuffing!

Once you are really stuffed add milk or milkshakes....you will be surprised how easy it is to still consume heavy liquids while you are so stuffed and can’t eat another bit. If you are adventurous try heavy cream after you are stuffed. Then water to stretch you stomach even more.

If you continue this pattern for a couple weeks ....you will be surprised how much you have stretched your stomach and notice how much more you can eat without getting
full. And after a few more weeks you won’t even have to purposely stuff...you will want and need to be eating that much all the time as if you were stuffing.

You will not only gain a bunch of weight you will create a fattening lifestyle. You will be more tired and exhausted and will crave so much more food it will shock you.

Stuffing, stretching out your stomach and drinking fatty heavy liquids after being stuffed and then water will increase your stomach capacity and make you a bottomless pit. Which we definitely make you FAT!

That is a good feeling...thanks for sharing.

Now to try and discuss more and find out how much he is into weight gain and this fetish

This is a good question.

I am 6’ 2” and my wife is 5’ 3”
I typically have always dated shorter girls from 5’ 1” - 5’ 4”
The tallest girl I dated seriously was 5’ 7”

I lost for a few years....my wife just lost in the last 6 months.

I have been gaining again unintentionally for the last couple months and my wife seems to be following again. I haven't weighed myself but my belly is getting pretty big again and I am eating like a pig.....but that always seems to increase my wife's appetite to.....so all good direction.

My wife and I were both "chubby/Fat" at the same time....and it was the best sex ever.
So yea......it is very very good!

I am sure length of arms, size of belly and being totally stuffed all are factors in this.

[quote]rhcp83:
Has anyone ever spoken to a therapist about this fetish and things associated with it?I�ve been curious about what would be said by a mental health professional.

kaliorexi:
Well, speaking as a former psychology professor and family therapist who has done sex research (and in full disclosure, I went into the field to try to figure out my interest in weight-gain): Having trained many therapists, I would want a therapist to be non-judgmental and ask "what does weight-gain mean to you?" It's important to understand what the meaning of a behavior is for the person doing it, rather than the therapist projecting his or her own issues onto the patient. In a society that fat-shames and assumes fat equals death, it's hard for a therapist to not have "fat is a problem" rushing into their mind.

A psychiatrist I admire once wrote, "what we call a neurosis is the way a patient deals indirectly with his problem." In other words, if the patient deals directly with his problem, he probably doesn't need a therapist.

Just so, if a patient has gained weight because he or she is depressed, that would be a way of dealing indirectly with a problem. Maybe a relationship ended, or a loved one died and food and drink are used to "fill the feeling of emptiness." Then the treatment is to deal with the depression--not the weight-gain.

But tbh, a lot of therapists are not trained to deal with "kinks." If you say you enjoy BDSM, many therapists will not know much about it directly, and may tend to resort to stereotypes. They may feel personally uncomfortable with a kink that isn't theirs. In the field, therapists are very hesitant to be open about their own kinks, for fear of being judged by their peers. There is a concern of those not into BDSM that it's a type of sexual abuse. But for some, BDSM has been a way they have discovered of dealing/controlling their earlier experience of sexual abuse. And for many into BDSM, they aren't there because they had been sexually abused in the past.

So--if a patient/client (insurance--a patient gets meds and a client doesn't) opens up about a kink, the question should be "what does this mean for you?" If the client/patient is unhappy with the kink, then the next step is to explore if there are alternative behaviors that will provide the results engaging in the kink provides. If the client/patient isn't uncomfortable with the kink, then one of the basics of therapy--"you don't fix what's not broken."

If there are health problems due to a weight-gain kink, then that's something else, but again, the treatment should be--if the client/patient feels they need to lose weight that they would prefer to keep--then again, it's exploring alternatives that can provide some of the things the patient/client gets from being bigger.

Over the years of my being in the gainer community, I've encountered individuals who have had unpleasant interactions with therapists over this, and others who felt the therapist provided them a lot of help. As one of the other posters shared--if it's brought up but isn't seen as an issue for the patient, then the therapist should move on to work with the things that are issues.

The only other thing I'd be concerned about since in my practice I mostly saw couples--a kink that isn't shared by a couple can sometimes cause conflict. If that's the issue, then I would expect a good therapist to treat a kink no differently than anything else that causes conflict within a couple.

One theory of this stuff is that it can be thought of as a type of sexual orientation. Just as you can't magically change a gay person into a straight person in therapy, if being a gainer is indeed a type of sexual orientation, then it's unlikely a therapist can "fix a gainer" because, again--there's nothing to fix. This would be where the "patient is dealing directly with a problem." If the individual feels a need to be larger and becomes larger, they aren't dealing indirectly with a problem. If for example, a person enters into a relationship with a dominant feeder, and gains weight only to please the feeder, when gaining isn't the person's kink--then that's a problem because the person is seeking love and approval by the indirect way of gaining. If this was making the gainer upset, then as a therapist, I would want them to examine the nature of their relationship.

For "newbies" it's not uncommon in the gainer community to speak of "civilians"--those that are not into the kink of gaining. It often leads to a problem in dating or staying in a relationship, if gaining for one member is very much like a sexual orientation--the desire to gain isn't going to just "go away." But just as a straight person won't always emotionally understand what it means to be gay, a non-gainer won't fully understand why a partner wants to deliberately gain weight. This would be a situation where a therapist might help, but the problem isn't the gainer--the problem is the

I agree!