Yes....so true...Fat during the sex makes the arousal part of sex for me as well.

Kind of sexy thinking a a huge transformation that is very noticeable in only three weeks.

Maybe I should plan a six month cruise for my wife and I. Any guesses on what she should gain?

One thing that comes to my mind....is when my wife puts on a good 20+ lbs. she seems to live every aspect of her life more care free....not just the extra indulgence eating.....but extra wine, deserts all the time.....sex....she just is more care free with everything in overindulgence. It's a personality change that I really love.

Another one is less hang ups about everything.....she could be wearing the same pair of jeans 20 Lbs. lighter and complain that she is to Fat.....and then still wearing them after the extra 20 Lbs. gained and not complain anymore even though they look incredible uncomfortable with a massive muffin top hanging out a good 6-8" over the low rise waist band digging into all her fat....seems more content and at peace being fatter.....like no worries just let it go and enjoy.

Yes....I think I know what you mean..can you elaborate some of the ways you mentioned above in a specific sense...not just general?

Yea....I think it is pretty much directly related to the Fat fetish itself.

When I gained myself....I started being less interested in watching my wife gain at the time because I was so fixated on my own gaining which was intentional and so much faster with results than my wife. I also....seemed to appreciate a big Fat gut on other men....mostly from an aesthetic standpoint and the interest in Fat itself or visualizing it on me being that big.....and also my primary interest was for my wife to notice, desire or tease me by getting that Fat.

It makes sense that when we like fat on women and really like seeing the changes as they gain weight we would also relate to it on men especially if we have been gaining ourselves intentionally....or not intentionally for that matter.....also like mentioned visualizing ourselves getting that big of a git one day....so I think it kind of makes perfect sense.

Now...if all of sudden you prefer Fat men instead of fat women....there may be a little more to that.....unless you maybe you are turned on by fattening yourself more than you are interested in a Fat woman....i get that.....but there are so many deviations to this fetish....it would be interesting to hear more particulars on this topic.

I hear you! It’s been a roller coaster ride for me with my wife as well. Early on when I told her I wanted her to stop working out so much for us to spend more time together. She said she would gain weight if she did t workout 5 days a week. I told her I wouldn’t mind at all in fact I told her I thought she would look great with some extra weight. Ya I know not the perfect silver tongue...but I was young still. She eventually slowed her workouts and replace that time spending it with me and she would usually be snacking while we watched movies together etc. this became a pattern and she eventually was missing almost all her workouts shortly after....the weight started to pile on. I wa happy as can be....she seems a bit upset but continued to snack and eat all the time. It knowing if she was doing this for me or if it was a regular pattern with her if she had idle time ....she would just eat. I did pay way much attention to her growing figure and comment and say how beautiful she was looking and she would come back similar to your wife....she would say “so what are you saying I am looking really Fat now?” I would say “ no you look Beautiful”.....she would then say “you are strange....I can’t actually believe you like me Fat”.

So ....I get how your wife may be acting.....and it is challenging to deal with. But with the way she eats and does t work out really....she may continue to gain....either way so with your help and time maybe she will be able to start accepting it. Also, is this gain fairly new .....such as in the past year or so? If so.....she may be able to learn to cope better with it over time....because new decent size gains are shocking g and hard to deal with in front of friends, family or people you have not seen in a while. It can get better.....maybe in a few years you will see her much more accepting and have grown much fatter and finally she will appreciate a husband that loves her with all the weight she can’t lose anyway. At that point the scale will only keep rising.

I see your predicament. It's all in the delivery....If you say little things to build her confidence as if she can feel secure no matter what with you....that may help a lot....but she is still at an impressionable age (just saying). Drop hints how Beautiful she is....eventually it will sink in....even if she is stubborn in that dept. I used to think what is so bad....my wife struggled to maintain her chubbier weight and had a husband that would love if she gained and even got Fat....and she loved eating....but couldn't just allow herself to let go....all the time.....but over the years things have changed.

My wife hung around some pretty high profile women and they were always concerned with how thin they were.....she was always the chunkiest for her height.....but also the hottest if you don't mind me saying. Point is ....it was more of a struggle for her back then where she wouldn't gain more than 5-10 extra Lbs. without really trying to take them back off. Time is an amazing thing and the maturity of life, kids & overall importance of such things. Also groups of friends change....my wife stopped hanging around them after kids were into sports and we were driving everywhere and met new groups of friends through these encounters ...obviously family doesn't ...but then again you said they are heavier now as well? My wife with age and maturity has seemed to accept extra weight and not want to deny herself good food, desert or wine for that matter and even if she wanted to put effort in to lose weight.....it would take a heck of a lot more effort than in the old days....which wasn't that easy back then. Also, I have seen several of her friends that I mentioned from way back then and even those thin women have now with age put on some weight and the ones that have not still have that woman of age paunch or little gut....which makes them look worse than if they fattened all over.

So....you have a tall & HEAVY (pun intended) task....but I say with time and soft compliments will get the job done eventually. Do you have kids yet? That is always a pretty good start for them accepting their fatter figure!

[quote]PinkyDear:
Carbs are your friend. They help put on weight and you can add calories to them.
Mashed potatoes
Macaroni and cheese
Bread and butter
Oatmeal
Cereal
Fried potatoes


Yes...carbs for sure.... and mix in sugar as well.... those two will pack the lbs. on pretty good. One tactic to try as well....at the end of the evening after stuffing all day....he will be done with food and eating ....have him drink his calories at the end of the night ...heavy cream, milkshakes or milk many glasses ....this will stretch his stomach and after just a couple weeks of doing this every night ...you both will be surprised about how much more he will be be able to eat ....and in no time be getting fatter.

Well that’s good! So maybe you will get to a point where you are even more confident around your tight friends and you will be ok with it....plus as I said after a while this will become your normal in their eyes and won’t be as much of a shock....even if you gain more. Unless you pack on 50-100 lbs....then they might really notice😂

Time is a crazy thing.....it changes everything.

Weight gain ....is always a little shock for everyone...whether you like it or don't and when it is noticeable it warrants notice. Obviously you have been skinny your whole life....so now that you put on a belly....it is a noticeable difference. In another few months to a year it will become kind of normalcy.....depending on ow good of friends and what type of personalities they have....they may stop teasing altogether because all of a sudden they will just relate the extra weight to "you" not the "new You"....just the "you.

Also, touching on that you are excited to gain more.....well I noticed that once the initial shock of the weight gain and change wears off than even if there is more weight gain.....it seems to be tougher to notice or it was anticipated but not nearly the same reaction as the initial shock by any means.

But keep in mind anyone that has not seen you since the weight gain obviously may have the same shock....people react in different ways....but the thing to remember that just because people react or notice....doesn't mean they don't like it...it is just something different worth noticing or talking about in some cases.