My wife's siblings are heavy and she was always the skinny model cheerleader. And since she's gained, there's been whisperings behind the scene along the lines "figured she'd finally plump up like the rest of us" kind of thing.

Laziness/Slothfullness.

But my wife would never perceive it that way. And would take offense to it.

Instead, it's always been "a long day".

I "just feel" like watching movies tonight.
"just don't have the energy to cook tonight, why don't we order ____"
"I just need a minute to sit down" (sits down for 2 hours on her phone)
"I just need a little time to unplug" (watches movies for 4 straight hrs snacking the whole time)
"Do you mind getting me my _____" (anything to avoid getting up)

It's really a night and day difference compared to when she was skinny. And when she does actually clean the house or something active, then the amount of "earned" laziness and stuffing afterwards is amplified even more.

It really became apparent when I was in the kitchen with my wife. Where I could easily stand behind her or walk behind her to get something, now her belly and ass are clearly too big for that and she's constantly bumping into things or myself.

There was a clear "clumsiness" at a certain point in her gain where she would accidentally knock stuff over and was often bumping into the kids or me when in constrained spaces.

My wife tends to gain more in the summer due to all the cookouts, parties and increased drinking, late night neighbor get togethers, sugary summer drinks.

And then that Holidays splurge spike.

My buddy has 4 kids. And his wife gained about 50lbs with each. Was a stick green bean in college and now is huge. And he's so sad and unenthusiastic about it! I think her gain has been glorious.

Melanotan II. It's a tanning drug and researchers immediately discovered that it causes a profound increase in libido in both sexes because the melanocortin receptor also regulates sexual behavior.

It's heavily used in the fitness model, porn, bodybuilding, bikini industries. Provides a totally natural tan with no harmful UV exposure.

I do think there's a prioritization to men, yes. Just read the history of trying to get flibanserin approved by the FDA and the many other female oriented libido drugs, all while male sexual drugs breeze through.

Another example is MT2, a peptide that clearly raises libido in men and women. And as a man, I can walk into any anti-aging/hormone clinic and receive shots. But a woman is forced to buy it on the black market when the side effects are identical for both sexes.

The studies that were mixed were using 1% cream at a dose of 5-10 mg per day. Absorption rate of creams are 10-20% at best. They're crap. The studies with MEN are mixed using creams and there is no debate that test drives male libido. Inject a female with 20mg of test propionate and ask her in 24hrs what she's feeling. It's not subtle. She'll be crawling up the walls within 48hrs.

Small doses of ANY strong androgen will turn a woman's world upside down with lust, particularly DHT and DHT derivatives, more so than testosterone itself (has higher affinity for the androgen receptor). This is why drugs that reduce SHBG all have a side effect of increasing libido because SHBG binds to androgens.

Vice versa, estradiol causes SHBG to skyrocket. This is why estradiol birth control notoriously craters libido.

I dated a number of bikini competitors that took small doses of androgens like Proviron, Stanozolol, Anavar or low dose test. And it was insane what even 5mg of a DHT derivative will do to the female libido. My one ex after two weeks on stanozolol had to wear a pad to work because she was soaking through her pants every day. Perpetually turned on. My other ex had to stop riding her Peloton bike on Proviron because she would orgasm.

The East German Olympic team was forcing its female athletes to take turinabol and the declassified team physician reports show 3 of the girls left the program because they couldn't psychologically handle the libido increase.

There are a ton of drugs that dramatically increase the female libido and the common thread is they all target the androgen or MC4 melanocortin receptors. They'll simply never be FDA approved for long-term use due to the effects on cholesterol, disruption of their cycle, HTPA suppression etc. In the end I still think it's sexist because men are going to any clinic and getting up to 600mg of test injections a week which is WAY harsher on your lipid profile and organs than the female drugs we know about.

^Nice! Sounds super fattening. Sometimes the dips are more calories than the food haha!

All night I hear beep beep of the stove and microwave. Another weekly rotation she'll do are tater tots she piles with shredded cheese and bacon bits. I call it her 'night cap'. Over a pound of tater tots LOL.

I soooo wish we could have another pregnancy. But my sanity is tapped out with the kiddos we got. We've even seriously discussed her being a surrogate. But we opted against because we both think she would gain way too much weight and be a concern for the mother/physician.

I think she could easily put on another 100lbs if she got knocked up again. One can only dream lol.