It's... maddening at times. Getting "into" it for most of us doesen't honestly sound right, having it present is rarely a choice but embracing it can most certainly being a terrifying prospect at times. Feederism and gaining in particular have a tenancy to push people to want more and more, fatter bodies, more weight gain, the fetish revolving around "growth" doesen't have an endgoal, there is no cap.
Doubly so if you want to have a normal relationship, fall in love with someone and experience neither you nor they dying early, many of us can't fully embrace the fetish and have that. That is not without maintaining our sanity anyways, is almost like having a drug addiction that never goes away. It extends into the question of why don't you just reject it. Well then you face the question of fighting that pang, that desire for whatever aspect draws you in. Sitting atop the mounting lack of satisfaction can feel like trying to pull away from a rubber band, the further you go the more it pulls back.
It does end up looking a bit like a catch 22 but as with most things moderation feels like the best answer. I personally have a proclivity towards feeding bigger girls and wanting them to gain but am in a relationship with the love of my life who I want to see loose weight for her mental and psychical health. My goal is to help her slim down to somewhere in the realm of 240lbs where I can still enjoy her relative plushness and maybe humor the feeder tenancies slightly on occasion but avoid looking fully into the void.
I debated going into a tangent about the problems of actually leaning into it but I think we all understand that honesty. Gaining leads to gaining even in those who aren't into this fetish and our proclivities don't help. It's a verb not an adjective.
3 years
Your looking at things from an entirely wrong angle. People are people, not machines or pictures. A "feeder" isn't just a feeder, its another person whos probably looking for a relationship that at the bare minimum probably includes enjoying your company.
tldr; there is more to a relationship than sex
3 years
NYCBellyBlimp:
Use the time now to get yourself ready.
Control and build your finances. Life Insurance policies can offer less or discriminate based on weight, so get them early (Policies won't ask you about specific ailments but can ask for your weight and if you drink/smoke).
Big Fig mattresses are expensive though there are cheaper alternatives.
Respectable relationship with your doctor/clinic/hospital as getting your vitals checked is important especially if there are genetic factors.
If it's too good to be true, it normally is. Stay guarded and skeptical even around 'experienced feeders'. Those who are not ready/willing to part ways with their sports car, or look like they will die of embarrassment seeing you use disabled transportation are red flags (Some will talk/act a good game as long as there is an 'understanding' that they will return to the smolfat who is more accepted by their friends/family).
They are hard to find but you can save yourself a lot of agony while waiting for the right one. It's hard out there but the right one is worth it.
This is an amazingly responsible answer. The bit about sports cars and whatnot is a fantastic point. It's a really good way to differentiate someone who likes the idea and someone who likes the reality.
3 years
BBWcreator82:
Sure, why not.
Especially if it's a story mod. We got people posting things who don't know how to use the space bar and uh, yeah. I think we can do a whole lot better in that department.
Dear god yes the story section needs help. Reposts and crimes against language galore. That and straight up spam from a few select people.
3 years
I find Male bodies repulsive to the point of borderline gender dysmorphia. Meanwhile I find the feminine form looks even more amazing with curves exaggerated by weight and seeing them grow is a little bit magical feeling.
4 years
I've had a similar experience in regards to being a feeder. I would personally loveeee to feed someone to the 500-600 mark I have a far greater value on a strong emotional bond and I deeply desire to take good care of my significant others mental and physical well being. I'm currently trying to help my girlfriend lose weight from around 320->200 ish ideally even though the deep dark cravings within want to see what she would look like bigger. I keep myself sane in a variety of ways but it's important that you can be genuine with myself. I'm still going to find her hot smaller and my insatiable love for tummies has appreciation for all sizes from flat to waterbed so I can still genuinely adore her tummy but keeping some self awareness and trying to spread out your interests in particular is important. As far as the outside world is concerned I mean well fuck the people lol. You'll find people who will consider you attractive regardless especially if you take care of yourself. It does depend on really deep down how much you care about people who really dont have any deeper thought process than analyzing your weight (who gives a damn what sheep think? ffa or normie what value do their opinions really have?) But if the strife is too much for you than maybe try and find passion somewhere else? And if that doesn't jam with you just try and appraise what this really means to you at heart
Good luck!!! I wish you the best in your soul searching
4 years
I have Asperger's and adhd. Someone mentioned earlier that they thought there were high rates of autism in the community and interestingly at least as far as aspergers goes, there are actually a couple of studies around sexuality in people with it. (I recommend looking it up and reading some of the articles and studies if your interested, multiple sources.) The main takeaway that I noticed was that there was a particularly high rate of sexual deviancy in the studied groups. So it seems to be more of a drawing towards deviancy than a specific love for soft bodies and the like.
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5789215/ this one is interesting. Didn't re read it fully but pointing to repetitive behaviors seems to fit this niche particularly well (more more bigger bigger feed feed)
My brain is a bit garbled at the moment but hopefully this is coherent to a degree.
4 years
