I avoided gaining my entire life in order to be athletic, then I got an auto immune disease and I was bed bound without any of the perks of being fat. Life is gonna suck it up no matter what you do, might as well be horny and happy while it happens
4 years
I'm just still shocked that finding natural body odor sexy is such a taboo. I can't get anyone to admit the smell between fat folds is hot as fuck, or even admit there's a particular kind of smell there at all. I understand it's an especially touchy subject among fat people because of stereotypes. But even among 'normal bodied' people, NO ONE thinks sweat is sexy as fuck. Are we that far removed from our nature that the smell of processed alcohol based chemicals is better than the genetic biological scent of our lovers??? it's sick.
4 years
I've heard of the term 'fatsexual' used before and I feel like it could apply here too.
I'm mostly attracted to women, but when men of a certain weight distribution get to a certain weight, gender doesn't really mean the same things it did before. It's really almost like they were given a sex change operation or something.
4 years
I think the flab you're seeing is the result of years of weight loss and weight gain cycles. New fatties are at their biggest and have never had their skin stretched farther than it currently is. Like a water balloon inflated to its limits. A mature SSBBW/SSBHM though will likely have lost weight several times over the years, which significantly changes the texture, shape, and consistency of fatness and overall the body shape of a person. In fact I've often noticed that there is a window of weight loss where a SSBBW/SSBHM begins to lose weight where she/he appears to be bigger and blobbier and squishier than ever before. You see the same thing with water balloons if you leave them out.
I actually think a lot of inexperienced FA's really miss out on a whole world of new experiences when they worry about their partner losing weight. I once dated a woman who weighed 160 who used to be in SSBBW category, and it was basically like sleeping with a SSBBW who looked like a skinny person when they wore clothes. Very mesmerizing.
Another often unspoken topic is using weight loss as a way to control how you want your body shape to be as you gain weight. My ex gained weight first in her butt, and lost it last in her butt. So she went up to 400, gained everywhere, lost 100 pounds or so, and lost in her belly and face. I'm hoping to use this technique with myself as I've always wanted to gain but want a feminine shape
4 years
I majored in music history and minored in bread history
4 years
Arame:
When I was 10-11 years old in the 5th grade, I had a friend in the 8th grade that was chubby and had started developing breast and a Booty. And my curiosity took over and I wanted to know what her body felt like so she used to let me hug and feel on her. I miss her for real
I don't care how old you are, you never forget your elementary school crush.
4 years
Namaste:
Because its not acceptable by society to find fat bodies beautiful.
Though saying that if you openly admit your a fat admirer in public. Chances are you will be branded a fetishit. So I really keep my fat admiration to fat safe spaces such as fantasy feeder.
Many times by your own partner! I've got a 2 year rule when it comes to kinks and relationships. If we haven't been together for 2 years, and we didn't meet on a feedist website (does that even happen to anyone?) she's probably gonna publicly shame me and call me a psychopathic piece of shit fetishist if I tell her that I think "very, VERY fat" bodies are beautiful and that feedism is a bit more subtle and nuanced in it's path to intimacy than the media portrays it as. On dating sites it's totally fine to say you don't talk to no one under 6 feet, or no fatties allowed, but proudly announce that you openly love larger bodies, and watch how quickly matches dry up in the local dating pool
4 years
Meepmeep:
Location, location, location.
In bigger cities with the fat acceptance movement you have more leeway. I openly tell people I don't mind bigger girls at work and get chuckles. You do have alot of pushback from people who feel it is being forced upon them with billboards and shaming and although it is a small percentage I do see it. If a man in Chicago explain to your average woman here that he rejected a woman even respectfully for just a few too many pounds he is satan incarnate. Can't speak on much more as far as personal experience goes. I was in the closet because people instantly associated my love for bigger girls with the crazies that expect forced gains against their will.
One girl I knew in highschool told people I forced her to gain weight even though I never saw her outside of school to feed her because of family issues. She didn't have a problem with me liking big girls when she was the one I liked. I was respectful of her even when being intimate, never shamed her in either direction. You preferences can be a liability later, like bdsm into domestic abuse. Not saying every claim is fake, nor am I saying it is the vast majority of people just be aware that it does happen.
Oakland CA, and literally any city in the South is a great place to be fat and to love fat. Portland is a piece of shit thou, and basically every city in the PNW, when it comes to plus size acceptance. The whole region is one big Nike commercial
4 years
When I was a kid in Boy Scouts, doing door to door for some lost cause, I remember a vivid fantasy where a witch would open the door, and pull me inside. She chains me up and puts me in this stinky filthy humid swampy room. When the lights on there's this massively fat blob on the bed that I'm next to. I learn it's her son. She puts a body spell on my body and then his, and our bodies get swapped. My life just stolen from me, I am doomed to a life of fatness while her son walks around in my body living a life I'll never have a hope for again
4 years
