allgrownup:
That might be the easiest thing, yes; to just not have this sexual reaction to this. But that's not how life seems to work.
BUt just because you have an urge doesn't mean you have to act on it and with it. That is where your free will comes in.
Is that hard? Sure. Is really liking cocaine but not taking it because you don't like the consequences of physical addiction hard? Absolutely. Because it's hard should you advice your friend to take cocaine anyway? Maybe not.
For me, I find this vice one of the least harmful. I discovered I have it, shared that knowledge with my wife (who isn't into it at all), and am actively enabling my wife to overeat and gain weight. It's a fun hobby, growing your partner while encouraging her to do the very things she doesn't really want to do yet does anyway because it's almost stronger than her.
DaniGirlOH:
Um that's messed up. This sounds like abusive form of feederism and not something someone who took a vow to love someone would do beyond their will and blessing. You need to do some serious reflection and priority-setting.
This. 👆👆👆
5 years
This thread exists due to an absence of an understanding of gender power dynamics. Education is failing men and it is failing women.
5 years
✋️ Newcastle upon Tyne.
5 years
Snake oil. Save your money. This company is lying to you.
5 years
But...why would you want to?
6 years
EvilFeeder:
Now a study matching macronutrients AND micronutrients pls.
ShakesSphere:
Micronutrients have no calories.
I know. They don’t need calories to exert an influence on appetite.
6 years
Now a study matching macronutrients AND micronutrients pls.
6 years
That’s a shame and must be very difficult for her. It’s unsurprising, in light of the prevailing culture and social expectations of appearance, that she’s conflicted. I doubt very much that she’s alone.
The best thing that you can do is to be supportive and to create an environment within your relationship where she feels safe to express her dilemma (it would appear you already have) and also to change path, should she wish. There is much you can do (and, again, no doubt you already do. I don’t wish to patronise) to build her confidence and self-esteem and to help her to see beauty and worth being independent of size.
It’s ultimately going to be about priorities. There may come a time when the social pressure to conform wins over the desire to be desired in the bedroom and, if so, that’s going to be tough on you my friend. If your relationship is a strong one, you’ll survive it. Relationships are built on compromise, after all.
6 years
The punctuation in private messages frequently ends up so messed up that the messages become very hard to read. I think this happens most often when I write them on my iPhone.
For example, when I type "that's", after I hit send, it becomes "that’s".
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6 years
This thread has my name written all over it,
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