There are certain words that would indicate it is a work of fantasy. Things like cheerleader, athletic, etc.

I would not have mentioned her size or BBW. If you were both single and available, just paying attention to her and saying hi would have let her know that you either did not mind, or liked her weight. You could have mentioned her smile, or clothing or something else which would also let her know you found her attractive overall. You may give her the impression that you just liked her body (not good for anyone at any weight). If she works at the store, just say hi to her now, and see if there is any interest.

By being on Fantasy Feeder, feederism seems quite normal. But in the real world it is not. Most people do not want to be fat or fatter. You can bring it up to her, but you might upset her or freak her out. Once she knows you want her bigger, she may be more likely to stop any gaining or encouragement.

Bypass surgery is EXTREMELY dangerous. I have known a lot of people who have died from it. I also know others who were permanently disabled from it. If someone suggested surgery to me, it would be like they wished me dead.

Just because someone likes a certain physical trait in the opposite sex does not mean they want it for themselves. Someone can be happy having brown hair but likes blondes. Or a man like women with smooth legs, but be OK with hairy legs on himself. Or like a woman with large breasts but wants no breasts on himself.

I've always liked taller women. 5'9" and above. But they never wanted someone shorter. I'm 5'9". But I enjoyed the women I have been with, not matter what height.

Women in loose clothes making room for gaining. Women in maternity clothes who are not pregnant. Phrases like "This is the biggest I have ever been," "I can't stop gaining weight."

When I search for people, the website automatically puts my name in the search, and since I am also putting in female and new members, it says there are no matches. I can delete my name, but it seems a bit strange.

I absolutely love to see gaining non-pregnant women in maternity clothes.

If you always worry about what people think, then I say no, you should not gain.