Having moved to barcelona for convenience, my wife has settled in to a new set of friends. She’s one of 3 of the “fat friends” in our kids’ parents group.

Yesterday she mentions she had a burger king.
This is something new. Her “junk food” has always been candy bars, macarons, viennoiserie type pastries like eclairs or the american bear claw etc. Not once since we have known each other (12 years) nor dated (9 years) has she ever strayed toward fast food.

I mentioned my surprise to her that she went to a “junk food” joint and her response was that she thought she’d give it a try as shes a fat girl again.

I honestly didn’t see the link, but trading the forums again I can see a clear skew in diet toward fast food in the English speaking world.

My questions to other members are:

1. Is junk food something you see as part of the gainer/feedee culture?

2. Do you/ your feedee like so called fast food?

3. If you’re not from an Americocentric culture, is there an equivalent? (Do feedees/ generic fat people eat fast food where you come from or is there another common go to)

I ask as my wife has always gained with a mostly gourmandesque diet. Rich, complex food from all over the world but never before have I seen her tuck in to anything from a paper bag of it’s not a bakery pastry. She seems to think this is a natural step in her diet. Is this something that would be generally aren as natural?

Power Lifting and light swimming. Mostly keeps the fat but gives you the strength and flexibility to keep waddling in to the high 600s with ease.

It happens with people of all sizes. If you’re doing the do upright and she falls straight down when you’re rock hard you can do some damage.

The wife did this once, and the flabbiness that shes gained is incredible. As a tactile experience there is nothing quite like it.

Also the regain was really fun.

She lost as she needed surgery to fix a deviated septum which was really affecting her sleep as she got bigger. She enjoyed the whole experience.

Another thing about losing and gaining is it really shows that you’re in control. For my wife she claims it allowed her to show herself that she is fat by choice not because she’s helpless in it which to her is important.

A mix of honesty and enabling.

So Ive been blunt that i find it a turn on when shes a lazy spoiled princess. I help her up, i open all doors and i cook and tidy up. I also set her up when I'm around.

So during the work at home part of the pandemic id get her her laptop, a cream based coffee, sodas in a cooler etc and place them around her.

Pop my head in to the room whenever i was heading to the kitchen to ask if she needed anything and even if it was a no, observe whats low and top it up.

Shes gotten incredibly soft as a result and her ass has started to widen considerably.

She says she loves it too which is a plus. It makes her feel cared for.

Can certainly double most of this. Adding cream in place of milk in coffee and sauces, lots of snacks: add a pastry to every large hot drinks. Have an open bowl of snacks at your desk, next to your sofa, on the bedside table and an open bag of something with you on transport.

Avoid prolonged exercise. If you want to exercise you can keep a healthier heart and stay strong with lifting. A simple (but not ideal) way of looking at gainer/feedee exercise is you should be aching after but not sweating during the exercise.

There is then the potentially controversial use of sugars (maltodextrin) as an insulin driver before meals. It’s not something I personally recommend but there’s a lot of info on it in the forums here.

Anecdotally i can say that when we were getting her from 190 to the big 200 we trialled 1pt heavy cream between 2000 and bed (around 2330) and spread throughout the day.

In all honesty there wasn’t much difference but we have noticed that calorie bombing tends to be calorie wasting ie, once you get in to the swing of taking in 4k+ calories a day over 3-5 large meals plus snacks, then the gain really takes off. Its not so hard to do 1.5kcal a meal plus some bonus calories with cream based drinks.

With a cake shake before bed, if you can sleep afterwords, you’ll likely find a lot ends up literally flushed away the next morning after your am coffee as your body isn’t metabolising it and hence processing it to store.

I guess when health starts to take a nose dive. Fantasy world my SO would be huge but mobile and without significant health issues.

Having sadly lost an ex gf/feedee to ED related suicide I feel I need to speak up here.

Liz was an amazing person, we had a number of similarities that bonded us together. Both being of partial Caribbean heritage food was central to the celebratory side of that half of our families.

She enjoyed eating and being fed. Her family in Guyana we mostly obese, her mother, a nurse married to a senior professor or renal medicine was very chastising toward her.

Before we got together, she swung from obese to overweight repeatedly due to a cycle of being away from home and indulging, then, whilst back from uni at home for summers, resorting to purging (bulimia).

When we moved from being friends to lovers and she was sheltered from scorn, she would ask me to feed her. She was the first person who introduced be to feederism. She got off on the control she had over her own indulgence. And for the 2 years we were together in our early(ish) 20s she was happy. She gained weight, she played and coached basketball, she was up with the sun, drinking less and was far more balanced as (she put it) she was in control of her own aesthetic in a way she found pleasurable.

We went our separate ways as i was committed to my regiment and it was not affording the lifestyle that she wanted (her father’s salary had given her a taste and expectation of a less demure lifestyle than that a junior officer can afford).

At this point she moved back in with her parents and then to an apartment near their home. The pressure on her to loose weight was significant and she began drinking clear spirits and living off salads. She was then pushed in to marrying an older man by her mother as she approached 30 and despite her and I remaining friends and her family indulging when visiting me or her brother, the cost of that loss of control of her “kinks” as some have phrased it, resulted in a downward mental spiral. 26months in to her marriage she chose, in a moment of pain to leave us.

One cannot separate all the parts of a human, our sexuality is a core part of our existence, as is our need for nourishment, air, shelter and a sense of purpose. These and other evolved requirements affect our perception of our environment and therefore our sense of stability and security.

There are elements of humanity in all our interactions.